What's the best way to turn a guy off so he doesn't get offended: proven methods

How to politely blow off a stranger on the street

If a stranger pesters you, you can refuse him in various ways - from polite phrases to a sharp refusal.

Common Phrases

You can refuse a polite young man with simple, soft phrases:

• I have a young man, and he will not like our communication.
• I'm not interested in dating. Let me pass.
• I'm married.

The last phrase should be used if you have a wedding ring or its imitation on your finger.

If the guy turns out to be persistent and continues to impose his company, you should use drier and stricter phrases:

• Sorry, but your company is unpleasant to me.
• I made it clear enough that I did not want to meet.
• Let me pass, otherwise I'll call the police.

Even with a sharp refusal, you need to behave civilly, without shouting or being rude. At the same time, you need to speak dryly and seriously, without using humorous notes in your voice.

Methods of manipulation

To reject a guy, you don’t have to engage in a frank dialogue with him. To do this, you can use some manipulation methods:

• Don't carry on a conversation . Pretend that the interlocutor’s speech does not cause any interest. If he asks questions, it is enough to answer in monosyllables, without going into details. When there is an awkward silence, the guy will most likely wish him a good day and back off.
• Take help from a friend . If your girlfriend doesn’t like the guy, you need to make him feel like a third wheel. To do this, you should talk about your own topics, go to the toilet together and pay a minimum of attention to the fan. Realizing that there is no chance for him, he himself will fall behind.
• Family man . If a man shows unwanted attention, he should unobtrusively talk about his family (real/fictional) or a loved one who should “come pick me up” soon.
• Wrong data . If you don’t want to offend or ignore a person, you can tell him a fake name, age, etc. If he asks for a phone number, you can leave it, but “accidentally” make a mistake. It’s better to write down the number yourself, promising to call him back later.

How to properly refuse a guy and not hurt his feelings, learn from the video below:

Sharp options to give a guy a nice blow

Real life story:

— Can I invite you for a cup of coffee?

- No.

“Where are you going, can I take you?”

“I’m looking for a quiet place for a grave.”

- Why, what happened?

- Yes, I killed my beloved guy, I need to bury him.

Some individuals will not understand even the tenth time. A sharp refusal is the only solution when a person does not understand or begins to be rude and rude to you.

Some don't understand

In order for the answer to sound sharp and harsh and at the same time not provoke a conflict, it is necessary to give the voice sharpness and irritability. You should not use offensive phrases, much less swear.

How to correctly refuse a friend or acquaintance who has fallen in love

The guy needs to make it clear that a romantic relationship between you is impossible. To maintain friendly communication at the same time, you should use the following strategies.

Make him believe you're not right for him

The guy needs to be convinced that you are completely unsuitable for each other. The following recommendations will help with this:

• remember what things irritate him and constantly do them in front of him;
• write a list of the fan’s interests and, during conversations, provide critical feedback on each item written down;
• without ceasing to convince him that nothing will work out for you.

Find him another girl

A difficult method, but if successful, it will allow you to maintain the same relationship with your friend. To find a replacement, you need to understand what exactly attracts a guy to women. Having dealt with this, all that remains is to find a lonely girl of the right type in the circle of relatives and friends and arrange their “casual” meeting.

If you managed to match friends, in the future you don’t need to constantly get involved in other people’s relationships, so as not to become the “culprit” of an unsuccessful romance.

Confess your love for someone else

A good friend will not be able to lie about a non-existent boyfriend or husband and children, but he can confess his love for another. For him to believe this, he should:

• show him photos of your lover on your phone;
• often talk about your “beloved” and plans to win his heart;
• Spend more time with your lover in front of your unwanted suitor.

This strategy will be more successful if you find a man to play the role of a lover who agrees to play along a little and explain to the “competitor” that he has no chance.

Making excuses for lack of time

You can politely ignore the guy, citing a lack of time due to school or other matters. If he offers to go for a walk once, you need to clearly refuse and explain that there is no time for dates. Needless to say, we can go to the cinema someday. This way he will get false hope and will wait for an answer.

If the guy understands your strategy and triples the showdown with the phrases “Why are you lying to me! I know that you don’t have time just for me!”, there is only one option left - to send him straight away.

Confidential conversation

Having decided not to play around and honestly admit to a guy that you have no romantic feelings towards him, you should use the following tips:

1. Get alone . For a heart-to-heart conversation, you need to choose a convenient place with a minimum number of strangers and especially mutual friends. You can invite a guy for a walk or drink coffee in a calm coffee shop.
2. Be specific but polite . You need to speak seriously and confidently, so as not to create the impression of flirtation or frivolity. There may be notes of sadness and warmth in the voice so as not to offend the guy.
3. Make a compliment . You can start the conversation with a little praise. You shouldn’t praise him as a man, but just give a couple of compliments that he’s a good friend and fun to talk to.
4. Get to the point of the conversation . The most important part of the meeting, for which you need to prepare the correct wording. The refusal should be clear, but not offensive and not hurt male pride. What phrases you can use to turn a friend away, and which ones you can’t, are given in the table:

Cases when you need to scare a guy away

Men can be extremely persistent, especially in inappropriate situations. They show sympathy in an intrusive, rude manner, interfering with the performance of work or a favorite activity. A woman in this position may doubt the need to refuse an inappropriate young man to the last drop of patience. Due to her upbringing and the stereotype that a girl cannot answer sharply, she has to endure disrespectful attitude from her gentleman for a certain period of time.

However, you can certainly identify situations when the refusal should sound as quickly and sharply as possible.

No mutual sympathy

A man constantly shows attention to a girl, does it beautifully, but does not evoke reciprocal emotions in her heart. In this situation, when you don’t want to offend, choose soft phrases that won’t sound offensive. There is a diagram that will help you build recognition correctly. In a monologue, the girl must first compliment the boy, then say the reason why the union is impossible, and then compliment him again. This will soften the bitterness and create the impression that the suitor is not rejected, but has made a choice in favor of an unworthy woman.

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Frank womanizer

A man who chases women is unlikely to be faithful once the relationship begins. If such a person shows attention to a girl, we can say with 100% confidence that she is his next peak, which he decided to conquer. In this situation, first use non-verbal signals - do not react to glances, smiles, winks.

If this does not help, and he decisively closes the distance, notify the guy by saying that you do not intend to continue your acquaintance. Then, if the intimacy continues, physically separate yourself from him - put a chair, bag or package between you.

All you need is sex

Often this type of man is found on social networks. The young man actively shows signs of attention to the girl, is interested in her work schedule, classes, free time, and hints at a personal meeting. If a woman does not have casual sex with this young man in her plans, there is a need to get rid of him gracefully on VK.

To do this, use the following techniques:

1. Ignoring. Do not react to messages, do not read or open them, then he will soon get tired of writing to you.
2. Exploiting weaknesses. If a girl’s vocabulary includes many specific terms, overload each sentence with them so that it becomes impossible to read the text.
3. Accept the offer to meet, but do not show up at the appointed time. A long wait will offend the obsessive fan, and he will fall behind.

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Uses as a vest

Some guys constantly write, show attention, but actually use the girl as a pillow for tears and complaints. If a woman knows about all the problems of a young man, from physiological to psychological, then just such a situation is likely. The way to effectively shave off a bore so that he doesn't get offended is mirror behavior. Conduct a dialogue in the same vein, constantly ask for advice, invent problems, exaggerate, and most importantly, ignore his complaints, focusing on yourself. Soon this attitude will get boring, and the admirer will stop writing.

Pretending to be a friend

Sometimes the young man behaves with dignity. He is a good and attentive conversationalist, constantly aware of the girl’s affairs, but at the first opportunity he uses trust for his own purposes - he tries to kiss, hug. If such behavior does not suit you, then there are ways to get rid of it via SMS. Write that you value him as a friend, but are not ready to move to a new level of relationship, even if it’s just sex without commitment.

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Love is gone

Some boys show attention to girls who previously had mutual feelings for them. However, over time or under the influence of circumstances, this sympathy has passed, and the woman does not know how to get rid of him. To do this, use the opportunity to retire, since a personal conversation in this case is more effective. First, remember the pleasant impressions caused by the young man, and then tell him that you cannot continue this relationship. Mention the prospects for building relationships in the future, but not with this young man.

It's not time yet

Young men, especially in adolescence, sometimes show excessive assertiveness. In this case, you need to delicately tell them that it’s too early to act in this way, you need time to get closer. Say openly and directly that you are also not indifferent, but are not yet ready for decisive changes in life. Don’t set a specific deadline, but don’t delay the moment either. Assess in advance what period will be comfortable for getting to know each other, and name this number of days, weeks, months.

If such conditions are acceptable for the young man, he will say so. Otherwise, you can forget about a potential partner.

Married or boss

A man in a leadership position can provide protection in building a career, but such a romance is not always pleasant. If there is no such thing in your plans, you need to refuse in such a way as not to offend. To do this, use soft words, a gentle tone of voice without any hint of the possibility of changing the decision, and a good reason - a young man with whom the girl has been living for a long time, but is not yet committed. Refusal to a married person follows the same pattern.

How to get rid of an annoying boyfriend

If a guy doesn’t give way and doesn’t understand a polite refusal, he can be kicked off in harsher ways.

Complete ignoring

This strategy requires compliance with two rules:

• clearly say “no” once under any pretext (not ready for a relationship, I love someone else, I’m in a hurry to meet, etc.);
• imagine complete loneliness - reading, listening to music, talking on the phone or doing other things, not paying any attention to the guy and not reacting to his words.

Ignoring an annoying boyfriend, you should not look him in the face, answer his questions or make any contact.

Scandal girl

This principle is the opposite of the ignoring strategy and involves complete concentration on the stick. You need to constantly demand something from him, throw tantrums and be jealous.

In order to deliberately quarrel, you can come to the meeting earlier and create a scandal due to his lateness. If a fan forgot flowers, you should directly reproach him or say that “queens are not greeted like that.” Afterwards you have to be indignant at everything that happens - bad coffee, bad restaurant, boring movie, etc.

Having secured the image of a demanding brawler, you can be sure that the guy himself will refuse such a relationship.

Materialist

If a guy doesn't show generosity, the best way to turn him off is to become a materialist for him. The following recommendations will help with this:

• order the most expensive dishes in restaurants;
• hint at the need for urgent repairs in the apartment;
• talk about the illness of a grandmother who needs expensive care;
• complain about a small salary and hint at looking for a rich suitor;
• make plans for an expensive wedding and honeymoon in the Maldives;
• talk about a husband who must buy a beauty salon and finance plastic surgery to correct his appearance.

Girlfriend "911"

You need to ask your girlfriend to start actively writing love messages during the date. Another trick is to register her contact in the phone in advance under a man’s name, next to which put a heart.

From the constant messages and your satisfied expression on your face while answering them, the guy himself will understand that nothing will happen to him. If he begins to express dissatisfaction, he can only confess his love for another.

Cramming

Before a date, you need to carefully study your boyfriend’s pages on social networks to find out his political views, preferences in music, cinema, etc. When you come to a meeting, you need to constantly interrupt him and say things that do not coincide with his position, and end each sentence with a quote from Internet.

If the guy is not an intellectual, you should also show maximum pedantry and hang on to his every word, correcting his mistakes. To completely ruin the evening, you can periodically repeat “But my ex said..., and he was absolutely right.”

Even the most persistent boyfriend will not tolerate stupidity and constant comparison with his ex.

Dirty

To turn a guy away from you, you need to show up on a date with a chipped manicure, dirty clothes and a slight smell of sweat. If the meeting takes place in a cafe, you can sip and drink, making different sounds.

To finally “finish off” him, all that remains is to speak out for support of everything natural and against cosmetic procedures such as depilation of armpits, legs and more.

Ways to send by correspondence

There are three options to stop communicating culturally:

1. Use humor. Using jokes and pictures that seem funny at first glance, carefully hint at the impossibility of communication. You can refer to the fact that you already have a boyfriend, or jokingly say that you are not ready for a relationship.
2. Speak seriously, do not use emoticons or express emotions. This will create the impression that the girl takes correspondence seriously. After establishing contact, tell us why you are not ready to continue communication and move to the next level.
3. More lightness. When a girl maintains casual communication, even refusal of reciprocity does not sound so offensive.

Using any of the options, it will be easy to show the young man that the girl is not interested in continuing communication.

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How to send a guy off via text or text

Refusal via the Internet may offend a man, but it will save time and nerves. To do everything right, you should use one of these strategies:

• Long refusal . You need to pretend to be a busy person, without answering him for a long time (a lot of work, family, various incidents in life). Over time, the guy gets tired of this, and he stops pestering. If he understands that these are excuses, all that remains is to have a confidential conversation with him.
• Quick refusal . While maintaining civility and politeness of communication, you need to quickly and clearly refuse the guy by writing a short message with the following text: I am not in the mood for meetings and relationships. Sorry.
• I already have a boyfriend, and I don’t want to continue our communication.
• I figured myself out and realized that I didn’t need a relationship.
• You are a very good guy and will soon find your soulmate. I'm not interested in a relationship, sorry.

If after refusing via SMS the guy continues to bother you, all you have to do is block his number and completely ignore him in life.

How to properly send off your ex

If your ex has returned and wants to renew the relationship, you should not give in to emotions and start a scandal. It is important to keep your cool and express your refusal without airing your dirty laundry. This can be done in two ways:

• Via SMS . If you still have feelings for a guy, it’s better not to date him, but to write a short message with a similar text: Sorry, but this relationship is no longer interesting to me. Please don't bother me anymore, otherwise I will block your contact.
• Do not write me anymore. I have a boyfriend and we love each other.

Several original ways

Using some techniques will allow a girl to significantly simplify her life and give a guy a nice blow. Methods are selected depending on the characteristics of the young man’s character.

Complete ignore

With this method, the girlfriend tries not to notice the boyfriend. The girl doesn’t look at the guy, doesn’t talk to him, doesn’t answer his questions. You should remove him from your friends on social networks, do not respond to SMS, and do not pick up the phone. The method is applied to young people with high self-esteem.

Scandal girl

You can portray a hysterical scandalist in front of a calm young man who does not like noise and hysterics. At every word the girl flares up and starts a showdown. You can increase efficiency and create scandals out of the blue, in public places and with strangers. You can troll a waitress in a cafe or pick on your grandmother in the subway (if your conscience allows). The downside is that everyone around her will consider the girl inadequate, so there is a risk of losing her reputation when meeting friends.

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Let's get married

Portraying a person who dreams of marriage is an excellent method that will help you break up with a boyfriend who is afraid of responsibility. You need to drag him into the wedding salon and start trying on dresses and shoes, dreaming out loud about an engagement ring. A particularly stubborn guy can be presented with a positive pregnancy test. The risk is that the boyfriend may be mature enough to want a family, then it will be more difficult to reject the man.

My problem

Many different problems will help scare off an obsessive gentleman who dreams of a quiet life, for example, if a young lady is constantly busy and cannot pay attention to a man. She always needs to take the dog to the veterinarian, support her friend who broke up with her boyfriend, and visit her old grandmother. Not every man can stand a girl who always rushes to help others.

There is another option for creating a problematic image. A girl needs to complain to a guy all the time about the problems she has: troubles at work, illness, quarrels with friends. After this, the admirer will quickly leave her behind.

How to gently tell the guy you're dating off

To turn your boyfriend off, you will have to have a serious conversation with him and choose the appropriate wording. Here are the options:

• My tastes and needs are constantly changing, but I see that you do not change, you stand in one place. Therefore, we will not be able to develop together as a couple, and we need to separate.
• Let's take a time out and sort out our feelings. Now it’s difficult for me to understand what I want and whether I’m ready to continue maintaining this relationship.
• I am grateful to you for all our wonderful moments and remember only the good things. But now I no longer feel the same way as before, and it’s better for us to leave. Please leave gracefully and live happily.
• My “rose-colored glasses” have fallen off, and I can no longer and do not want to ignore the obvious shortcomings. I've made my final decision and you won't change it. I'm leaving you and I'm no longer interested in communicating with you. Goodbye.

When breaking up with a guy, you don't need to feel guilty or show pity. You need to speak with confidence and calmness in your voice.

The nuances of a competent “lapel”

To begin with, you should clearly understand who we are talking about. In online correspondence, on the street or in a cafe, bar, club, you will behave differently than with an old friend who admitted romantic feelings, but these behavior patterns are united by one feature: politeness, honesty, clarity and specificity.

Yes, a rare girl will refuse flirting, especially if she feels desired, but in this situation flirting is inappropriate. The longer you delay, put off, or flirt with a guy, asserting yourself at his expense, the worse it will turn out for you in the end, so determination and unambiguous wording are important here - even for selfish reasons.

If we are talking about how to beautifully blow off a guy who wants to get acquainted, then it is enough to choose a behavior that is comfortable or natural for yourself and just stick to it. There are many ways to ward off a stranger:

• cultural;
• funny;
• beautiful;
• boorish or harsh.

The latter should be resorted to only when other methods have not helped. At the same time, you need to choose the “reject” option based on the specific situation; the main thing is to remain calm and answer politely.

Common mistakes when refusing a guy

Psychologists note that when refusing a guy, girls make a number of classic mistakes:

• Lack of specifics . To maintain a warm relationship, girls speak politely and sympathetically, but the guy takes these as abstract hints and continues to court.
• Controversial behavior . You can’t blow a guy off and then 5 minutes later wink and smile at him. This makes him understand that the refusal is just a farce.
• Pulling back the moment . Phrases such as “I don’t have time right now” temporarily relieve unnecessary attention, but only complicate a serious conversation that hangs like a gray cloud.
• Rudeness and insults . If the boyfriend does not understand politeness, you can become harsh, but this will only worsen the relationship, which will be impossible to improve during further interaction, for example, at work.

There are many ways to refuse a guy. Having chosen the appropriate option, you need to prepare well and follow your plan. If a guy doesn’t understand well, all he can do is take the help of a friend or even a policeman.