Hellinger constellations: What is it? (Essence of the Method)

Ivan Vdovin

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In this article I will share my knowledge and experience of the Hellinger constellation method, what it is and why I believe that everyone needs to do a constellation for themselves at least once. And the most important thing is to understand how the hierarchy of our family works. And why do we sometimes live the way we do, even though we could be rich and successful.

What are Hellinger constellations and why is there such resonance?

This type of psychotherapy was invented by Bert Hellinger, born in 1925 (still alive and well in 2021). The method has both fans and critics, everything is as usual. The essence of the method is that the client voices a certain problem of his and the psychologist arranges it in space with the help of substitutes (people or sometimes objects). At this time, the client looks at everything from the outside.

How to perform Hellinger placement yourself?

Is Hellinger placement possible on your own? Yes, of course, this can be done alone, although the emotional effect will not be as strong, but perhaps it will be possible to get to the bottom of the problem. The technique looks like this:

1. You need to clearly formulate your request. At the end, indicate it with the phrase: “At the end of the arrangement, I need to figure out what’s stopping me from doing...”

2. Remember all your relatives, living and long deceased, near and far. Write the names of these people on blank pieces of paper. One name - one leaf.

3. Add to the list other people who played key roles in the life of the family. Also write down the names on separate sheets of paper.

4. Mix all the sheets like a deck of cards, shuffle and lay out the clean side up.

5. Step on the paper squares one by one, listening to the sensations.

6. Mark the sheets with a number and an indicator of sensations on a ten-point scale.

7. At the end of the procedure, compare the results.

8. According to Hellinger's theory, the problem lies in the person whose rating is the lowest.

9. The highest rating of a family member means your energy resource and generic assistance from him.

10. Solving a problem looks like a mental appeal to the person who is the source of the negativity and a request for help.

Sample message text:

“Dear relative (name), our destinies are intertwined and for many years I have not been able to (describe the problem). Now I realize that this happened not because of my will, but because of my obligations to you. I feel respect and gratitude, but I ask you to free me from this burden, it does not belong to me. I will not hate you or experience negative emotions, only love, respect and appreciation. From now on I will find happiness.”

✔️ The Hellinger arrangement method allows you to use an open resource in later life. A piece of paper with his name, a photograph and other relics are used as talismans.

✔️ There are also arrangements according to Hellinger on your own on the figures. To do this, symbolic images of family members in the form of faceless dolls are used. They are placed in the same order as family members when placing with living substitutes. The difference is that the action is carried out independently.

The method combines live performance and playing with pieces of paper. Each of the three types has its own advantages and disadvantages. Preference also depends on character and temperament. Not every person is ready to open up to strangers and publicly look for the root of the problem, exposing the (real and imaginary) sins of their relatives.

Why are constellations viewed negatively?

Fortunately, my first arrangement was with a professional clinical psychologist. And everything went quickly, with an understanding of the situation and a complete release of such a burden from my shoulders that I almost immediately took off from euphoria. This is where my journey of studying constellations began, as a method of working through negative beliefs and scenarios.

Further, naturally, after my arrangement, I participated as a deputy in other studies. Everything was just as successful; it was clear how people shed all the negativity from the past and gain confidence in their current life. Read more about how to change your life.

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But somehow I ended up doing a constellation with completely different people, whose work I had never seen, but judging by the reviews, this is something super-duper and this constellation is a super professional. So, the arrangement lasted 2 hours and the arranger did not achieve the result for the client. That is, the process remained unfinished. I'm wow to be honest. After such arrangements, people write negative reviews and say that this is evil. Of course, these psychologists do not complete the process they have begun. A person's pimple is picked out and not anointed with iodine, but it begins to bleed and make itself felt.

Simply put, to understand whether you need an arrangement, go as a deputy; your problem will not be sorted out, but you will get a good impression of the arranger and you will understand whether you need to go to him. To understand whether the arranger is a good one, just look at the clients and their requests, if people leave satisfied and happy, then everything is in order. You can trust this person with your life.

Hellinger Constellations: General Information

Bert Hellinger formulated certain patterns and laws that lead to negative events and conflicts between colleagues or spouses. The scientist worked for quite a long time on the following questions: “Is there a system that governs relationships?”, “How does conscience (family or personal) influence the life of an individual?”, “How does the adoption of feelings occur?” In fact, these are only a few of Hellinger's many teachings.

Today, the Hellinger method is becoming increasingly popular. With the help of constellations, a huge number of people were able to find the origins of their problems and resolve them. Many practicing psychologists are increasingly using the Hellinger method in their work with individuals, couples or groups.

“Arrangement” is the place of the individual in space. The method itself is similar to playing chess. That is, all participants are assigned a specific role that reflects a subconscious image in a situation that requires elaboration. This may not only be a family problem, but also business failures and team problems.

There are several main types of arrangements, but each involves improvisation and a creative approach:

structural (treatment of drug addiction and alcoholism, getting rid of fears, solving problems at work);
family (resolving family quarrels);
organizational (solving problems in work teams).

What awaits you at the constellations? You will cry like a little girl.

Everyone I saw for the first time at the constellations was crying. I myself cried in front of 20 people. But I didn’t feel any embarrassment or shame because these tears were therapeutic and everything that was stored inside of us came out and we had to relive it, but without pain, but with an understanding of why people hurt and what is the purpose of life in this. Everything goes through pain. But fortunately. This is the psychology of people.

I have a friend who doesn’t believe in all this nonsense and considers it sectarianism. But somehow we decided to go to the constellation, I am a friend and another friend. And my friend has the fate that at the age of 4 he lost his parents in an accident. In general, a friend came with some request related to money and we, as deputies, stepped into the space. And all the deputies, in all roles, just started crying a lot. Everyone was crying. Because there was so much pain that it could no longer be contained.

After the event, he said that he was blown away by what he saw and felt everything on his own skin and how he relieved himself of some pain from which he suffered greatly and could not express it in any way.

How to solve any problem, even if you don’t have the strength to do anything?

Constellations are one of the simplest and most profound methods of problem solving. Both psychological and, for example, diseases.

If you are at a dead end and don’t know where to move, you live like in the movie Groundhog Day and experience pain from life.

The only correct and competent decision is to make an arrangement, understand the problem and solve its root.

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An important point after the arrangement

After the arrangement there is always a slight euphoria and a feeling of love for everything. This is not some sectarian bullshit, it’s just that our psyche is glad to finally get rid of the layer of negativity in which it has lived for the last decades. And in general, after dropping the load, there is a flow of happiness.

But the other side of any psychotherapy in general, no matter the arrangement, no matter how different, is that after draining all the negativity from the past, another will always come out. Our subconscious helps us understand what to pay attention to and therefore, after good work, in most cases another problem arises or mild depression emerges.

Yes, after psychotherapy, after some time, the cleansing processes continue and they manifest themselves as light flows inside the body, pumping out all the negativity. The point is that this can be compared to lifting mud from the bottom of a reservoir. With psychotherapy, we lift a certain load from the bottom of the lake, but the water still raises some of the silt. I hope the analogy is clear.

How many arrangements do you need to make?

Unfortunately, there is no answer to this question. It all depends on your childhood and everything that happened in it. In childhood, we draw everything from the external environment, therefore, the more shit we saw, excuse me, the more shit we carry within ourselves.

And it’s even worse when a child sees scandals between parents and begins to blame himself for everything. The child's psyche is so complex that it blames itself for everything. This is where guilt complexes appear in adult life, which need to be cleaned and removed as thoroughly as possible.

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Personally, I made 20-30 arrangements, to be honest I don’t remember anymore. But I had a strong desire to free myself from all the accumulated negativity in my soul. And I constantly solved my problems and got a kick out of it, and now my hobby has grown into a job and that’s even cooler.

I solved problems with a complex of guilt, shame, resentment, anger, anger. All this was not removed the first time, but the process after installation lasts up to 1.5 years. Or it might work the next day. I also did the arrangement for the car. And I don’t know if it was thanks to this or another, but after 2 weeks I bought myself a 2002 Mini Cooper. Just right for a first car.

System constellations

Opinions about systemic constellations according to Hellinger vary.
Some claim that this is quackery, while other reviews indicate a positive effect. At the moment, there are two directions of system arrangements:

Used in psychology, psychotherapy. They are called classic therapeutic constellations
.
Spiritual practice based on the philosophy of Bert Hellinger. Called free spiritual constellations
.

There are organizational arrangements.
They are carried out in a group of people who are not relatives, but are constantly in contact with each other. This could be a work or educational team. In it, as in the family, various disagreements often occur. Hellinger constellations will help you understand the cause of friction and resolve it. Structural constellations are used to solve financial problems, combat fears, phobias and complexes. Symptom constellations are used for various bodily conditions.

What do other people decide with constellations?

During all this time, I had seen enough of many cases and thought that in my life I was the only one with a star. But no, I was deeply mistaken. I remember a pretty girl came to the constellation with the problem that her father raped her as a child. I was simply blown away. She says that she seemed to have forgiven him, but during the constellations she cried in pain. Strongly. Very much.

But the most interesting thing is that in the process an understanding comes of why the father acted this way and basically this motive is love. Yes, it sounds strange and wild, but love manifests itself in different ways. I'm shocked.

And another interesting case, the psychologist told. Her husband was diagnosed with brain cancer and was already in a coma. It was at this time that she was learning Hellinger constellations. I won’t describe it at length, but they did the arrangement for her husband. The man came out of his coma and continued to live. But he began to have difficulty moving, as the parts of the brain responsible for coordination were affected. But the intellect, thank God, was not affected.

I myself saw him live, an adequate person, with humor. But he had difficulty moving. Although I took the subway myself. I don't know whether to believe it or not, but it is true. I don’t even really believe it myself yet.

What are Hellinger family constellations?

The essence of the family constellation method is based on the close connection of all generations. If one of the ancestors violated the laws of the Family, this led to a crisis in relationships, divorces, serious illnesses, early deaths and other misfortunes not only in his family, but also in subsequent generations. After all, descendants are called upon to finish what their ancestors started - to live through a certain situation to the end, to exhaust the conflict, to worry, to cry... As a result, the fate of a person is closely intertwined with the fate of their ancestors.

The constellation method allows you to unravel this tangle and begin to live your own life - without getting involved in the processes of the past.

In this video, Bert and Sophie Hellinger explain in detail what family constellations are. The recording was made on December 10, 2015 on the TNV channel in the “People's Alarm Clock” program.

Two main problems that the arrangement solves

We are all human and love money, and most importantly we would like there to be more of it, right? And there are also various problems related to money, such as: constant debts, money that always goes somewhere, loans, and it is almost impossible to escape from this. Some force still leads to these problems and there is no end to them.

So, about 5 years ago, I thought about the problem of money and why I didn’t have it, and it disappeared somewhere without even having time to settle in my pocket. Moreover, earlier in my childhood, I remember always saving money and I had enough of it, because I wanted a computer.

But then I came to the constellation with a request for money, and the following picture emerged in my family: there was an ancestor in the family who was close to the state treasury or something similar. He either stole and was afraid that he would be caught, or else they simply stole money from the treasury, and he decided to settle scores with himself using soap and rope. Where does the information about the treasury come from? It’s just that the deputies have a stream of intuitive assumptions, and their sensations become greatly aggravated. In general, after the arrangement I stopped being afraid of big money. And this makes me very happy.

The second strong problem is related to abortion. Children who are born take a lot of energy and attention from both parents and children born after abortions. If a person has such a problem, he cannot live happily, since he constantly wants to save his newly born brother or sister. I had the same problem, I cried a lot. But then came acceptance and the desire to move on.

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Myths about constellations

The most important myth about formations says that deputies take on the role that they assume in formations. As a deputy, I probably took part in 100 arrangements and I can say with confidence that I didn’t attach anything to myself, but on the contrary, I just got rid of everything unnecessary. Don’t believe those who tell you this, just check it for yourself.

Personal conclusions on arrangements

I think this method is effective and has a very positive impact on people’s lives. I don’t know where the negativity is coming from, but most likely it is either unfounded, or on some order. Although again, it all depends on the arrangers and their experience. Fortunately, I fell into the right hands, but I can’t speak for others.

I gained a lot of experience, and most importantly, I gained an even greater understanding of human psychology and the psychology of the species. There is room to grow and strive.

It is also important to understand why you need to do the arrangement yourself. It certainly brings miracles, but it is not a panacea. The most optimal way is to bombard global problems with arrangements, and small ones with already defined techniques, where you can work on yourself. For example, this is what I do, if some kind of problem arises that I cannot solve on my own, I go to the arrangement. I solve all minor problems myself.

In this article, Hellinger constellations, what they are, I described my thoughts about this wonderful process. I’m not an arranger myself, so if I wrote something wrong, just correct it. If you need an experienced arranger, then write, I will recommend those with whom I personally worked.

How do Hellinger constellations work?

How do Hellinger constellations work? Currently, you can find different options for conducting Hellinger constellations, but the general plan for the session looks something like this:

The client formulates a request and describes the problem.
From the group of people who come, those who will play substitute family members are selected. They are chosen by the client himself or the facilitator (psychotherapist). However, the psychologist makes his contribution in any case. He prompts, guides and helps select those family members who, in his opinion, are related to the client’s problem. Participants can be changed during the work process.
All active participants in the arrangement are intuitively located in the workspace. Similar to how those family members now portrayed by these random people are related to the main participant. At the same time, the facilitator recommends that the client not try to analyze the features of the relationship with each of the deputies, but trust his intuition and listen to himself.
Substitutes also surrender to the power of intuition. They try to feel what their heroes felt. These can be images, emotions and feelings, physical sensations. Some feel it more acutely, others weaker - it all depends on the individual’s sensitivity and the degree of his suggestibility.
The facilitator asks participants about their sensations and feelings. Based on this, he draws additional conclusions about the client’s problem and how to help him.
Improvisation continues. The participants either interact with each other themselves or do so according to the instructions of the leader. This takes into account the classic picture of arrangements: children sit or stand in front of mom and dad, spouses next to each other, brothers and sisters line up from right to left from eldest to youngest. A violation in this system indicates problems, and a visual arrangement allows you to understand in what relationships (between whom and whom) the problem exists. You can also understand which family members were once excluded from the system, and what was the reason for this.

The psychology of the arrangement according to Hellinger is as follows: feeling, getting used to the role can occur even in the complete absence of information about the prototype. However, the question remains as to how objective this is. Is the deputy bringing up personal issues? This confuses me, like many other psychologists, very much and makes me doubt the correctness and usefulness of the Hellinger constellation method.

Vdovin Ivan

More than 15 years in psychology
Owner of 2 successful businesses
Developed his own method “Key Therapy”
Certified NLP Practitioner
Certified Hypnotherapist
In practice I use: Gestalt therapy, imagery therapy, body therapy, art therapy, hypnosis, Hellinger constellations
Helped over 100 clients
I invested more than 500,000 rubles in my education
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The essence of the method and difference from other directions

In most cases, clients react with great interest to everything that happens during the arrangement process. Hellinger constellations shed light on many problems of generations of past years and the present. In the practice of working with a client, there are also difficulties, which are often associated with the fact that a person does not trust this method. His perception is sometimes subjective, and his views are very conservative. Rigidity of views and rationality of thinking builds a barrier between a person and the opportunity opening before him to move on to a new, more interesting life. Even the most unbelieving Thomas is capable of believing in the miracles of the arrangement method, as soon as he encounters emotions and experiences and feels it all for himself. Hellinger constellations are capable of captivating a person, revealing new horizons and opportunities for spiritual growth. If every person initially had a clear idea of the method and understood the essence of this direction, it would be easier and more interesting to work. And yet, after the arrangement, every person has a result, regardless of his perception.