How to behave to please a man
Is your personal life not going well because men simply don’t pay attention to you? But at the same time, you notice that other representatives of the fairer sex have no end to their gentlemen. Even though they don’t seem to make any effort to please you. At the same time, not everyone is a beauty, and some also have problems with their figure. What is their secret? To interest a young man, you need to behave in a certain way, develop special knowledge and skills. To do this, let’s turn to the advice of psychologists on how to please a man:
- The girl’s delightful appearance will itself attract men’s gaze. It is important to keep this appearance in perfect order and constantly improve it. After all, there are no ugly women. There are lazy people who don’t want to take care of themselves. Some motivate this by the fact that “let them love me for who I am,” “and if I change something about myself, he will love beauty, not my soul.” Of course, this is the choice of every young lady. But then you shouldn’t complain that guys don’t pay attention. And improving your appearance does not mean immediately running to a plastic surgeon under the knife. It’s enough just to take care of yourself, keep your skin and figure in order, go to the dentist on time, be clean and tidy. And not with greasy hair with undyed roots, the smell of sweat and exposed fatty deposits. Carefully choose outfits for meetings with representatives of the stronger half of humanity. To please a man, it is enough to dress stylishly and seductively in order to radiate as much femininity and elegance as possible. But at the same time, you don’t need to show off all your charms. There should be only a slight hint of them in clothing: a small neckline or an unbuttoned top button, a slit on the skirt showing a small part of a slender leg, heels that emphasize your grace. And don't forget to watch your gait. You cannot slouch, walk widely, or wave your arms. Movements should be smooth and airy.
- Men are drawn to positive, cheerful girls with a good sense of humor, with whom you can feel and communicate easily and carefree. Therefore, in the presence of guys, radiate a smile and a radiant look instead of frowning and grumbling about your failed personal life. And under no circumstances should you create scandals and hysterics in front of a young man.
- Sincerity and naturalness with an element of naivety attracts representatives of the stronger sex to a woman. Therefore, when communicating with a man, you should not present yourself as an omnipotent lady, ready to throw yourself into fire and water, thus refuting your belonging to the weaker sex. In the eyes of guys, you need to look like a fragile, defenseless girl who needs attention and care. But this must be done sincerely, without undue pretense. This is not easy for everyone; perhaps you first need to learn a little how to be a woman, and then attract attention to yourself from the stronger sex.
- Learn to combine openness and mystery. Be sincerely interested in the young man’s hobbies, his affairs and achievements. Praise him, causing pleasant emotions. But when talking about yourself, you shouldn’t put everything on display. Keep the secret, let the man study you little by little, gradually revealing new episodes of your nature. This activates his conqueror's instinct.
- Constantly engage in self-development. Stupid young ladies are only suitable for fleeting hobbies, and only if they are beauties. For a serious relationship, a man chooses an intelligent, educated partner, with whom he will not be bored and will not be ashamed to appear in society.
If you follow these simple rules, you can easily arouse sympathy from the opposite sex and start a relationship in the future.
Unusual things that men like3
If a girl wants to arm herself with all possible means to seduce a guy, then knowing what shortcomings drive her crazy won’t hurt either. According to family psychologist Elena Kuznetsova, you can use:
- When a woman plays with his hair. Many men love a head massage and it is very relaxing.
- Message and calls. What is meant here is not obsessive stalking through gadgets, but hints that a man is attracted to a woman.
- Messy hairstyle. It turns out that a careless mop of hair on the head subtly invites a man to play pranks and cause even more chaos. On the contrary, high styled hair repels them.
- No makeup. According to surveys, most men prefer girls “without a layer of plaster.” Natural beauty, sparkling eyes and a satisfied woman look much cooler.
- Sweat and smell affect a man's sexual attraction.
- Barefoot woman. The image of a girl without shoes seems touching and defenseless to men; they love to admire women’s legs. It is important to have a beautiful pedicure.
- A man likes it when a woman rests her head on him. Most guys love it when a girl lies on his chest and shows him her trust, he feels like her protector.
- Round belly. By nature, a woman should be round in shape, so a small belly is attractive.
- Morning stretches, when a woman sticks out her chest, you can’t help but like it.
- Healthy appetite. The girl is happy to keep company at the table, even if she limits herself to some products, she does not show her dissatisfaction.
How to please men - psychology gives a lot of tips that will help a woman first of all like herself, and treat a guy the same way as she treats her beloved. Then the opposite sex will definitely like her.
Margarita Lopukhova
Expert
Family psychologist. For 8 years I have been saving “family units” from disintegration. I help couples find love and understanding again.
All of the listed tips on how to attract the man you like will work until winning a partner becomes a goal for you. There is no need to make a cult out of the search for a man - it has not ended well yet. A huge number of women are ready to marry the first person they meet just to get the coveted stamp in their passport! And how many girls are looking for boyfriends just to amaze their friends or those around them. All this is a fundamentally incorrect perception. Relationships should not be a goal, but a pleasant bonus. As soon as you stop looking for them, they will find you themselves. And at the most unexpected moment.
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We tried to find for each of you only the most valuable and relevant information on this topic. And in conclusion, we offer one more unusual fact. Did any of you know that when we look at the one we love, approximately the same thing happens to our body as during extreme entertainment - skydiving, kayaking down the river or riding a fast motorcycle? Adrenaline is released, which contributes to the appearance of the famous “butterflies in the stomach.” At this very moment we are sure that we are ready to move mountains. In fact, this is the case, the most important thing is not to stop and believe in yourself!
How to behave on a first date to get a man to like you
The first date is a very important moment for a woman. After all, the impression you make on your gentleman can change your whole life. You can either make a young man fall in love with you, or push him away forever with your appearance and behavior. Therefore, you need to take this event seriously. Let's consider the basic rules on how to behave in order to please a man on the first date:
- The first thing to remember is that people are greeted by their clothes. The choice of outfit, makeup, and hairstyle will depend on the meeting place. Naturally, you won’t go to a restaurant in a tracksuit and a ponytail, and to the cinema, zoo or attractions - in an evening dress with bright makeup. Therefore, think carefully about your appearance. You should look brand new, but not too pretentious so as not to scare off your gentleman. Regardless of the situation, you need to be natural. Clothes should hide flaws and highlight advantages. Choose a comfortable outfit so as not to feel discomfort, because the situation is already quite tense. It will be awkward to be distracted by constantly adjusting or tugging at something on yourself.
- You need to be confident and relaxed. After all, if a man invites you, it means that you arouse a certain sympathy in him. And then it's up to you. If you are constantly nervous, stiff, and fussing, this, in turn, will cause tension and dissatisfaction with the situation in your partner. Therefore, put aside your worries and enjoy the meeting.
- Don't stop telling different stories about yourself. Listen to your partner more, nod to him, smile, laugh at his jokes. Tell a couple of funny stories with humor that do not compromise you or put you in a bad light. There is no need to bring up the topic of ex-partners on the first date, as details can cause tension and hostility.
- Don't be intrusive and don't turn the conversation into outright flirting. A couple of modest compliments addressed to him, a languid but at the same time modest look from under his eyelashes, a soft smile will do the trick and will definitely arouse the young man’s interest.
- To please a man, you need to show your interest. Listen carefully to what he says, ask questions about his plans, interests, hobbies. Find out where he likes to go, what places he wants to visit. Share your opinion and offer competent assistance. This will give rise to other meetings.
- Praise the place he chose for your meeting (even if it does not evoke a storm of positive emotions in you). Do not show dissatisfaction or other negative emotions - this will push your partner away. Guys like positive girls, not grumpy bitches.
If during a date you realized that you don’t like this man, and you feel so uncomfortable in his presence that you want to run away, show respect and patience. You shouldn’t immediately reject him, criticize him, or be rude. Spend some time with your interlocutor, and then agree on urgent matters. A sudden call on your phone would be a good reason. In any case, look at the situation realistically, without inventing a prince on a white horse.
Behavioral tactics depending on the type of man
General advice and recommendations from psychologists relate to the main mistakes women make. In an attempt to please him so that he can love him, girls resort to hackneyed methods when an individual approach is needed.
There are universal recommendations that work with all types of men:
- You can’t focus on the gentleman’s shortcomings. Sometimes there is a temptation to show off your intelligence, beauty and erudition, unwittingly humiliating your companion. Absolutely all people have disadvantages, but it is important for a man to feel special and strong.
- Even at the beginning of a relationship, you need to give more without demanding anything in return. If a guy receives pleasant emotions, positive communication, support, he will want to return everything a hundredfold.
- You shouldn't idealize a man. It is very easy to become attached to a loved one, but you should also have time for yourself.
Guys perceive emotional speech painfully, so it is advisable to communicate with all men with restraint and calmly.
Intellectual
Communication will be useful for a girl who wants to develop as a person. In a conversation with an intelligent man, you need to be able to support any topic. A sense of humor or healthy self-irony wouldn't hurt. There is no need to be afraid to ask and clarify misunderstood points in the dialogue - men love to explain and feel on top. It is useful to sign up for courses, trainings, and read more to give ideas for conversations.
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Much older
Pretense will immediately work against the girl, since an adult man is wise with experience and instantly recognizes falsehood. If he paid attention to the chosen one, he needs to determine what exactly attracted him to her. The gentleman, who is older in age, is looking for a serious relationship and an equal partnership in the union. There are situations when a man wants to unwind, dreams of new sensations. Adult companions value naturalness, good manners and good manners.
The first handsome guy at school
You will have to try very hard to please the cool guy, since he is used to being the center of attention. The handsome man is basking in the rays of glory, and fans lined up, showering the gentleman with compliments. There are several tactics to attract attention:
- Ignoring the popular guy. A cold attitude towards himself will certainly hurt the handsome man - he will do everything possible to achieve the favor of the “snow queen”. The male ego will not tolerate indifference, but psychologists warn of dire consequences. The guy is so used to having all the girls fall at his feet that he will start conquering just “for show.” Having won, he will triumphantly walk further along the red carpet of rose petals, kindly provided by an army of fans.
- Common interests. A guy's outward arrogance can turn out to be a protective mask, under which hides a sensitive, vulnerable person. To get closer, you can find common ground in the form of hobbies. Conversations on general topics will be the start of a romantic relationship.
- Exotic hobby. Originality is the shortest path. Usually girls choose quiet feminine hobbies, so there is a chance to distinguish themselves and stand out.
To emphasize individuality, you don’t have to limit yourself to an exclusive hobby. A special style with impeccable taste, volunteer work, a goal, a way of thinking and even a state of mind - at least something should distinguish a girl from her peers.
If he's rich
It is better to immediately discard the thought of winning the life lottery, since successful and wealthy people know how to count money. They earn their fortune through hard work, even if we are talking about high mental abilities or the ability to properly organize a business. Psychologists advise finding out about the hobbies of a rich guy so that at the dating stage you can start a casual conversation.
It is important to demonstrate independence and autonomy so that he does not mistake the girl for a financial hunter. The ability to spend money wisely is a significant trump card in the eyes of a wealthy man. On dates, you need to be modest, not show off when ordering food, and not demand expensive gifts.
In love with someone else
A twofold situation in which it is better to retreat. You need to think carefully about the ethicality of ways to attract attention to yourself if he loves someone else very much. Breaking up someone else's relationship does not guarantee personal happiness, even if the rival is not a very good person. It is likely that she is cheating on him or deceiving him in some other way, but the girl who opened the guy’s eyes will always be to blame. You can become his friend, support him in everything, waiting for the climax of the romantic relationship and the ending. It is useless to tell a guy in love about his passion - he will zealously defend her and stop communicating with the gossip.
Quiet
Some girls find it easy to turn a modest guy's head. They are sure that a lack of female attention is a direct path to the heart of a quiet person. Lack of experience communicating with girls will scare off an indecisive man, who may think that they are trying to play a joke on him. You need to act carefully and tactfully, because quiet people are very touchy and vulnerable. You'll have to be patient - shy guys don't immediately let you into their social circle, preferring not to trust new acquaintances.
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Shy people are excellent visual learners who know how to “read” information from a person. He will immediately evaluate the fan’s appearance and determine his compatibility with her. A girl will not be suitable if:
- Reminds me of Alyonushka from a folk tale: her hair is tied up, her clothes are tightly closed. Aggressive inaccessibility will not please the quiet one at all, since he will not want to take this fortress by starvation or onslaught.
- Has a catchy and bright appearance. The modest man sees a calmer lady next to him.
- She is a member of an informal movement, which is reflected in her appearance. Even a normal guy will be put off by a multi-colored mohawk and black lips, but a shy nerd will be shocked by his gloomy appearance.
The style should be discreet - a classic image, taste, well-groomed. A girl should not stand out too much from the crowd, since the inner world is much more important for a quiet person.
Advice from men for women who want to please
Who, if not a man, can give good advice on how to please the stronger sex. Let's consider the position of young people knowledgeable on this issue:
- A girl should be feminine and charming. This should be manifested in appearance, character, and behavior. She must wear skirts, dresses, stockings, and heels more often. And try to get rid of trousers and robes. It should attract with a weightless gait, a charming smile, a gentle gaze, and modesty. At the same time, there can be no rudeness or vulgarity in it.
- If a young lady wants to achieve the attention of the opposite sex, she must initially respect and love herself. You need to be proud, confident in your attractiveness and uniqueness, instead of selflessly pursuing a man by all means. So that the gentleman feels like a knight who conquers the heart of the lady he likes.
- A girl must maintain a sense of proportion. This corresponds to discerning people who understand when it’s time to call it a day in communication, not to intrude, show modesty, and not to worry or irritate a guy over trifles.
- And most importantly, a woman should just be in this universe and wait for her man. Because each representative of the stronger sex is destined by fate to have his own soul mate.
Mistakes a woman should avoid when trying to please her
Sometimes a girl, wanting to please a guy, goes too far in her efforts to attract attention and makes unforgivable mistakes. Of course, you can’t be perfect in everything, but it’s simply necessary to take some points into account. Let's look at typical mistakes that a woman should avoid if she wants to please a man:
- There is no need to pretend to be a snow queen, unapproachable and cold, who pretends that no man is worthy of her. In this way, you can not increase your worth, but simply alienate all male representatives.
- And, on the contrary, you cannot be too intrusive and not give your chosen one a pass. You shouldn’t call and write to him endlessly. The man is a hunter. He should have an incentive to pursue the girl.
- You need to pay attention to how to talk to a man in order to please him. A lady should not use obscene language or parasitic words in her speech. When talking, you should not gesticulate heavily, laugh vulgarly or raise your voice. Young ladies often break this rule, especially if they are nervous and want to be “on the board.” Although, perhaps, a certain contingent of men may like this behavior. But do you need a person who belongs to this category?
- If you are wondering how to please an adult married man, then you better think carefully about why you need this. You shouldn’t take it upon yourself and destroy your family, established relationships for the sake of your own interests or a passing hobby.
Take these points into account and try to avoid them in your relationships with young people. And then their attention to you will increase.