Let's talk about domestic violence. Do you also think that the expression “hitting means loving” is correct and makes sense?! No, you definitely need to do something in this situation. Initially, you need to understand whether it is possible to preserve family relationships.
Can a woman forgive everything and not remember the offender all the pain that he brought her with beatings? Often, in order to understand everything, it is necessary to seek the help of a family psychologist who specializes in these issues.
What to do if a husband beats his wife?
If nothing could be resolved, everything has gone too far, then of course heavy artillery is needed with shots right on target:
- Reporting beatings to the police as soon as possible after the incident, because abrasions and bruises heal, which means evidence of harm to health disappears
- We receive a referral for examination and determine the extent of the beatings. It is possible that we will talk about more serious consequences, because the female body is weaker, male aggression is destructive in impulse
- We demand administrative, criminal, civil liability, compensation for moral damage, and punishment of the perpetrator.
Revenge ideas
If, after all, the spouse decides to take revenge on the traitor, then this must be done immediately. Whether it is worth punishing his mistress, the deceived lady needs to decide for herself, taking into account how much she is to blame for her husband’s infidelity. It must be taken into account that the man’s new passion did not make any promises to his soulmate, and he himself is obliged to remain faithful.
When choosing a way to annoy a guy, you need to remember that not all methods go unpunished, because your loved one may well write a statement to the police about missing things or damage to property. Before resorting to drastic measures, it is worth thinking carefully about everything.
Damage to property
For a guy, the most valuable thing is his car. Caring for him is carried out with more care than for his own wife. The man gets angry when the car door is slammed and buys various gadgets and new parts for it, not paying attention to the cost. You can play on this. There are often pictures on social networks showing cars scratched by a nail or covered in obscene words. Some cars have an ax stuck in the hood or windshield.
You can buy several cans of paint in different shades and write on the car everything that the girl thinks about her husband’s actions. In this case, it is not necessary to choose expressions, because the culprit of the situation is the guy, not the lady. It's also a good idea to get your tires punctured. If you can’t do this yourself, a hammer and knife will help.
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But it is worth considering that such revenge will attract the attention of law enforcement agencies. This method is used by brave and desperate young ladies. If a woman is sure that after her action the man will not write a statement to the police, then she can safely proceed to action. But it is better to leave such cruel revenge as a last resort.
Non-standard orientation
There is nothing worse for a guy than wounded pride, so you can punish him by ensuring the glory of a hero-lover who doesn’t mind spending a hot night in the arms of a representative of the same sex. To do this, you need to print posters, leaflets and business cards with announcements that an experienced man in full bloom guarantees an unforgettable night for a young handsome guy for a low fee.
The finished advertisements must be placed under the windshield wipers on the cars of the traitor’s colleagues and friends. They, not knowing all the details of the current situation, will come up with a couple of cruel nicknames for the man. The method is aggressive, but the guy will look like a laughing stock in the eyes of others for a long time.
Public view
If the decision to divorce is final and there is no chance of reconciliation, then this method of teaching an unfaithful spouse a lesson will be very good. Many advertising companies provide services for the production and placement of large-format banners, which are attached to large stands along the roads. You need to order a poster with an enlarged photo of the guy, where you can describe his action in detail.
It is better to choose a place for the banner near his work, so that everyone who knows the man will know about his unseemly act. You won’t have to wait long for the results of such advertising. The young man will hide his eyes from others for a long time, and all his acquaintances will begin to consider him an inveterate cheater. To achieve greater effect, it is advisable to place posters in several places - near work and at home.
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Social networks like Odnoklassniki, VKontakte or Facebook are perfect for anti-advertising. All that is required for this is the Photoshop program, with the help of which extravagant details are added to the husband’s photo. After this, the photo is posted on the wall of the deceived wife and sent to all his friends. The method has a stunning effect if the young lady is not afraid of being at the center of a scandal.
Items on sale
When breaking up, psychologists recommend getting rid of all the things of former partners that remind you of a failed relationship. Nothing should even hint at the existence of a cheater. You need to collect everything that belongs to your unfaithful spouse: expensive shoes, watches, perfume and eau de toilette, not forgetting especially expensive things such as gifts from friends and various awards. Then you should take pictures of each item individually and organize an online sale on your social network page. There is no need to overprice.
The main goal of the event is to get rid of all your husband’s things as soon as possible.
If a woman is not an active Internet user, you can use the services of a consignment store. There they will buy everything from her at once. When a lady doesn’t want to bother with selling goods for a long time, they can simply be thrown away or given away for free. It is better to temporarily hide especially valuable things with friends.
Retaliatory betrayal
Men are not given the opportunity to understand how much they hurt their spouse by cheating on her until such a situation affects them themselves. This method is suitable for women who can assuage remorse and find the courage to do so. The essence of the method is simple - you need to change in response. It is better to choose for this purpose not a stranger, but one of your spouse’s close friends or superiors.
You should have fun, and then let your husband find out about the event that happened. He will undoubtedly be furious, but it is worth remembering that after this the marriage will no longer be able to be saved.
You don't even have to have sex with another man. It is enough that he falls in love with the deceived girl and spends his free time with her. Beautiful clothes and bright makeup will make your husband jealous.
When choosing this method, you should not immediately tell the guy about who the lady spends the evenings with. The method is cynical, but for the sake of sweet revenge you can do something else.
Laxative to the rescue
There are times when a husband does not want to admit to betrayal, even if his wife already knows about everything. It's easy to teach a guy a lesson for cheating and force him to tell the truth. To do this, a woman needs to purchase a strong liquid laxative in advance at the pharmacy, and then tell her husband that she wants to have a fun party.
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After all the guests have gathered at the couple’s home, you should be polite and cheerful and serve your husband all the dishes he asks for. It will take no more than half an hour to play the diligent spouse, after which you can begin active actions. After reading the instructions for the laxative, you should increase the required dosage by 2-3 times and mix it into your spouse’s food or drink. Waiting time is no more than an hour. The guy will often start leaving the table, which will make the guests laugh a lot.
There is another option for revenge. You need to give the man a drink of water with a laxative before he leaves for his mistress. The next date will be the best of his life.
Meeting the Enemy
This method is suitable for a lady if she knows who her husband’s mistress is. Having gained patience and calmed down, the wife needs to find an approach to the homewrecker and quietly become an indispensable friend for her. You can call or write a message on social networks to arrange a meeting. Then the wife should politely, courteously and without hysterics tell her mistress how tired she is of her husband, is not upset by his betrayal and is very glad that he has found a replacement for her. It is important to speak without insults, focusing on the positive aspects.
You can “accidentally” remember that the man’s former passion was very unkempt and illiterate, but now his wife is pleased with his choice. It is important to make the mistress doubt and provoke a scandal between her and her husband. At the same time, you should avoid contradictions and, for greater persuasiveness, come up with the names of your former lovers.
Complete indifference
You need to gather all your strength into a fist, remain silent, and do without shouting and reproaches. Emotions should be avoided, no matter how much a man begs for forgiveness, no matter how much he promises that this will not happen again. The wife must reject all gifts and advances and avoid any communication in every possible way. It is important to completely distance yourself and remain indifferent for at least 2-3 weeks. You can cry at home, burying your face in the pillow so that he doesn’t see it. In front of a guy, a wife should always look calm, but at the same time cold, like ice.
It will be a real blow to male pride if a woman can bring moral revenge to a victorious end. All phrases like “She herself is useful to me” should be answered briefly “I see.” He will also take care of himself. Washing, cooking - everything is on it.
It’s better for a woman to take care of herself, go for a walk with her friends, join the gym. You need to occupy all your free time so as not to be in the company of your spouse.
How to record beatings of a husband?
After a beating by a husband has occurred, the beating can be recorded in several ways:
- call the police and file a report against your husband about beatings
- contact a medical organization to record the beatings and obtain a certificate of beatings
- if the police were not called initially, then contact the police after the medical organization
- You can also take a photograph of the battered victim. Perhaps, when contacting the police, they will make a photo table of the marks of the beatings
It should be noted that the most accurate option for recording beatings is to contact a medical institution as soon as possible and obtain a certificate.
If the police were called first, then upon arrival the police have the right to call an ambulance, and if they went to the hospital first, then the doctor is obliged to inform the police about the beating of a specific person.
How to write a police report against your husband?
When contacting the police, the victim may be given a crime reporting form. If such a form was not issued, then write a statement in free form, indicating the following information:
- name of the police department to which the statement is being written
- information about the applicant, namely, full name, date and place of birth, passport details, place of residence, telephone number
- title of the document – statement of crime (about beatings)
- the text of the application indicates the circumstances of the crime committed against the applicant, i.e. by whom, when, under what circumstances the beatings were inflicted, what parts of the body were struck, etc.
- in the pleading part of the application, the applicant indicates his request to initiate a criminal case and bring his husband to criminal liability for assault
- the application should also indicate that the applicant has been warned of liability for knowingly false denunciation
- if any documents will be attached to the application, list them in the attachment
- The application must be dated and signed by the applicant
What to do in case of betrayal
Often, a husband's disrespectful attitude is associated with his infidelity. In such a situation, psychologists recommend that women take the following steps:
- Analyze your behavior, find mistakes and try to overcome them.
- Take care of your appearance, figure, wardrobe.
- Behave evenly and calmly with your spouse, talk without raising your tone or insulting.
- Add variety to your intimate life, have sex more often.
- Try to act as if the betrayal never happened.
- If your spouse is dear and loved, then you should wait until the moment when the relationship on the side becomes obsolete.
What to do if your wife writes a statement about beatings?
How a husband should act if his wife wrote a statement about beatings depends on the specific circumstances of the case, namely, whether the husband inflicted the beatings or not.
In the case where the husband did not beat his wife, appropriate explanations should be given, and also try to “catch the wife in a lie,” but this is better done in a court hearing, when the case is considered by the court. At the same time, if, for example, the husband did not inflict beatings because he was not near his wife at all, and this can be confirmed by witnesses, it is necessary to petition for the interrogation of such witnesses.
It is possible that the husband did not inflict the beatings, but on the contrary, the wife inflicted the beatings on the husband; in this case, the husband may write a counter-statement to hold the wife accountable for the beatings.
If, nevertheless, beatings were inflicted, then it is worth thinking about the possibility of reconciliation with the victim and termination of the criminal case on this basis. Even if you really don’t want to reconcile, you should overcome yourself and reconcile with the victim, or at least try to reconcile. It is in the interests of the husband that the criminal case be dropped, otherwise he will face a criminal record for assaulting his wife.
How to teach your husband a lesson for disrespect: advice from psychologists
Of course, you can find advice and repay your husband in the same coin. That is, in the same way, disappear for a whole day without notice. The fact is that most often the man does not get it, or he still insists that he is right. This way you are only making things worse. You will receive a huge amount of reproaches, humiliations, as well as empty talk and insults. Accordingly, it is simply useless to take revenge with the same coin.
Adviсe:
- The main problem with our women is that they are accustomed to constantly submitting to their husbands. Our mentality is created in such a way that the wife should be quiet, uncomplaining. Thus, women are simply silent when they have to come home from work and cook food, teach homework with children, and do housework. At the same time, the man, besides working, does nothing else.
- Yes, indeed, sometimes in families a man earns more than a woman, however, this does not give him the right to humiliate and insult his wife. Accordingly, if you have the opportunity to support a child alone, you can separate from such a husband and not try to mend a relationship that has long been broken. A husband's bad attitude towards his wife is not the norm. A woman is forced to work and do a huge amount of housework. If at the same time you do not receive any praise, love and care from your husband, then there is no need to build a family.
- Very often spouses try to save their face and be very proud. At the same time, they often pretend that they don’t care. In fact, this is the wrong position, because both should be interested in the relationship. If a man lives with you only to have something to eat and someone to sleep with, such a relationship will sooner or later simply explode. The fact is that in this case, absolutely any woman is suitable for a man.
- The spouse insists that he is right, only for the reason that he does not want to admit his mistake and guilt. You should not expect your spouse to change, improve, understand his guilt, and ask for forgiveness. The main task in a relationship is not to prove who is right and who is wrong, but to preserve them.
- This is only possible when a mutually beneficial dialogue arises. And not when both spouses shout at each other, but only if the couple agrees to hear their partner. Most often, scandals turn into joint squabbles, finding out who is right and who is wrong. The main goal of conversation is reconciliation. In addition, you need to try to simply find out why your husband treats you this way.
In a quarrel
As you can see, very often correcting the situation with a simple conversation is the most correct decision. All advice regarding punishment can only be effective if you want to ruin your relationship.
How to withdraw a police report against my husband?
Some victims, first in a fit of anger and resentment, run to the police and write a statement against their offender. When the anger passes and the victim calms down, especially when the husband comes to reconciliation, then there is a desire to withdraw the statement against the husband from the police. Is it possible to withdraw a statement from the police and how to do it?
In general, there is no possibility of withdrawing your statement from the police, since the statement of crime is recorded in special journals, investigation materials are opened based on it, and criminal cases are initiated.
In some cases, you can refuse the application and ask to dismiss the case. However, in these cases the question arises about the grounds on which the person applies. If the victim wrote a statement about her husband falsely committing a crime against her, then she can be prosecuted for knowingly false denunciation. If the victim reconciles with her husband, the case will be closed due to reconciliation.
How to deal with your husband's disrespect?
Adviсe:
- The main task is not to teach a man a lesson, but to teach him and help him not to do this in the future. Accordingly, if your goal is not to accumulate mutual grievances and unpleasant emotions, then the easiest way is to talk and find out what doesn’t suit you about each other. This tactic is most effective if you are going to live a long, happy life with this man.
- Otherwise, if you are just looking for a reason to quarrel, then it is easier to break off the relationship once and for all. That is, there is no need to arrange scenes, concerts, or any scandals, to deprive the husband of sex, food, dinner and attention. If you really don’t like something and you doubt that your man can change, you should break off the relationship. But this must be done without scandals.
- One day, when your husband is at work, silently collect your things and move to your mother, to your own apartment, or to rented housing. There can be no more talk. All these situations with punishments, ways to teach a lesson, bring the time closer when you get divorced. Because it doesn’t teach anything, but only provokes the emergence of resentment and negative emotions towards each other. Thus, hatred arises in the family, which can subsequently result in a real disaster.
Humiliation
