How to understand that a man, work colleague, boss likes you, what to do if he is married

Showing sincere sympathy for a male colleague

An unsuccessful office romance is a real punishment.
The sincere feeling of a colleague, especially when he is also attractive to a woman, is pleasant, but people rarely decide to have an office romance. According to statistics, such relationships end quickly and badly.

Important! An unsuccessful office romance is a real punishment, especially when former lovers are forced to continue their joint professional activities.

On the other hand, where else can a single lady find a reliable man’s shoulder if not at work, because many people spend most of their time there. In addition, it is much easier to form an opinion about a man with whom you are constantly close.

You can detect manifestations of sincere sympathy in a male colleague based on several signs:

Control your movement. A lover constantly keeps the woman he likes in his field of vision; he needs to be nearby. He searches for an object with his eyes, needing eye contact.
Invasion of personal space. An enthusiastic colleague unconsciously tries to stand closer to a woman he likes in order to “accidentally” touch her.
Engaging in conversation. A man often turns to a colleague he likes, asks for advice, and asks for his opinion on the most trivial matters.
Non-verbal communication. To hide his desire to touch, a man uses his hands: touches his hair, fingering something on the table, twirling a keychain or pen in his fingers. Psychologists consider the first sign of sympathy in a man to be when he keeps his hands in his pocket in front of a woman, unconsciously hiding the desire to touch her.

When a lover appeals to sympathy, the timbre of his voice changes to a softer one. He gets nervous when talking, allows strange pauses when choosing his words. He will be the first to notice the slightest change in a woman and give her a compliment.

Showing sympathy taking into account the horoscope

All men are different. But you can often predict behavior by knowing the zodiac sign of your admirer:

Aries. Such a young man is confident in himself and his own sexuality. Nothing scares him, so he can take initiative without hesitation. It is difficult to embarrass him, he is proud. The Aries man considers himself a sex symbol, even when he has several dozen extra pounds.
Calf. Since Taurus usually lacks initiative, such a guy is easily overcome by a panic attack when it comes time to prove himself in a relationship. When he decides to take the first step, it is the result of a long analysis of the other person's behavior. If a Taurus man is confident in how he feels and understands a woman's emotions, he will pursue her in a gentle and romantic way.

Twins. When they fall in love, it's hard to tell how long it will last. A man constantly needs change. While the guy feels emotions, nothing worries him. Geminis enjoy courtship and falling in love. Beware of love affairs with such a man at work - when his feelings cool down, he will quickly retreat.
Cancer. When this person falls in love, all his insecurities instantly come to the surface. Cancers tend to adhere to certain rules of behavior and courtship. It makes them feel a little safer. The guy is sweet and compassionate, but he is afraid to show it. His courtship can often be confused with ordinary gallantry.
A lion. These are bright and ambitious individuals. If they show sympathy for a girl, they become courteous and compliant. But keep in mind that love will only strengthen his ego; the young man will enjoy the pursuit of his “prey.” Leo may have problems with breaking up relationships. Holding on to shreds of emotions instead of looking for a new partner can cause a man to behave inappropriately. If something goes wrong, problems with him at work cannot be avoided.
Virgo. It can be difficult with a guy like this because his emotions are just as unreliable. Today this man shows sympathy and does not take his loving gaze off you, but tomorrow he will understand that it was a fleeting attraction. Virgo is ruled by Mercury, resulting in a dual personality that cannot always be trusted. If you are not sure of the reliability of emotions and feelings on his part, you do not need to reciprocate.
Scales. Such a man always makes decisions with difficulty. If he decided to courtship, it means he spent a long time analyzing. A Libra man can be intimidating with his forceful behavior. But remember that if he shows feelings and emotions, it means he takes you very seriously.

Scorpion. This person trusts his feelings. Feeling in love, Scorpio decides to conquer a woman. The guy will go to the end. His advances are beautiful and hard to resist. It is said that a Scorpio man can be obsessive, magnetic and vengeful. But the truth is that he is loyal, supportive, compassionate.
Sagittarius. He tends to fall in love quickly and act like a conqueror. At work, it is better to keep your distance from this person until his intentions become clear and his emotions stabilize.
Capricorn. When a Capricorn man falls in love, the first thing he does is start acting weird. He will have to learn to take it slow and steady to win someone's heart. Capricorn is one of the most stable, stubborn, deeply emotional signs. He doesn't take anything lightly and refuses to be superficial, which makes his emotions deep and real.
Aquarius. When this person falls in love, it will be difficult for him to show it. On the one hand, Aquarius will want to prove how amazing and incredible it is, but on the other hand, it will be difficult for him to communicate how he feels. To find ways to express love, Aquarius needs to create a feeling of internal security and confidence in the woman's reciprocal feelings.
Fish. When this person falls in love, he thinks he has found the love of his life. From a certain point of view, this may be true for each of his loves. Every relationship in his life is different from the previous ones and is important for his growth. His spontaneous and changeable nature will make him fly high and live in romance. Pisces will love with all their heart, never hold back and approach their loved one with care and respect. Unfortunately, you will never be able to know how long it will take before a Pisces man realizes that he is actually looking for someone else.

Showing sympathy depending on the type of temperament

However, a man’s demonstration of interest depends on his psychotype:

The choleric person will be happy to help with work, showing feelings with a bit of assertiveness, but the development of events will happen very slowly. He will not show violent emotions; he will constantly monitor the situation around the object of sympathy.
The phlegmatic will demonstrate his special attitude with the help of secret glances and sighs. He will choose a way to be closer to himself, becoming his best friend and assistant, but he is unlikely to admit his tender feelings or will not do so soon.
A sanguine person with an active lifestyle will prefer movement. A sign of his sympathy is cute signs of attention, childishness. He will constantly try to make the girl he likes laugh. Lost from embarrassment, he will speak and gesture even more actively than usual.
A melancholic person will behave as secretly as possible, but his emotions (unnatural facial expressions during a conversation, nervous movements of his fingers, trembling in his voice) will give him away.

5 surefire signs that a co-worker has feelings but is hiding them

For obvious reasons, many guys hide their likes.
For obvious reasons, many guys hide their likes. In some companies, office romances are prohibited under penalty of dismissal.

There are a number of signs that will help you guess about your colleague’s true feelings:

Appearance. Having become interested in a girl, a man will take better care of himself. This is especially noticeable if he was previously careless.
Eye contact. He will constantly catch her eye, but will look away as soon as she looks back.
Behavior. Will change, especially in the presence of the object of sympathy. The lover will more often demonstrate his best qualities and become friendlier.
Manner of speech. A sociable person will speak more, louder, and more emotionally. A calm and withdrawn person will have difficulty pronouncing a word in the presence of a girl he likes: he will be silent more often, stumble in conversation, and make awkward pauses.
Subject of communication. The colleague will try to find out more about the object of sympathy, as if “by the way” asking about personal things. The lover will begin to talk about himself more often.

How a work colleague shows his sympathy in an informal setting

If a lady is tired of understatement and games, a man can be provoked into openly showing interest.

A joint business trip, corporate event, or other time spent in an informal setting outside of work can encourage frankness:

Outside the office, in the company of a girl he likes, a man demonstrates his feelings more openly and boldly.
When talking to her, he tilts his head to his shoulder, turning his whole body towards his interlocutor.
He doesn’t look away, and if he gets even bolder, he looks at his neck - this is a clear sign of sympathy.
He tries to touch the woman, a cautious, unobtrusive gesture.
Smiles, fusses, jokes inappropriately.

If in public a man is a flint, his true feelings cannot be guessed, but in a non-work environment he behaves as described, then he is definitely in love.

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The company's office is an ideal place to find a suitable young man to create a strong couple or family, because common work unites and provides many topics for discussion, and spending many hours in the same space helps to get to know each other better. But to find a partner, you need to know how to understand that a male colleague at work likes you in order to be able to reciprocate.

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Signs of emerging feelings:

embarrassment - the young man averts his eyes and tries to avoid direct gaze;
nervousness - a previously calm young man begins to behave strangely, loses the thread of the conversation, tries not to speak out until addressed directly;
interested glances towards the object of desire;
increased gallantry, especially if there were no such manifestations before this moment.

However, it must be taken into account that different types of young people show sympathy in different ways.

How to recognize sympathy from your superiors

When a girl suspects sympathy not just for a colleague, but for her manager, she should exercise increased caution and discretion.

If a man is a rock in public, you can’t guess his true feelings

First of all, you need to be absolutely sure of his interest, so as not to end up in a stupid situation in the future. A young girl can easily confuse tact and politeness with being in love.

If the boss does show just such an interest, then his behavior will be accompanied by the following:

promoting professional achievements;
loyalty when providing time off;
increased health concerns if a woman takes sick leave;
praise, a compliment for the most insignificant success, as a result - an increase in salary;
eye contact when talking, attempts to touch, hug, support;
constant presence nearby, frequent communication under any pretext: involvement in negotiations, business meetings, etc.

Despite the presence of these signs, there is a possibility that the manager’s attentive behavior is only recognition of the woman’s professionalism.

Important! According to inexorable statistics, affairs with bosses almost always do not end well for a woman. If the manager is not interested as a man, it is better to stop the advances firmly, but with maximum delicacy.

How to show your male colleague your sympathy

Young people have the same doubts about their attractiveness as their chosen ones, so at the stage of dating or flirting you need to support the initiative or gently refuse. If a colleague has a chance for reciprocity, flirt back, send meaningful glances in his direction. It wouldn't hurt to review and evaluate your wardrobe. To work, try to wear discreet outfits that can highlight your figure. For example, it's worth choosing a tight pencil skirt, knowing that you will meet in the elevator in the morning or over a cup of coffee at lunchtime. If you are forced to refuse an offer to have lunch, explain a good reason and immediately offer an alternative time and place.

If a colleague is not attracted to a girl, you need to gently explain to him the reason for the refusal and thank him for the warm feelings. Please do not avoid communicating with him after a serious conversation.

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