How do you know if a classmate has a crush on you?

Signs of sympathy from a boy

Sometimes it is really important for girls to know the signs of sympathy from a boy. The fact is that at a young age, talking about feelings is something too complex and frank, especially for girls, so it is almost impossible to solve the problem directly.

Pay attention to his gaze, because this is the first thing that reveals a person’s real experiences! If he looks at you with obvious interest, then we can already say that he has some special sympathy for you. However, you need to be very careful with this! If you study your chosen one too long and closely, then most likely he will become interested in you only because of your inquisitive gaze.

In addition to the fact that he closely watches you and tries to start conversations on various topics, there may be other signs of his interest. Here are some of them:

How to know if a boy likes you

Showing sympathy from classmates can occur in different scenarios:

Pleasant and sweet relationships with gifts, attention, courtship and care. A guy and a girl can be kind to each other, seek communication, and spend a lot of time together.
There is an alternative method when the expression of sympathy occurs in a more aggressive manner and consists of banter, trolling, pulling pigtails, taking away things, etc.

The manifestation of feelings differs significantly depending on age characteristics:

at 11–12 years old , boys have not yet gained confidence, so expressions of sympathy can be expressed in the form of jokes, trips, pushes, which can outwardly be interpreted as hatred. Guys prefer to demonstrate their importance and importance by openly neglecting girls. This behavior is typical for many, but not for everyone, so only an open conversation or his desire to show feelings in a more understandable form will help to find out real sympathy;
at 13–14 years old - during this period, boys are still embarrassed to show their feelings, but they are less aggressive, and careful observation of their behavior will help to recognize the desire to communicate. They may come up and be interested in doing homework, how the weekend or vacation went, they will be pleased to provide a small favor, hand over a notebook, install a new application on their phone, or carry a briefcase. Facial expressions and gestures will also be more informative: an averted gaze, an awkward pause, embarrassment, a warm and attentive gaze. During this period, guys in love can dramatically change their image in order to please a girl: they can start wearing more elegant clothes, change their hairstyle, start using perfume and at the same time monitor the girl’s reaction to these changes;
at the age of 15 - modern guys can show their sympathy in various ways: courtship and demonstrations of falling in love become more open and obvious, they can perform, in their opinion, heroic acts to attract attention, they can invite girls on dates, give gifts, etc.

What other signs indicate that a guy is in love with a girl?

You can determine that a guy is in love with a girl by the following signs:

He keeps the conversation going. Truly interested in him. Conducts an open dialogue. Supports him. Does not speak in monosyllabic phrases and sentences.
Is a little intrusive. However, not to everyone. But only to the girl.
He constantly looks for the girl with his eyes. Their views regularly intersect with each other.
He communicates with his daughter's friends. Finds out everything about her from them. Including phone number. And also social networks.
Jealous of other people. In particular, to the guys. When he sees that the girl is standing next to them, he begins to get angry. And be offended.
Monitors the girl's mood. She supports him in every possible way.
He happily introduces the girl to his friends. Strives to meet her friends.
Writes messages regularly. Calls periodically.
Doesn't notice the girl's shortcomings. Emphasizes only its advantages.
Shows signs of attention towards the girl. Takes care of her. Is empathetic.
Protects in every possible way. He makes the girl next to him feel protected. Completely safe.
He misses them when they don't see each other. He writes to the girl about this. He tells different stories from his life.
He does various unusual things that make the girl feel “butterflies in her stomach.” And enjoy walking together.
He says that the girl is the most beautiful in the world. If he compares her with others, then in a positive way. She says she's better.
Constantly does various activities on social networks. For example, he puts likes. Writes comments.
He tries in every possible way to woo the girl. Calls for a date. Offers to go for a walk, see each other, and so on.
Tries to joke a lot. In order to gain respect from the girl. And also a good mood. And show off your wit.

What kind of girls do guys like?

At school age, girls tend to succumb to the influence of television and magazines, which zealously defend a certain standard of beauty. Actually this is not true. Fashion is a changeable and individual concept.

In real life, beauty rarely matches fictional standards. This is due to the fact that each person has his own preferences laid down by nature. One guy likes tall girls, another - short girls, a third - with long hair, and another has his own standards of beauty.

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But there are unspoken rules, following which will help you always be attractive:

well-groomed appearance (clean hair, neat nails);
pleasant smell (and we are not talking about perfume, but about the use of deodorants);
clean clothes tailored to the specific situation;
pleasant manners;
smile.

To such simple rules it is worth adding one more important point: be an interesting conversationalist. A neat appearance and a rich inner world will make you a queen in the eyes of guys. And your classmates will envy and strive for your heights.

Elements of nonverbal psychology

Psychology gives effective advice on how to understand that a guy likes you by his behavior. There are many nonverbal indicators of obvious affection.

We offer a small test on how to understand if a guy likes you:

he begins to get interested in the same thing as you, and does it so that you can see it (for example, he begins to collect information on his VKontakte wall about your favorite musical group);
strives to correspond to your ideas about how a real man should look/dress/cut/behave (for example, if you said in a company that you like guys with a fashionable haircut, then the guy gets the same one for himself);
masters the same skills as you (for example, learning to skateboard if you are interested in this sport);
in your presence he refuses to make rude and vulgar jokes, even if it is customary to behave this way in his company;
tries to become useful to you (for example, finds and sends you links to materials for your essay).

If at least two of these signs of sympathy are present in his behavior, then everything is very simple to understand: he is secretly in love with you.

Look, eyes

Usually a girl knows how to tell by her eyes that a guy likes you.
Everything here is quite simple: every person strives to look at the object of desire as often as possible. The sight of a girl you like triggers a release of endorphins in the brain, which causes a response of pleasure. Therefore, a guy who likes you will involuntarily look at you more often than at other people.

How can you tell by looking that a guy likes you? Eye contact can happen in different ways:

the young man stares at you;
when you speak, he looks at your lips;
when he speaks, he looks into your eyes.

There is another simple way to understand by looking that a guy likes you. Sometimes shy young people begin to “play a staring contest”: with your peripheral vision you see that he is looking at you, but as soon as you turn your head in his direction, he quickly averts/lowers his eyes or turns away. Usually this is the only thing that gives a true hint that the guy likes you.

Gestures

There is one simple secret on how to understand by gestures that a guy likes you. Loud speech, as well as sharp and sweeping movements of a guy in the presence of a girl are manifestations of ancient instincts of procreation. Male primates, in order to attract the attention of a female, perform a kind of dance during mating games, moving sharply and actively.

For men, this also often works at the subconscious level. When you see that in your presence a guy begins to wave his arms, makes various somersaults, makes sudden movements, accidentally drops something, and his speech becomes louder, then everything can be understood without words. It is he who, at the instinctive level, is trying to attract your attention.

Poses

On a subconscious level, we always strive to hug and touch someone we like. If a guy likes a girl, you can tell by the position of his body.

The main signs of sympathy at the body level are:

the desire to reduce physical distance (the guy tries to get as close as possible);
standing or sitting next to you, the young man spreads his arms wide (for example, puts his straightened arm on the back of the sofa at the level of your neck);
during a conversation, the guy leans with one hand on the wall, blocking you.

All poses with arms outstretched make it clear that the guy on a subconscious level wants to hug you.

Reaction to compliments

Experiment. During the dialogue, note that you like his hairstyle, clothes, perfume. Compliment his taste in music, his phone case. Guys love praise, it gives them strength and confidence. Take the initiative and watch the reaction. Anyone who likes you will be flattered. This will become clear by your gaze and smile. Don't overdo it with compliments!

Understanding that a guy at school likes you is not that difficult. Pay attention to the signs that we talked about in our article. If the sympathy is mutual, do not hesitate to take the initiative first - invite him for a walk or to the cinema.