75 examples - what to write to a girl on a dating site

How to create the perfect profile on a dating site

Under no circumstances should you immediately start looking for a beautiful girl after registering on the site. First you need to work with your profile, make it attractive and informative.

The first and most obvious thing to do is register. To do this, you need to look through the top sites and choose the most suitable one. Next, write the most important information about yourself:

tell us why you signed up
who are you looking for
about your hobbies and interests.

But you shouldn’t paint huge canvases: firstly, no one will read them, and secondly, you need to maintain intrigue.

Important! Check your spelling and punctuation, no one wants to meet an uneducated young man.

Be sure to add a photo (avatar). If you're thinking about skipping this point, congratulations, your mission to win the girl has failed. Photo is one of the first factors that the fair sex pays attention to . And you yourself, when you look through profiles, don’t you look at the photographs? It is important that the photo is of high quality; if you don’t have one, it’s time to go to a photo shoot. Or ask a friend to take a high-quality shot. The avatar should show the face and part of the physique.

It is done? Almost. Pay attention to the paid services of the site - this may be the opportunity to give gifts online or you will be added to the TOP of users. Each site has its own characteristics. If you are serious about finding a lady, this may help you. Girls like to see categorically minded guys who go towards their goal, sparing no resources.

Where to start communication

Communication is the exchange of information between two people. When meeting a young man, a girl takes into account the factor of interest in a particular young man, his charisma and attractiveness. Sometimes a stranger has no desire to get acquainted, but a bold approach, an unconventional approach and simply pleasant communication change plans. If you are in doubt and don’t know how to start the first conversation with the girl you like, listen to your intuition and act boldly.

Examples of first phrases

Phrases that help you communicate with young ladies are divided into three types:

Selected for a specific situation. They require observation or sufficient time to find an interesting detail and focus on it. An example is a comment about the details of the image (high heels, a raincoat in cloudy weather), about objects in the hands (a bottle of water in the heat, an umbrella) or about the features of appearance.
Showing the power of the partner. This method is chosen by young people who are confident in themselves and their appearance. The option will not work if the young man does not feel confident in himself and mumbles.
Templates. Long-bored phrases that are known to many. However, a feature of this approach is an interesting continuation option. Since in 95% of cases the question “Does mom need a son-in-law?” the young man receives a refusal, you can try to joke about the reasons for receiving it. For example, say that if the reason is in appearance, then it is genes, like the good character from the grandfather. A barely noticeable smile will be enough to understand that continuing the acquaintance is real.

Topics for conversation

A good option to start a conversation on the street is to choose a phrase that can hook, surprise, and attract attention. But it is also important to successfully develop the conversation, because the main goal of dating is to continue it, date and, possibly, start a relationship. Therefore, decide what you can talk about after meeting.

After the first phrase, even if it caused a smile and approval, the girl still doubts the adequacy of the young man. Therefore, indicate the purpose of the acquaintance, preferably clarifying minor details. Tell us where you came from or where you were going, for what reason and for what purpose you decided to start communicating. This will relax you a little and inspire confidence.

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After this, initiate a conversation on one of the simple topics. Since acquaintance is just beginning, limit yourself to superficial options:

news from the film industry;
concerts and performances in a famous theater;
famous places in the city or suburb, excursion routes;
animals and attitudes towards them;
trips.

This will help you learn a little about your chosen one, her position and attitude towards certain issues.

Ways to keep your interlocutor's attention

The way to start a conversation that is interesting for both is now clear. But that's not all, because you need to keep the attention of your new acquaintance.

To do this, follow the plan:

Mentally identify the goal you are striving for. You can talk to a girl all evening, but leave without exchanging phone numbers. This is counterproductive, so mentally hold on to what you need to focus on.
Keep the dialogue calm. Do not interrupt, do not shout down, try to simultaneously find out about the girl and tell information about yourself.
Don't forget to make light jokes to keep things interesting.
Control your time. The first acquaintance cannot last the whole day. Even if there are no plans for the day, artificially come up with them. If both know that time is limited, communication will be more productive. This will justify the desire to meet on the next free day to go on an excursion or a movie that interested both of them during the discussion.

First message

Before you start communicating, decide who you will communicate with - study the girls’ profiles. Some people seem inaccessible to you and you think that you will never achieve their attention? Don't panic, add her profile to your favorites, you'll come back to it later when you're already a pickup master. First, get acquainted with pretty, but, at first glance, undemanding ladies. It’s better to pay attention to those who have recently registered and are not yet in great demand among guys.

The most important thing to understand is that girls do not rush at everyone who writes messages to them. They especially do not react to banalities such as “Hi, how are you?”, “What are you doing?” - they have dozens of such messages and they simply go down, skipping new ones ahead, simply because they are not interested.

In order for a girl to answer you, you need to add intrigue and arouse curiosity.

The first thing you need to start with is to play intrigue, write something like this: “Hi, you don’t guess, but I know something about you.” Of course, the lady couldn’t resist and immediately asked. Girls are very curious and such messages will not leave anyone indifferent. But you don’t need to turn every message into a play on words. This is necessary at the initial stage, when you need to get interested. Afterwards you can communicate on distant, everyday topics.

Dominate or please

Many gorgeous girls are looking for a strong, domineering man, next to whom they can feel like a weak princess. Therefore, be persistent, be a little arrogant, but polite. Try to immediately go ahead and write “You are a gorgeous girl, write your number, we’ll call you and get to know each other better.” But there is one nuance here - go back to your profile, is the photo showing a confident guy who can conquer the world? No? Urgently look for a good photographer or change your clothing style and hairstyle. A girl may react warily to such a statement and slight impudence, BUT she will definitely answer.

If such tactics are alien to you and you are more romantic by nature, take it with compliments and refined communication. But beware of platitudes, there is no need for “You are beautiful”, “Super photo”. If you want to give a compliment about your appearance, don’t write “You look great,” but try to interest them by asking the question: “How many men have you already conquered with your beauty? I think I'm one of them."

Pay attention to the features of the girl’s profile, give compliments that relate to her, and not to all representatives of beauty. Note her manicure, clothes, hairstyle. Then the girl will see that you are interested in her.

Common interests

The best point of contact will be common interests, which will automatically create a topic for conversation. But don’t write “Hello. What are you interested in?” Study her photos, maybe a lot of travel shots. Ask if she likes traveling, how often she allows herself to relax on vacation, what is her favorite place. And be sure to tell us about your travel experience, then the conversation will begin and, perhaps, you will spend your next vacation together.

If it is noticeable that the girl loves books, write “I recently read a collection of poetry from the Silver Age, I would like to know your opinion as an expert, how do you like it? Which writer resonated with you the most?” If it turns out that the girl has not yet had time to read this literature, ask what she is reading at the moment, tell her that you will also take up this book. And if the lady is really interesting, spend a useful evening - read the work and then you will have a topic for conversation, and the interlocutor will see your desire.

Where and how to approach a girl to meet her

To the question “how to talk to an unfamiliar girl?” The answer is simple: just go and say something. You can start a conversation with almost any words. It is important to feel confident (but not act overconfident), and also to let the girl know why you chose her.

In this case, places where you become members of a temporary group are ideal. For example:

You are shopping in a store and, having noticed a pretty woman, approach her and ask for help with choosing a jumper or shirt (they say, from the outside you know better).
The two of you found yourself in line to see the doctor . For example, a dentist, therapist or even an ophthalmologist will do. You can ask her if she has already been to this doctor before, in the case of a dentist, ask what helps her not to be afraid, etc. The conversation will flow on its own in the right direction, and before calling her into the office, you should simply ask her for her phone number.
In a bookstore, you notice in a girl’s hands a book that you have already read or are just about to read. You can ask if she likes this series, if she would recommend something similar, or recommend something more interesting/useful to her yourself.

If there is no temporary group , then when contacting a young lady, you must first say hello, then say something about her herself, i.e. why you paid attention to her (for example, that she is walking sad, or that, on the contrary, she is smiling, not heavy whether she has a package or she has a sweater with a funny pattern that caught your attention). If a girl is in a positive mood, she will definitely smile and thank you for the original compliment, after which you can invite the young lady to drink coffee or take a walk.

Don't drag your feet

If you see that the girl is friendly, and communication has become more active and constant, then it’s time to act and get her phone number. Then arrange a personal meeting. Don’t be surprised if the communication was pleasant and you thought she liked you, but in an instant the lady disappeared. This only means that you did not take a step towards a real relationship in time. The girl saw that the communication had reached a dead end, was not moving anywhere, and went to look for a more serious young man.

Phrases to start a conversation

You need to use your imagination. There are a lot of options for what to say to a girl. It is important to choose those that are suitable for a specific situation.

There are three types of phrases for communicating with a girl when meeting a girl:

Contextual. They can be determined by observing the girl and the surrounding environment. As a rule, these are phrases related to her appearance, gait, the object she is holding, or surrounding things. The lady immediately understands that the young man’s interest is directed specifically at her.
Directive. These phrases make it clear to the young lady from the first moment that they want to get to know her. Their effectiveness is lower, and the possibility of refusal on the female side is much higher. This method is suitable for men with a high level of charm and good looks, who have a much higher chance of arousing sympathy at first sight. The main thing is to think about where you can start a conversation with her.
Template. When using them, the probability of success and failure is the same. The basic rule for the effectiveness of template phrases lies in two factors - the right words and continuation of the conversation on the same topic.

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TOP best phrases for dating

Now in front of you is a treasure trove of phrases that will allow you to win any girl. But remember that everyone is an individual. Choose words that will suit your interlocutor, and do not just copy and paste. Yes, yes, for future happiness you will have to work a little. To get guaranteed success, you need to know how to properly meet a girl.

I usually don’t meet people on the Internet, but I couldn’t resist you.
It's dark outside, smile.
I'm sorry to bother you, but I won't be able to continue living if I don't say that you're gorgeous.
I’ve been trying for half an hour to figure out what to write to you, but all my thoughts are only about your beauty.
Today I could not turn on the computer and then I would not have found out about you. Terrible, isn't it?
I know your name and that you have great hair, let me find out something else about you.
I didn’t believe in love and fate, but when I saw you, something changed in me.
I'm afraid that fate will no longer be favorable to me and will not give me a second chance, so let's get to know each other now?
You have an impeccable figure and I’m sure that a light dessert for dinner today won’t ruin it. Which place do you prefer to meet?
Do you think love at first sight exists? I don’t believe that, so I looked at you twice.
How does it feel to be the most beautiful girl on the site?
What are your plans for tonight? Let me change them.
Do you already have plans for your life? Let me correct them and write me off in them.
You are so beautiful that even gays will doubt their sexuality.
I don’t just want to chat, I have more serious plans for you.
Today it was reported on the news that a beautiful angel descended to Earth, isn't it you?
What is your name? I would like to try your name on with my last name.
Urgently! I need help! You wounded me to the very heart.
How lucky I am that I'm not married. In the name of communicating with you, I would have to divorce my wife.
In your eyes I see answers to many questions. But I don’t see only a phone number in them.
What does a simple guy need to write to a gorgeous girl to get her to pay attention to him?
I have very serious intentions for a shared cup of coffee.
Do you spend a lot of time at the computer? Let's take care of our health and meet in reality.
Let me give you happiness?
What do you dream about? My dream has already come true - I found you.
Hi Babe. How about close communication with a real man?
If I had a choice between a million dollars and an endless life, I would choose a minute of communication with you.
When I saw your photo, I canceled all plans for your sake.
I'm thinking about inviting you to the registry office, but maybe we'll start with the restaurant?
I won't be able to sleep all night if you don't answer me.
I'm afraid to oversleep, could you wake me up tomorrow with your call?
Today I looked in the dictionary of synonyms and next to the word “beauty” was your name.
You're obviously lucky today...
Do you sing in a choir? Me neither. I know we have a lot in common.
I'm not local, tell me how to get to your house.
Hello, I already agree...
Girl, what time is it now? I heard somewhere that (the time the girl will name) is meant for love.
Do you promise to kiss me if I'm wrong? Your name is Praskovya.
I won’t forgive myself if I don’t get to know you.
I dream of being in the 30% of those who have found their soulmate on the Internet, can you help?
Looking at your photograph, I am afraid of losing my memory from the dazzling beauty. What other talents do you have?
When I first saw you, I couldn’t close my eyes all night. Let's chat better?
Is it such a sunny day today or are you smiling?
Your photos are so hot that they will melt the ice of the Arctic.
When I leafed through your photos, the cat purred approvingly. Maybe fate?
Can you tell me how to cook an omelette?
I am a seller of happiness, but I will give it to you for free.
Hello. Don't worry, I'm not writing to you for another acquaintance. I want to invite you to the cinema.
I'm writing a novel about what girls want. Would you mind sharing some secret information?
Hello, what are you a professional at?
I want you to be the owner of my life.
I'll be brief. My name is Alexander and I liked you.
I see you're not going to make the first move? So I'll do it. Let's get acquainted.
Do you have a rope to tie our destinies?
Let me chat with you all night, otherwise I'm afraid of the dark.
When I first saw you, a star fell in the sky. This seems to be a sign.
Hello. The longest kiss in the world lasts 36 hours. Shall we break the record?
What is it like to be the most beautiful girl in the world?
What's it like to be the most wonderful guy in the world? I know, let's get acquainted.
Hello, is it just me or did you star in some TV series?
What are you planning to do after our shared walk?
Haven't we met anywhere before? I think I saw you in my dream.
Do you know what can be faster than light? Thoughts about you.
I have a very interesting life and I would like to spend it with you.
There is too little beauty in the world, add your photos more often.
Is it better for a guy to be handsome or smart? Which one do you want to see next to you?
I decided to buy a suit for a pug. Can you help me choose?
I was invited to a terribly boring corporate event. Let's walk it with you.
Hello. Do you think love is chemistry or something more?
Hello. Was it me who saw you when I was returning from paradise?
You look like an angel. What will you sell your wings for?
Girl, are you tired of annoying suitors yet?
Do you believe in true love?
What did such a sweet girl forget on this site?

Now you have a list of proposals that you can send to the girl. Please note that some of them are humorous, others are serious, and there are also philosophical questions. This set is suitable for any occasion. But remember that you need to select them individually for the lady; some may not understand the humor, while others may find the romance intrusive.

How to attract a girl's interest

You can start chatting casually with a pretty girl anywhere, because neither time nor place matters if the interlocutor is of interest. When you first meet, try to act confidently, anticipating details that your new acquaintance will like.

Place to meet

If you don’t know how to start an exciting conversation with an unfamiliar girl, then choose the right place. Show up where you feel comfortable to look for attractive people to talk to. For the first chance meeting, crowded places and an early time are suitable - the day or evening before sunset. In such an atmosphere, a girl most often feels safe, even when a stranger of the opposite sex approaches her.

Appearance

It's impossible to look perfect all the time, but trying to make a positive impression is possible. A man’s style should not depend on the taste of the woman he is trying to meet, so there is no need to radically change his appearance when meeting a girl. It is important to keep your clothes clean, do not forget to iron them, clean them of hair and small debris. Hair and nails also require care. To impress rather than reject, remember to make monthly trips to the hairdresser.

Behavior

Daring young men will interest a girl, especially if the strangers are under 15 years old. Teenagers love to maximize and go to extremes. However, if a young man is looking for a way to establish communication with an adult young lady, then he should prefer a restrained and respectful manner. A good mood is a must. Try to be friendly and show friendliness. This will simultaneously help relieve tension with a smile, and will also create the feeling that there is no need to be afraid of a new acquaintance.

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The effect of surprise

In a girl's mind, the ideal gentleman has such qualities as courage, resourcefulness and determination. If you notice a pretty stranger for the first time, act decisively. Don't test your patience by carefully watching a girl from afar - this will scare her and make her nervous. Besides, after this she may not have the desire to meet you.

Intrigue in correspondence

Sometimes it is difficult to learn how to make new acquaintances on the street, in a cafe or library. In such cases, the Internet comes to the rescue. There are many beautiful girls on social networks who could become pleasant interlocutors. However, in this case, it is not clear how to beautifully promote a virtual dialogue. First, you should carefully review the available information and choose one of the behavioral tactics.

The most effective method is when a young man writes to a stranger about a secret connected with her. After such a message, even a not very curious woman is interested in what information is being discussed. After three or four messages, you can write that this secret lies in the stunning beauty that the chosen one has. A pleasant joke will defuse the situation, simultaneously becoming a compliment and an original way to start an interesting acquaintance.

Relax and be yourself

Psychologists recommend being open and honest when meeting someone, so that the girl feels and accepts this state. However, the technique works when the young man has sufficient experience of communicating with the opposite sex and a strong nervous system. Otherwise, if anxiety overcomes you, it is better to adhere to a certain plan of action:

Make eye contact. Catch a stranger's eye by chance and do it unobtrusively. Close observation will confuse and frighten. When you see her eyes, try to be persistent so that she, and not you, turns them away first.
Distract, create an unexpected situation. All available measures will come to the rescue. In a public place, a loud announcement is suitable, in which the girl is asked to approach the administrator. This will help to surprise and get out of the comfort zone, which will put young people in the same position.
After you have done something, come up and apologize. You can give the young lady a small gift - a cup of coffee or a cake. Tell me honestly that you were worried, but really wanted to meet. Explain the reasons, giving your new friend a compliment at the same time.
Specify that you are in a hurry, but be sure to make an appointment. Don't forget to take the number to make sure the meeting will take place.

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If a young man has a plan of action, it will be easier to commit an act. Think through the details in advance and draw up a rough scenario to understand how the acquaintance will go.

Rules of communication on the Internet

In order for the search for a lady to be successful, you need to know several laws:

be yourself . After all, there is a meeting ahead and it will be ugly if you said one thing about yourself, but in reality it turned out to be something else;
be persistent , but not pushy. If a lady refuses you once, take time and offer again, and do not immediately inundate her with proposals in one day;
don’t be rude and forget about profanity;
don’t ask about former relationships , the time will come for these questions.