Human subpersonalities: types, how to work with them

Definition of the concept of subpersonality in psychology

The concept of human subpersonality was introduced by the Italian psychologist and psychiatrist R. Assagioli. In psychology, it is customary to use the following definition of subpersonality, it was given by Asagioli: “This is a certain set of attitudes, behavioral stereotypes, beliefs, drives, etc., which takes on a holistic, discernible form only in our consciousness.”

Have you noticed that you sometimes react differently to the same events? Why do you behave differently in similar conditions? This is how other selves manifest themselves. They find expression in our actions, words, actions, thoughts, qualities, abilities, skills. They are associated with social roles and statuses. Each person plays many roles. Sometimes they come into conflict; at such moments we turn to ourselves, talk to ourselves, or rather, to alternative personalities.

Interesting! The term “subpersonality” in psychology is a psychological metaphor that psychologists use to simplify and shorten the description of a certain set of habits, beliefs, and personality traits. In addition to internal changes, when changing subpersonalities, external changes are also noticeable. A person's posture, tone of voice, speed of speech, facial expressions and gestures may change.

Subpersonalities are not a pathology, but a norm. The inner world of a person consists of many selves. They help satisfy needs and desires, protect the main self. A completely logical question arises: if this is normal and even good, then why does psychology pay so much attention to this phenomenon, why is it so important to work on subpersonalities? Let's understand everything in order.

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So, what are subpersonalities? In some simplified understanding, this is “a person’s inner community of selves,” which can be translated as: “the many inner “I”s of a person.” It’s still difficult for me to detect them in myself, but (as usual) it’s easy in others. In general, everything seems clearer from the outside. You can notice drastic changes occurring in a person. One moment he was a Modest Man, and now he is an Exhibitionist; subpersonalities are rapidly replacing one another. The concept of subpersonality was introduced into scientific use within the framework of psychosynthesis (psychotherapeutic system), which was developed by psychiatrist R. Assagioli. In accordance with his theory, subpersonality is a substructure of the personality that has an independent existence. Here is an example of how different subpersonalities manifest themselves: when I wake up, I think about how good it would be to get up early. But the next day the alarm clock rings, and I understand that the person who is now deciding whether to get up or not has a different attitude. He has a different life. If you use the theory of subpersonalities, you can find your own approach to others. Roughly speaking, instead of “he is a boor” - “he is currently acting like a boor towards me.” One psychologist explains the phenomenon of subpersonalities this way: “I agree that the term “subpersonalities” sounds somewhat confusing. That is, it looks like some strange anthill of God knows who lives inside you. In fact, all these subpersonalities are neural networks that operate as usual. How many such schemes do we have within us? It's impossible to say. Presumably, every skill we have, and even a new insight, is a new schema.” In general, each person has his own set of subpersonalities, which differ from the subpersonalities of other people. It is important to name each subpersonality, for example: Adventurer, Prudent, Defenseless Girl, Smart Guy, Lone Wolf, “What will people think”, Critic, Saboteur, Accountant and so on. An example of internal confusion and disagreement of subpersonalities in internal dialogue: VOICE ONE: - Sasha, you have to work today. You want to get a bonus, right? VOICE TWO: - Spend the whole evening working?! Yes, I’d rather call Lenka, let’s chat or hang out! I haven't had this much fun in a long time. VOICE THREE: - I don’t want to see this Lenka! She teases me all the time and “gracefully” humiliates me. I feel humiliated next to her. Since the psyche is not its own enemy (in most cases), we can assume that each subpersonality has its own desires, its own goals, even its own mission. For example, to protect a person from something that the subpersonality considers dangerous. You can conduct such a dialogue with subpersonalities (after finding them and giving them names).

Parent, Adult or Child American psychologist and psychiatrist Eric Berne identified three subpersonalities - three states of “I”, which in turn interact with the same members of the triad of other people. These subpersonalities - Parent, Child and Adult, according to Berne, exist in everyone, and everyone behaves in a similar way. A Child is desires and emotions; his sphere includes joy and sincerity, spontaneous creativity and, at the same time, impulsive crimes, because the power of a Child’s desires is difficult to resist. A parent, on the contrary, is duty, morality, norms and rules. He is responsible for himself and for others, he knows how to do it, but does not think about why, he evaluates and demands. Both are opposed by an Adult, who separates personal opinion and the surrounding reality. The Adult works with facts, reasons logically, knows how to restrain the Child’s impulses and question the Parent’s prejudices and learned rules. Naturally, each of the subpersonalities can have a specific character (a Child can be both cheerful and aggressive, a Parent can be both caring and punitive). Subpersonalities can be of different strengths and expressions, and each of them can try to seize complete power over a person. In this concept, subpersonalities are important not in themselves, but, first of all, for their communicative function - that’s why the method that works with them is called transactional analysis. When two people meet, in fact, not two, but as many as six personalities are talking, that is, two sets of Parents, Children and Adults, and the success or failure of communication will depend on whom they choose as their representatives. So, for example, during a serious conversation, an Adult of one person with his logical layouts will have a difficult time with the Parent of another, who only knows how to reproach and punish, or with a Child who is capricious or fooling around. Normally, the owner of three subpersonalities easily switches between them for effective business or personal communication. And all failures occur either when you are stuck in only one role, or when the combination of “representatives” chosen for communication is unsuccessful. Between the Persona and the Shadow A much greater variety of inner inhabitants is found in the theory of Carl Gustav Jung and his followers. In this concept, everyone has not only a personal, but also a collective unconscious, which is made up of universal mental structures - archetypes. Jung himself said that everyone has a Persona, a subpersonality demonstrated to the world; A shadow consisting of shameful and rejected qualities; The Divine Child, the Wise Old Man, as well as the Animus and Anima, the inner man in a woman and the inner woman in a man. Post-Jungians began to “populate” a person’s personality with an increasing number of characters and talk about their positive and negative qualities. Robert Johnson, in He, She, and Us, described the danger that people in romantic relationships are not really loving the real person, but their inner man or woman. Marie-Louise von Franz dedicated her research to “The Eternal Youth. Puer Aeternus" to modern young men, captured by the beautiful and infantile archetype of the Eternal Boy. And Clarissa Pinkola Estes in her book “Who Runs with the Wolves”, more poetically than scientifically, substantiated the urgent need to actualize the archetype of the Wild Woman. Escape from yourself: what is a dissociative fugue? Due to the infinite extensibility of the collective unconscious, some authors have created entire systems of role archetypes that make up a person’s personality. In the domestic school of fairy tale therapy, it is believed that depersonalized fairy tale characters live in everyone - Tsar / Queen, Peasant / Peasant, Warrior / Warrior, and so on, the strengths of which a person must learn to use competently. Thus, the peasant needs to be “turned on” for patient work, the Warrior for healthy aggression, the Tsar for management and responsibility, the Merchant for earning money for pleasure, and the Monk for self-immersion and reflection. The collective of subpersonalities of Jean Shinoda Bohlen and Galina Bednenko, who showed the inner world of a person populated by images of gods and goddesses of ancient Greek mythology, is structured in a similar way. Apollo and Athena, Poseidon or Hera, in all the diversity of their qualities and functions, can manifest themselves in a person with different strengths and equally lead him to success or failure. Such visualization of human qualities, aspirations and needs is a fairly convenient way to understand your feelings and desires. For example, having noticed perfectionism and snobbery in yourself - the properties of Apollo, you can immediately remember his opposite Dionysus and think about how to bring more spontaneity and fun into your life. Bolen compares the system of role archetypes to a committee, where normally everyone is allowed to speak and where a healthy ego leads the process. That is, normally a person sees all the richness of his social roles, motivations and characteristics, and also knows how to manage them: let someone go forward, hold someone back, make peace with someone. However, with a weak ego - the chairman of the committee (you can think of it as will or as awareness) endless conflicts can begin or a one-man takeover of power can occur. Therefore, a person who behaves in all situations, for example, like a Warrior (speaking in terms of fairy tale therapy), will mostly act to the detriment of himself and others, despite the certainly vivid image. How to negotiate with your inner critic? Finally, a separate area of ​​psychotherapy is even devoted to human subpersonalities themselves.
Richard K. Schwartz in his work “Systemic Family Therapy of Subpersonalities” talks about the Center of Personality, (somewhat similar to Jung’s Self), which is always healthy and must manage subpersonalities, and gives his classification of subpersonalities that can be traumatized and with which you can work in process of therapy. These are the Manager and the Exile, the Defender and the Pessimist, the Critic and, again, the Child. These subpersonalities can fight for power, interfere with each other, and also care or help. Schwartz looks at subpersonalities as a family, whose members are connected by a common memory and rather difficult relationships. Each member of the family is needed and useful, unless he seizes power or simply begins to behave unconstructively. For example, a Protector can stand up for a traumatized Child, that is, for the wounded creative and sincere component of the personality, but this protection can be expressed in the construction of boundaries and a ban on further active actions and new contacts. At the human level, this will be expressed in creative stagnation and impoverishment of emotions, therefore, during psychotherapy or even with simple introspection, you will have to negotiate with the Protector so that he will release the Child into freedom. Two other ambiguous subpersonalities, the internal Censor and the internal Critic, are given special attention by the icons of creative self-help Julia Cameron (“The Artist’s Way”), Barbara Sher (“It’s Not Harmful to Dream”) and Anne Lamott (“Bird by Bird”). Normally, they, like other subpersonalities, allow a person to be more adaptive and better cope with life’s tasks. The censor allows you to control what, where and to whom you can say and what you cannot; and the Critic shows where you can improve your results and doesn’t let you stop there. However, having received too much power (here greetings to Bern's Parent of our entire culture, pointing out problematic, rather than successful moments), the Critic and the Censor do not allow the creative process to even begin, constantly upsetting and finding fault. And if at least some task is completed, it will instantly depreciate in value. Thus, useful skills of self-control and self-criticism can only lead to neuroses and procrastination, because why start a task if it is impossible to complete it perfectly. However, with subpersonalities, as with living people, you can negotiate, and if that doesn’t work out, then you can deceive them. So, to interact with the Critic, you can use special techniques, for example, setting yourself the task of writing or drawing as much as possible in a limited time - during this time the Critic does not have time to “wake up”. By the way, the painful topic of working at the very last moment before the deadline can be turned into good and used to combat this subpersonality. It is important to remember that “deceiving the inner critic,” “reviving the inner hero,” or simply wanting to think out loud about different voices should not be considered a light version of dissociative disorder. With it, subpersonalities often do not know about each other, and, in addition, for its development, a rather serious trauma is necessary, most likely in childhood, and, possibly, an initial predisposition. And letters to yourself as a Child or leadership of a team of internal fairy-tale characters are understandable ways of self-help through working metaphors.

Why work with them?

Alternative personalities can live peacefully, or they can harm each other and enter into conflicts. We need to work on this so that a person controls his subpersonalities, and not they control him. It is also important to ensure that all alternative selves coexist in harmony. If some kind of “I” harms a person and his environment, then this subpersonality needs to be gotten rid of.

Remember! Working with subpersonalities is necessary so that they do not get out of control.

Why are human subpersonalities dangerous?

I think, having reached this point in the article, you have already asked the question: “Where is the fine line between the norm and pathologies in the form of dissociative identity disorder (split personality disorder)?” Yes, this is why alternative selves are dangerous: they can absorb a person’s true self. Moreover, mental disorder is an extreme variant of complications.

There is another danger: a person does not lose touch with reality, but there are so many alternative personalities that they lead the individual further and further from himself, lead him astray from the true path, and prevent him from finding his purpose. Simply put, a person lives according to someone else’s scenario and cannot fully realize himself.

Therefore, it is so important to bring this to the level of awareness and control the process, be able to switch from one personality to another, understand why you need each of them, when they come in handy, etc.

Remember! There are useful and negative subpersonalities. The former help a person in development, the latter hinder the development of personality.

Subpersonalities, or who looks through your eyes?

For more effective interaction with other people, for a better understanding of yourself, it is advisable to highlight certain facets in your personality, which are called subpersonalities. Subpersonalities are programs that are created in the subconscious to solve recurring similar problems, to play certain roles (Housewife, Athlete, Daughter, Sloth, Lazy Self, Great Combinator, Intellectual Mechanic with Secondary Education). Personality facets are tools that a person uses for more effective and harmonious behavior in a specific life situation.

A person has several key subpersonalities associated with important areas of life in which a large amount of time is spent. For example, several at work (“accountant” and “life of the party”), several at home (“strict father” and “loving husband”), several with friends (“love to talk” and “joker”). And there are many ancillary facets of personality that are used less frequently and are activated to perform rarer tasks. Each subpersonality can have shades and states in which it most often occurs. For example, “dad” can be strict, gentle, loving, protector, master.

Example "Schoolboy"

Here is a schoolboy sitting at his desk. He has an active “trembling poor student”, the teenager timidly hides behind the backs of other children, afraid that he will be asked about an unlearned lesson, and then will receive a scolding from his angry mother. He is lucky, the bell rings from class, the danger has passed. The “computer lover” starts to turn on, the teenager joyfully runs home, where a level 65 hero is waiting for him - a rare achievement in this game. At the computer, he plays the role of “leader of the clan”, his sense of self and interaction with other people is greatly restructured - he behaves like a leader: he is confident in himself, knows what and how to do, leads people (it is quite possible that some of his followers will be adults from 20 years old, who have a different level in the game and a different sense of self). Or an “all-knowing excellent student” who feels like an authority and a winner in a physics lesson, but in physical education, all his agility disappears, he turns into a “weakling at whom everyone laughs.” An example from a later stage of life is a “violent director” at work, and at home a “gentle henpecked man” who unquestioningly carries out all his wife’s orders.

In the examples above, when active subpersonalities change, completely different people appear before the observer, with their own history, skills, posture, manner of speaking and preferences. The memory of one’s previous subpersonalities and what happened to them can be temporarily erased. You can watch children how they play and how strongly they can identify with their role, completely immerse themselves in it; during the game they are in their own separate world. Adults play no less selflessly, only their roles are sometimes called differently.

Each subpersonality says “I”, and therefore, without giving them names and defining the spheres of their manifestation, it is difficult to understand your inner world, behavior and motives for actions, it is difficult to build a value system and achieve your goals, because different subpersonalities can lead a person in different directions.

Example "Work and Home"

Sitting at work at 6 pm, the “responsible employee” who has not completed the report and the “home-lover” perceive the situation completely differently, they have different goals and, when activated, subpersonalities will behave differently.
The “responsible employee” will think that the report is not completed and he can stay late for a couple of hours once a month (and will close his eyes, as if he will forget that this is not the first time he has been late), and the “home lover” will remember that today they are showing an interesting film and the wife has prepared a good dinner and turns off the computer with the words: “you can’t redo all the work.” Most often, the usual work of compiling lists of goals is ineffective, because... the list is formed from one subpersonality, and in life completely different subpersonalities are included, which have their own goals and their own opinions. A person simply does not want and cannot fulfill the obligations that he previously assumed. Therefore, it is important to remember the needs of other subpersonalities, and also to be able, when necessary, to change your state, leave some roles and include others. When you change your role, your view of the world will change, as well as your abilities, desires and level of motivation.

Example "Jogging"

“Boastful Self” says that tomorrow he will go for a run.
When tomorrow comes, a person, seeing that the weather is nasty, cold rain is falling, activates the “Comfort Lover”, which finds “good reasons” (can, for example, use the sayings of famous personalities, choose something suitable from the repertoire of sayings, or come up with something his own: “life is given to us for pleasure!”) or simply forgets about the previous decision, with pleasure and a slightly cloudy inner feeling (here comes a lie for reassurance and averting one’s eyes from unwanted facts) and sits down to drink hot aromatic tea in a soft, enveloping chair). If a person is used to lying to himself a lot, then he practically does not notice the lies behind him, does not feel a nasty oppressive feeling, his vision is very limited, there are many “white” spots, and attempts to “open his eyes” can encounter very great resistance from the subconscious, aggression. A lie is a defense that fetters a person’s manifestations, narrows his field of vision and consumes his energy, therefore, it is advisable to try to gradually remove the defenses and work on yourself (see “Psychic Defenses”). Working on oneself is a rather painful process, but it is rewarded by the fact that a person develops, throws off some of the shackles, becomes freer, stronger and more energetic (see also the article “Human Energy”).

A person, as a rule, does not know what subpersonalities he has and therefore does not control their activation at all. In this case, subpersonalities are unconsciously activated under the influence of external impulses, for example, from egregors or through other people (see example “Consultation with a psychologist”). And as a result, a person’s conscious control of himself is at a very low level, his behavior can be very inconsistent, fickle, contradictory and harmful to the goals that he once set for himself (see the article “Identification, awareness, free will and choice "). At the same time, organization and consistency are not necessarily a sign of consciousness - a person can be guided by some egregor, as he moves, forming the necessary impulses to which the person reacts in the right way. The latter can sincerely believe that he himself invented, planned, organized and implemented everything.

Roles can also be dressed as egregors with unconscious connivance on the part of the person. In constellations according to Hellinger, we often work with cases where the family system imposes on the client a role that is not natural for him (for example, a daughter is identified with her father’s former love, plays the role of a rival for her mother and a lover for her father. See also the article “Constellations according to Hellinger. The influence of systems on humans"). The main thing is that a person perceives the induced state, thoughts, impulses to action as his own, and therefore, without hesitation, he carries it out.

People are completely immersed in the game, follow a certain scenario, which, most likely, has been played out more than once (see the article “Archetype” and in the “Higher Archetypes” section of the article “Loss and Return of the Soul”) and an attentive observer knows how and why everything will end (E. Berne in the book “Games People Play” analyzed frequent forms of interaction between people, what lies on the surface, hidden benefits that are not realized by the participants and negative consequences that the players do not notice, as well as ways to get out of these games, destroy scenarios). Accordingly, if a person remembers himself during the game, he knows at what points there will be a fork in the course of the scenario, where and how it is necessary to make a push so that the game turns in the right direction and ends more favorably.

A person who is aware of his subpersonalities and can also determine which subpersonalities are triggered in his partner will find it easier to monitor what is happening and more flexibly and accurately manage the game. It is advisable to learn to track the key points where you need to push. Under the influence of targeted impulses, a person begins to unconsciously roll in the right direction, to work out the scenario into which he was sent. Often a person does not take care of himself and the impulses coming from outside, he plays everything indiscriminately: they played him an aggressive record - he is aggressive, they changed it to a gentle one - he is gentle, they activated the leader - he selflessly plays the leader, he commands.

Example "Wise Woman"

An angry husband comes home, his wife can, depending on her goals, include different subpersonalities (I want to spend the evening in the form of a scandal or for it to end somehow well, in a warm way).
To some of her husband’s words and actions, the wife may feel strong impulses to react negatively; something inside her is tempting to explode. Here it is easy to give in and plunge into a ready-made scenario of a skirmish in which both sides shout, consider themselves absolutely right and do not understand what is happening at all. But let’s say a woman remembers herself and activates her “caring wife” or “mother.” These subpersonalities modulate the outgoing energy in a certain way. This state of the wife invites (better to say, it imperceptibly hypnotizes, shifts the assemblage point) for the husband to gradually restructure himself, to put on a different mask, more adequate to the situation. A man can gradually leave his angry state and begin to play the role of an “affectionate husband.” The transition process is usually smooth, the fire gradually dies out. There is also a more severe version of the change, when the wife does something that goes far beyond the script, the man can fall into a stupor, a trance, and from this state he can be pushed in the right direction. As a result, communication develops the way the woman wanted it, although the man may not have noticed anything. Next, you can turn on your “mistress”, and first, through subtle hints, advances, the thawed, softened husband is gradually transferred to the state of a “male”, or from a “loving mother”, fed and put to sleep in a sweet sleep.

A person, through a conscious change in his state, can change the atmosphere around him. By switching the active subpersonality, he changes his radiation, which affects the world (or in another way: by shifting the position of the assemblage point, a person moves to another world, with slightly different characteristics).

Example "Transforming the World"

If a person previously constantly played the role of a dissatisfied aggressive person, regularly got into conflicts and quarreled with someone (people and the subtle plan reacted accordingly to him, mirroring his inner state, mood), and now he has become softer and more friendly, then the environment around him is gradually changing, becoming more friendly and welcoming, potential conflict situations are less common, occur in a milder form and fade away faster.
In addition to the “aggressor”, people often play the role of “offended”, “helpless”, “unhappy”, “victim” and thereby create a corresponding environment. You can set yourself the task of tracking the initial stages of the launch of these roles and try to get out of them as quickly as possible (before you get completely immersed and forget in the game), “change the record” to a more suitable one (see the technique for getting out of obsessive states in the article "The invisible world and its impact on humans"). It is important to remember that fortunes can come from the outside, from someone else, and there is no need to act them out.

For a more in-depth study of the topic, I recommend the books by Peter Uspensky “In Search of the Miraculous” and Absalom Podvodny “Man of Many Faces” (very detailed).

How do human subpersonalities arise?

All alternative selves are puzzled by the same thing - protecting the inner child. Actually, this is how they arise. They protect the child from the negative influence of the external environment, help to develop and achieve goals.

Psychologist S. Schwartz described step by step the mechanism of the emergence of alternative selves:

1. A person receives psychological trauma, subpersonalities arise to protect him from negative feelings and emotions: fear, shame, guilt, pain. They are called exiles.
2. A manager appears to control the exile. He tries with all his might to protect a person from negativity. For example, if pain and disappointment in the mother have been expelled, then the manager can protect the person with the help of emotional coldness, detachment from people, and distrust.
3. Sometimes managers fail to cope, a person again finds himself in an unpleasant situation, then firefighters - another group of subpersonalities - resort to extinguishing all these feelings. They choose the most aggressive methods and do everything to numb the pain. This is how alcohol, promiscuity, extreme sports, rage, rudeness, etc. burst into a person’s life.

Not only does the person himself unconsciously create other selves, this process can be made conscious. A psychologist can create subpersonalities to help a client cope with a current problem. A person himself can create subpersonalities that improve the quality of his life.

Important! The development of other selves depends on the personality characteristics and imagination of a person. The number and specificity of alternative selves differs from case to case; each individual has his own set of subpersonalities.

Types of subpersonalities

In psychology, it is customary to distinguish conscious (clear) and unconscious (shadow) subpersonalities:

1. Explicit. These are the roles, qualities, statuses, programs with which a person identifies himself: “I am a father,” “I am a very patient person,” etc.
2. Shadow. These are those scenarios that a person is not aware of, but they constantly guide him through life: “I don’t know what came over me,” “Sometimes I break down for no reason,” “Sometimes I feel so bad that I can’t get out of bed.” . I don’t know why this happens.”

The union of obvious and shadow subpersonalities is usually called a conciliar personality. As a rule, a person associates this image with his name.

In addition, we can distinguish main (among them one dominant) and auxiliary subpersonalities. Those that are basic are obvious and are included more often than others. Auxiliary ones manifest themselves from time to time, more often they are of an unconscious nature. And even less often, random subpersonalities arise. They can become fixed and turn into main or auxiliary ones.

Do you have subpersonalities?

Each person coexists with several subpersonalities, one of which dominates at certain moments or most of his life. Many people, over time, even become physically similar to them: some like a fox, some like a pig, some like a hare.

People even get nicknames based on their physiognomic resemblance to one or another animal. As a result of their power, a person is a world inhabited by subpersonalities, entities, and he himself is, and as if lost, among this animal kingdom.

If we approach this issue honestly, then within us, within ourselves, only 5-10% remains. These are the realities of modern man. And this is our very Self. The very thing with which we came into this world and with which we will leave it. The very thing that will remain with us throughout the entire path of personal development. And our path on Earth is just a fraction of a microsecond in the development of our Self, which lasts forever.

How subpersonalities manifest themselves in life

In life, you can most often find the following list of human subpersonalities (according to the specifics of behavior and leading qualities):

• wolf – manifested by anger and aggression;
• fox - expressed in cunning, guile, flattery, etc.;
• hare - manifests itself as cowardice, numerous fears in all areas of life (and sometimes a person understands that it is high time to change something, but does not dare to do so);
• piglet - noticeable through greed in all areas of life, sometimes taking pathological forms, for example, turning into a craving for hoarding;
• ram - expressed in stupidity, inability to listen to others and perceive rational arguments, stubbornness;

• alcoholic – expressed in drunkenness and riotous lifestyle;
• glutton – manifested by systematic overeating, inability to control one’s actions, and a constant feeling of hunger;
• smoker - manifests itself in an obsessive need to smoke, coming up with reasons not to quit (“The work is stressful”, “This makes me want to eat less”, “If I quit, I’ll get fat”).

In psychology, there is no single classification of subpersonalities by name; there are thousands of them. For example, in addition to those that we have already named, there are the following:

• egoist,
• endured
• small man,
• dreamer,
• good man,
• impudent,
• holy man,
• Jonah,
• hypocrite,
• many, many others.

A person himself gives names to his subpersonalities, sometimes his environment helps him in this.

Important! Every person has at least three subpersonalities: adult, child, parent.

What types of subpersonalities are there?

There is another type of subpersonality, these are a kind of causes of addictions, causes of bad habits

The subpersonality of an alcoholic is drinking alcohol.

It is she who pushes a person to certain actions, whispers to him, controls him, and over time the person loses his appearance, turning into a completely dependent, controlled, inadequate drunkard.

Such a subpersonality takes a person into his reality and gradually destroys him. Rid a person’s energy of such a subpersonality, and it will be easy for the body to give up alcohol.

Glutton subpersonality - eats excessively

Then the person cannot stop and control his appetite. And it’s easy to lose weight; by removing this subpersonality from the subtle plane, a person becomes in control of his appetite. It turns out that you don’t want to eat as much and your body doesn’t need that much food. And by restoring and pumping additionally the Live chakra, which is responsible for the will, you can immediately lose weight.

When the will is strong, we are our own masters and can easily limit the amount of food we eat, which is the key to losing weight.

Subpersonality of a smoker - makes you smoke

She, who smokes, suppresses the true desires and needs of a person, changes consciousness. She puts out her tentacles, and the person becomes a puppet, a performer. Many smokers are well aware of how harmful it is to inhale carcinogenic smoke filled with hundreds of poisons and yet continue to smoke.

Others resort to self-deception, as if it doesn’t harm me, or that smoking calms me down, or that there is no other way at my job. All this is said not by the person but by his subpersonality. By removing it, expelling it from the body, quitting smoking is much easier. Removing it with the help of a healer is much more effective.

Exercises to work with subpersonalities

In psychology, there are many techniques that are suitable for independent use, helping to understand the inner selves and learn to interact with them. Let's look at some exercises for working with subpersonalities.

Talking to your inner critic

All people have this subpersonality. For some it is more pronounced, for others it is weaker, but we all periodically criticize and scold ourselves. It's good if it doesn't turn into self-flagellation. If a critic is exhausting you, then it’s time to meet and talk with him.

Draw your critic as a person. To make it easier, answer the following questions:

• What is he like?
• How and when does it manifest itself?
• How does it affect you, your decisions and actions?
• How does he react to your counterarguments and rational comments?
• What does he criticize more often: you or the world around you?

Get to know him, and then learn to communicate. The next time he starts saying that nothing will work out, ask: “What will happen if...?” If a critic forces you to do something or dissuades you from something, then ask him: “Can you cope with the consequences?” Tell him what you would like to hear in difficult times. Which of his comments will help you and not drown you in the abyss of self-flagellation.

And most importantly, think about how appropriate his criticism is, in whose voice he speaks. Very often the critic speaks in the voice of the parents, and upon analysis it turns out that most of the comments are irrational. The better you understand your critic, the better you can control him.

Circle of subpersonalities

This technique allows you to diagnose positive subpersonalities.

Technique:

1. Write down all your intangible desires. Write whatever comes to mind. You need to score at least 20 positions.
2. Re-read the list and concentrate on how you feel about each item. Maybe at one of them you heard a menacing and condemning voice: “What will people think?” Or the inspired: “How can you not want this, everyone wants it.”
3. Choose 5-6 desires that are more relevant to you than the rest.
4. On a piece of paper, draw a circle with a diameter of 20 cm, with another circle inside. The center is the real you. Place the selected 5-6 wishes in a small circle. Distribute the rest beyond the first circle and up to the second.
5. Each of your desires is a subpersonality. Draw them with colored pencils (one image for each wish), give them names. Each name should be clear and meaningful to you, make sense.
6. Think about where else, besides desires, these subpersonalities express themselves, when and how this happens.

Now you are familiar with your main positive subpersonalities. Monitor when they express themselves, promote their development.

Personal diary

Many people think that keeping a personal diary is for 12-year-old girls. But in fact, this is an excellent psychotherapeutic method available to everyone. Diaries can be different, for example, you can keep a diary of emotions and actions. Write down vivid events, especially those when you say, “I don’t understand why everything is like this.”

Analyze records. Very soon you will understand that much of your behavior, your states and reactions are not accidental, but natural. You will be able to identify several patterns of behavior. Yes, they may be directly opposite to each other, but all of this is you, or rather, these are your subpersonalities. The next step is to identify destructive models (subpersonalities) and work on them.

How to get rid of subpersonalities?

The best thing is to work through them once and for all. To work through means to get rid of it. It is impossible to come to an agreement with subpersonalities. You can't compromise with them. You can only work through yourself, your internal state in a certain way and get rid of them.

In the evolution of our Self, sooner or later we will have to part with subpersonalities, so we will drag them from incarnation to incarnation until we completely get rid of them, and eventually becoming ourselves, we will be able to reach a new stage of development by changing the dimension

There are certain practices that allow you to free yourself from unnecessary programs, from fears, anger, aggression - from subpersonalities. The practices are very simple, like all my practices in general. Anyone can master them with a little effort. But there are subtleties and nuances.

I teach how to get rid of subpersonalities as part of my course //manoiloksana.ru/ezoterika/. At the moment, I do not have the opportunity to take students for personal training. There are no seats. Everything is booked for the next six months. Sometimes I hire only on the personal recommendation of my clients, and not all of them. There is a pre-recorded course for independent, smart people who want urgent changes in their lives.

With uv. Oksana Manoilo.

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