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Different things can make a person happy... Probably, there is not even an exact recipe. Everyone should make a list for themselves of what makes them happy. And the list changes frequently! It most likely contains very different things. From small to huge. For example, from world peace to a cup of tea in the rain.
Of course, everyone wants health. Without it, everything else loses its meaning. You can't enjoy a trip, a car, or chocolate when your stomach hurts. It is important to be healthy, not to destroy your body with various, even pleasant, things, for example, too much chocolate or burgers. Here psychological health is even more important! A troubled conscience will not allow you to enjoy even excellent health.
Good relationships with family and loved ones are important. It's good if you have friends and colleagues. A favorite job, an interesting hobby, a sport are important! Communication with nature, pets. A place where you want to return. Movies that are fun to watch...
And it’s full of individual “tricks”. Someone needs to meet the dawn, enjoy the silence in the house. For some, look at the stars. Who should take a dip in the ice hole, and who should sunbathe.
The main thing is not to forget about your own happiness. If it’s something global, then remind yourself, for example, I’m helping people. Even though sometimes it’s hard for me, for example, with patients, but people are different, and I still help them. If it's something small, don't forget to please yourself sometimes. For example, go for walks in the forest if you like it. You won’t last long on “global” happiness alone. When you need to constantly endure, deprive yourself of small happiness for the sake of big! Do you doubt whether you need a big one?
Sometimes a person has a dream, the path to it and its fulfillment makes him happy. Not only the New Year itself, but also the anticipation of it is pleasant, the preparation...
And I also heard that it is difficult to make a person happy. When everything is there and everything seems to be good, for some reason a person does not feel happy. But even the war, everything is terrible, but at some point a person felt happiness, I looked at the ray of the Sun. That is, happiness is so unpredictable... But you still need to try to be happy and make others so, because this brings more happiness! Seeing the happiness of another, realizing that you are almost a magician is wonderful.
What makes a person happy or unhappy
Happiness is a subjective feeling. Its basis is confidence in the correctness of the Path. If you look in detail, it includes the ability to have fun, the joy of being able to realize your plans, trust, optimism and other positive emotions.
There is a false idea that a happy person is free from pain and grief. Happiness does not need to be understood as a completed state. It is rather a direction, a style of inner life.
The unfortunate person, on the contrary, is unable to receive pleasure, is separated from himself, lives from a false, imaginary self. Usually he dreams of fame and wealth that will make him more content and compensate for the pain.
What does it mean to be happy?
Since ancient times, people have been worried about what happiness is and what it means to be happy? Many sages and philosophers are trying to understand the essence of happiness, but everyone interprets this concept in their own way.
What does it mean to be happy? This can be explained not only by the fact that the term “happiness” is a complex psychosocial phenomenon, but also by the fact that it has different meanings.
Everyone perceives happiness in their own way (for some, knowledge, money or pleasure can be the same thing).
What does it mean to be a happy person? Happiness is like a dream, an ideal of struggle. However, a dream is a clear goal that a person must achieve, and happiness is the state of achieving a dream.
Happiness is not only a characteristic of a person’s psychological and emotional state, but also gives an idea of what he looks like and what he needs to fight for.
Consequently, happiness can receive normative value characteristics.
What does it mean to be happy? In various philosophical movements there are different interpretations of the concept of happiness: in doctrinalism, happiness is the possession of the highest degree; happiness is the possession of the highest degree.
Moralists say that happiness is moral behavior; Schopenhauer saw happiness without suffering. Psychologists say that happiness is complete satisfaction with life.
What does it mean to be happy in a nutshell?
What is happiness in simple words. Happiness is not money, not a position, or even a failed relationship with a loved one. Anyone who calls a rich or successful person happy is making a huge mistake.
After all, only he himself can determine whether a person is happy or not.
Each of us wants to get an answer to the question of what it means to be happy. To be happy, you need to achieve your own satisfaction with your life, a positive assessment of the conditions of your life.
This is a state in which a person feels completeness, meaningfulness of his life, realizes his purpose and successfully fulfills it.
In other words, if a person is satisfied with the way he lives, he can call himself happy. And what makes him so is not wealth or achievements, but only his attitude towards himself and the world around him.
History knows many examples when people who achieved unprecedented heights considered themselves deeply unhappy. And vice versa, a homeless person who is completely satisfied with his way of life and his life can be happy.
Is it possible to be happy all the time?
What does it mean to be happy definition. Let's turn to the biochemistry of the brain and emotions. Any of our emotions are neuropeptides, the synthesis of neurons. All emotions carry one hormone or another.
For example, anger is a complex of various hormones. When we experience certain emotions, these hormones increase in our body.
Therefore, any emotion is a state of our hormonal history. And this cannot be permanent. Just like we can't stay awake or running all the time, we can't always fall into the same emotions.
Therefore, from a biochemical point of view, happiness is impossible, but you can learn to feel and understand any emotions. In this case, even the most negative emotions will play a necessary role in our body and maintain a state of happiness.
What makes us unhappy
When a person attributes the fruits of his actions and events that happened to him to external causes, this is an external (external) locus of control.
What can make a person happy
Achieving the goal
Almost all of us can, if we try, from the experience of our lives, remember one or another moment in time when we achieved a task or goal.
For example, the goal was to graduate (either well or excellently) from school or college. And now, finally, the time has come to receive a diploma. If studying was really difficult and the goal itself was important, then the moment of realizing that you have finally achieved and achieved an important goal in your life leads us to a feeling of happiness (to a certain extent and for a while).
Not all goals are equally important to people.
For athletes, this can be the achievement of a goal or a specific task: to take a prize or become the best (in something, among someone). See how happy the athletes who won first place in the competition are? They definitely feel a great sense of happiness! True, some of them cry at the same time. Why are they crying? After all, they laugh from joy, but cry from grief, pain and misfortune? They cry because years of effort, pain and trauma in the process of achieving their goal “resurfaced” in their memory. Our brain perceives everything in comparison. And when, at the moment of awarding an athlete, his brain (“biocomputer”) compares, on the one hand, the prize place, and on the other hand, the years of effort expended, pain and injuries, then if the second (pain, injuries...) outweighs feeling of victory or achieved goal, the athlete may cry. Sport is a very serious thing. A person invests his life in sports. And he wants to get no less.
Who else can get a FEELING OF HAPPINESS?
Those who are “addicted” to a computer game addiction will be able to remember those moments of their “gaming life” when, with great difficulty and effort, they finally passed the next level of a computer game. Or completed all levels of the game. If the player has been going towards this goal for long enough, then at the moment of achieving it he can experience a very strong feeling of happiness . This is joy, positive emotions, a high level of positive feelings from life and a “cocktail” of “happiness hormones” in the blood. This is what gets a person addicted to computer games. That is, in essence, a person playing a computer game, achieving a certain goal , receives a feeling of happiness.
Or, for example, you support your favorite sports team or national team in some sport. Achieving the ultimate goal is defeating your opponent. And at the moment when it becomes clear that the goal has been achieved (the team has won), you can experience a very great feeling of happiness! (look at the fans of the winning team). Almost each of us could probably experience this feeling or observe how serious, “professional” fans feel it.
Other possible moments in time when a person can feel happiness.
For example, a young man loves a girl very much and asked her to marry him. And the girl answered him with consent! In this case, the young man will experience a very great feeling of happiness (in proportion to the strength of his love). He had a serious goal: he wanted to achieve reciprocity from his beloved girl. And at the moment of achieving his goal (key phrase) , when she agreed with him, he received a great feeling of happiness!
Something similar may happen in the following case. Let's say you were faced with a task - to do a large and complex job, to complete a project (no matter in what direction). And you, having spent a lot of time and effort, perhaps money, on this work, finally did it, completed this complex and difficult work (or project). At the moment of ACHIEVEMENT OF YOUR SET GOAL, you can also be in a state of happiness. And the more complex and difficult the task (goal or work completed), the higher the level of happiness you will experience as a result of its completion!
Let's make an intermediate conclusion:
A person may experience a feeling of happiness at the moment of ACHIEVEMENT OF A CERTAIN GOAL or COMPLETION OF A COMPLEX WORK OR TASK (which is also the achievement of a certain goal).
Solution
Probably, each of us has had to solve problems and difficulties that arise periodically in our lives. This can happen already from childhood.
For example, a child received a “two” or “three” (if this is a low grade for him). And if you were brought up in strictness, then you could be severely scolded for a bad grade. This can become a big psychological problem for a child (and for some, a physical one, if physical punishment was present in the upbringing). You come home. But your parents, having learned about the bad grade, did not scold you! But they just scolded him a little. Problem solved!! At this moment, the child may feel a very great surge of joy and even happiness of getting rid of the real problem of punishment!
Or you may have been in greater danger as an adult. For example, being expelled from an educational institution. Or at work you could cause the disruption of a very important task or project. Or, for example, you could be accused of some serious offense. Or you may have lost and are looking for that desperately needed item. And at the moment when the problem is solved, you can experience a feeling of great relief, which is comparable in strength to the feeling of real happiness !!
Problem solved! You begin to see life differently, observe everything in a bright light, feel lightness in everything, be able to live and enjoy life WITHOUT a past, already solved serious problem. And the more serious and dangerous the problem you solve, the proportionally greater the feeling of happiness you experience at the moment of solving it.
Similar moments of happiness (more short-term) can be felt by a person who is very thirsty. But for some reason, water is not available to him for some time. And at the moment of the long-awaited quenching of thirst, he solves the problem of thirst, which distracted almost all of his attention. Now, in a matter of seconds, all the analytical capabilities of the brain were freed from scanning the already solved problem of quenching thirst and returned to his disposal. It is this moment that causes, albeit short-term, but quite a strong feeling of happiness (quenching thirst). Subsequently, the feeling of euphoria decreases, as the analytical energy of the brain begins to be spent again on pressing issues and problems.
The problem could be absolutely anything. This could be a complex medical operation that your loved one must undergo, the birth of a loved one, a problem in the form of a monetary debt (debt) that urgently needs to be paid off or “paid off,” or something else, but very important in your life! And the moment you find out that the problem has been solved, you will be in a state of happiness for a certain time!
During the victory in the Great Patriotic War in 1945, people were also very happy when they heard the news about the end of the war. The reason for their happiness was that a VERY BIG PROBLEM had been SOLVED, namely: victory in the great war! Despite this, many cried at the same time, remembering the grief and losses suffered in this war. But the feeling of happiness ITSELF was enormous!
CONCLUSION:
a person can experience a feeling of happiness from SOLVING a PROBLEM of a different nature. But unlike the feeling of happiness when ACHIEVING A GOAL , negative emotions from past experiences from this problem will be added to this feeling of happiness.
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