How to tell a girl that I like her, hint that I love her and want to be with her.

Even the bravest brutal man may have difficulties when he needs to tell a girl about his feelings. What is the best way to act so as not to look stupid: say it directly or hint? Or maybe just write an SMS and wait for a reaction?

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Should you be the first to tell a girl that you like her?

Of course, if a certain girl arouses your sympathy, and you hope for reciprocal feelings, then tell her about it, show her in some way or hint. It is so customary that men often take the first step in expressing their feelings. Not all girls are ready to take the initiative in this regard, so even if the person who attracts you likes you, you may not even know about it until you yourself indicate your position in relation to her.

It is worth understanding that many girls were raised from childhood in such a way that it is unacceptable for them to be the first to show their sympathy to a guy. Perhaps she believes that by this act she will not show herself in the best light, because “decent girls do not impose themselves.” It may also be that she had a negative experience during her school years - she showed her sympathy, but did not achieve it in return. In any case, if you want to know for sure whether you have a chance of building a relationship with this girl, you should let her know that you care about her. You can determine for yourself how best to do this. Of course, the character of the girl, the duration of the acquaintance and many other factors matter.

Moreover, it is important to remember that girls love decisive guys, so even if she initially did not consider you as a potential partner, your confession may make her look at you from a completely different perspective.

What prevents guys from confessing their sympathy?

Guys, these courageous, strong and courageous creatures, are completely helpless in matters of love, like small children. The moment a young man realizes that a lady has fallen into his heart, he loses control over himself, begins to get lost and shy, and is literally overcome by panic. He may strive for communication and meetings, but does not admit his true feelings because he is afraid of rejection from his beloved. Fear can arise for other reasons:

How to tell a girl how you feel

When you're really afraid to admit it

If you are afraid to admit your feelings and can’t do anything about this fear yet, then, apparently, you are completely unsure of exactly how the girl treats you. In this case, you should get closer to her to learn more about her and understand what your chances are of being together. It is better not to delay the process of rapprochement, so as not to move into the friend zone.

What you need to do for this:

Be attentive to her - listen to what she says, ask leading questions.
Take an interest in what she does in her free time, what her mood is, whether everything is okay with her - be sympathetic.
Try to cheer her up more often - with jokes, smiles, and so on.
Show interest in her personality - what she likes and what she doesn’t, what films she can recommend for watching, etc.

When she's your friend

Remember that friendships often make loving couples - perhaps the same will happen in your case! Many girls are secretly in love with their friends, but often try to overcome this feeling, fearing that it will not be mutual and that they will end up losing each other. However, even if this is not the case, your chances are very high, because if a girl is friends with you, then at least she likes you. You can start to get to the point by simply starting a conversation about what she generally thinks about friendship between a man and a woman, how common she thinks it is, and how good couples are made as a result of bringing such friends together.

It is worth noting that in fact, such unions often turn out to be stronger than others. Many people start relationships without really knowing each other, and then break up due to “surprises” revealed to them. Friends, in turn, as a rule, are already well aware of each other’s bad sides, and enter into romantic relationships already consciously.

When she loves another guy

The situation is quite difficult and by taking too drastic actions you can only cause harm. First, try to understand what kind of relationship connects the girl and her lover. If they are not a couple or he doesn't treat her very well in the relationship and she is suffering because of it, then your chances are very high. Try to be near her as often as possible, showing your clear advantages over the object of her affection. Be attentive to her, take an interest in her affairs, make surprises without hinting at a serious relationship. Most likely, if she gets more attention from you than from the guy she was originally interested in, her interest will be redirected to you.

When she said she liked me

In this case, it’s easiest to act, because the girl has already given you the green light. If you didn’t immediately get your bearings and didn’t admit your reciprocal sympathy, then don’t put it off until later. Call her, write or offer to meet her, admitting that you really like her too.

What to write to a guy after a quarrel to make him understand that I need him

Quarrels happen even between those people who cannot live without each other for a minute. Therefore, we need to look for ways to reconcile.

You can honestly admit your own guilt: “Forgive me. Talk to me. I need this so much” or call for mutual reconciliation: “Are we really going to allow our huge world to be destroyed because of minor differences? Let's forget everything and start over." But you shouldn’t limit yourself to correspondence. It is important to consolidate the relationship with a personal meeting.

Hints of liking a girl

Compliments about her taste and figure

Every girl loves compliments, even if she won't admit it. Usually girls are attentive to the choice of their clothes and hairstyle, and you can draw her attention to the fact that you notice this and admire her taste. For example, you can say that she has a funny T-shirt, a very nice dress, shiny hair, cool jeans, and the like. As a rule, girls like such words. Many representatives of the fair sex believe that they have a special eye color, and even if you don’t bark, still give the girl a compliment on this score: “You have such a beautiful and interesting eye color.” Make some comparison. If the eyes are green, then say that they have an emerald shine, if they are blue, compare them with the endless sea, yellow ones with a cat’s gaze, gray ones with an anxious sky on the eve of rain (specify that you like rain).

It is also important to note that many girls doubt their figure. however, if your chosen one is happy with her, then confirmation of her thoughts will only please her. A very thin girl does not need to say: “Oh, you need to eat more, otherwise the wind will blow you away,” instead say: “You are as fragile as Thumbelina! I like!". If a girl is inclined to be overweight, then on occasion note that she has an ideal figure. If a girl often goes to the gym, say that it’s noticeable, adding: “Guys are probably freaking out.”

Flowers and banal amenities

Probably all girls love flowers, and if someone doesn’t like bouquets, it’s only because they prefer flowers in pots rather than cut ones. Although some people, on the contrary, love bouquets, not finding the time or much desire to look after house plants. However, you will most likely find out about this circumstance after you hand over the flowers, unless you casually ask about it in advance. Girls also love various goodies - casually find out about her tastes either in personal communication, or by studying a page on a social network (often you can determine from the profile what exactly a particular person likes).

Write poems with a hint about love

If you do not have confidence in your own poetic abilities, then it is better to find a work by some classic - Asadov, Yesenin, Pushkin, Rozhdestvensky and so on. Let there be no more explicit declarations of love, but the topic should be close to that. You can send her the work by personal message via SMS or social network, commenting that you caught your eye today and really liked it. At a minimum, the girl will think that you are not alien to romance.

Invitation to the cinema or a cup of coffee

This is already a very radical step, and if in previous cases the girl may still doubt your sympathy, then after such an invitation even the most slow-witted one will suspect that you like her. Choose a cozy coffee shop where you can talk calmly. If you are not yet sure that, due to the feelings that have gripped you, you will be able to have a free conversation, then it is better to choose an art cafe where some musical groups perform. You can also invite a girl to the cinema for an interesting premiere.

SMS recognition

If you cannot decide to confess to a girl, although you assume that the feelings may be mutual, then an SMS message may be a way out of the situation. For some girls, this option is even preferable because... with “live” recognition, they are often lost and do not know how to react. In the case of a message, the girl will have the opportunity to think about her answer and approach it carefully. True, subsequently all important conversations with this girl, if you develop a relationship, are better to be conducted in person, so that she does not get the impression that you are afraid of any serious topics.

Selfless help

Help the girl without hinting at anything in return. Do it casually, as you would do it for a close relative or friend. Help can be very different. Perhaps she is late for somewhere and you have the opportunity to give her a ride. It is possible that she has problems with her laptop, and you could repair it and so on.

Let her know that she is the best

This can be done by commenting, for example, on some star (it is better to avoid comparisons with real acquaintances if they are not obvious enemies of the girl). For example, she is delighted with some actress - note that you will not understand what she sees in her. if she herself is much more beautiful. Or especially note her merits: “I’ve never met a girl who cooks so deliciously,” “You have the perfect height,” “It’s crazy what color your eyes are,” “You’re so graceful, you probably did ballet?” etc.

You can say “I love you” in other words or actions

There are many ways to show your chosen one how you feel. If you have a meeting in the cold season, or you work together, grab her a glass of her favorite hot drink. If she is sick, offer to bring her medicine or give her some fruit (you can also do it through a friend or courier): “Eat your vitamins, get better.” You can also send a bouquet of flowers by courier on any occasion or “Just for the mood.” Rest assured, such actions will most likely be appreciated.

Avoiding Ambiguity

Without realizing it, a guy can sometimes express himself ambiguously. The human psyche notices bad moments first, so a girl can be offended by an unsuccessful compliment, and a guy will be sure that he said a stunning phrase.

Let's say a young man wanted to sincerely praise his companion's chubby cheeks. But such a compliment may disappoint and upset her. She will not notice that her gentleman likes her cheeks, but she will definitely remember that they are plump. The same goes for compliments about hips and breasts. Many girls will take statements about them as a manifestation of the arrogance and vulgarity of a young man.

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To gently hint at a relationship, you need

Explain why she is special and you need her

Make it clear that you don't just want a relationship with some girl, but that you are interested in her. Tell us what you like most about her, why you think your couple has a chance for a happy relationship. Tell her about when you first realized that you liked him, what exactly you felt. Girls especially like such stories.

Show how much a woman cares for you

It happens that words are not always enough, and many women no longer take words seriously. Therefore, do not neglect actions that could show her your true attitude towards her. Many men have forgotten what it means to “court” a woman, thereby increasing the “value” of those who still do it.

Induce her to have her first kiss

Most women believe that the beginning of a serious relationship is the first date or declaration of love, and the first kiss. If you bring your meeting to the point that it ends with the first kiss (you can do this when parting, walking your chosen one home), then it means that you were completely able to win her over.

Voice your desire that you want to see her next to you

Some women do not understand hints or do not want to take them seriously for fear of getting into an awkward position. Usually we are talking about adults, busy or business women who do not have time to “catch” your signals. In this case, it is best to say your feelings directly.

How to start dating?

Let's imagine a simple situation: you are walking down the street, riding public transport... or shopping in a store. And then you see HER - the girl of your dreams. Well, or just very pretty and cute. What to do? What should I do? It is logical that the best solution would be to approach and talk to her, but how to do this?

Or, suppose this is a work colleague, a classmate or classmate, a mutual friend... In a word, you see each other with enviable regularity, but it’s not clear what to do next.

Why do many men have difficulty communicating with girls they like? The reasons may vary. However, the most common are:

Excessive shyness;
Negative experiences experienced;
Diffidence;
Fear of rejection or ridicule;
Low self-esteem;
Popularity of a sympathetic girl;
Difference in social strata;
Inability to approach a girl, because a lady is never alone.

Many items from the list above in one way or another indicate self-doubt. In order to cope with uncertainty, long-term work on oneself is necessary. It would be a good idea to visit a male psychologist or psychotherapist, but it is unlikely that the girl you like will wait for a long time.

Therefore, you can use the tips below.

If you feel very embarrassed, then you should still try to guess the moment when the girl will be left alone, or at least away from everyone else. But you shouldn’t obsessively pursue her from a distance - this will cause unnecessary tension and will much more quickly become a reason for ridicule, if not of the girl herself, then of those around her.
Often it is simply not possible to wait for an opportunity to catch a girl alone. A good alternative would be to wait until there are as few people around her as possible, approach her, and ask her to move away for a while. And already away from people, start a conversation with her.

But what if you don’t know each other and are meeting for the first time? There is only one way out - to overcome your embarrassment and come up. But how to start dating? There are many recommended phrases that abound on the Internet. This includes “Does your mother need a son-in-law?”, and “They called from the heavenly office, their angel has disappeared, but I won’t tell anyone that I saw you” and many others. Don't use them.

Why such categoricalness? It's simple. If, when approaching a pretty girl, you are initially unsure of yourself and show off, this is immediately noticeable. There is no need to appear to be someone you are not. This is very noticeable, hence quite aggressive and mocking responses are common. It also happens that a girl who was thinking a second ago something like “What a handsome young man” after such a phrase continues her thought in a very impartial way.

Therefore, the first rule is to be yourself. Yes, you may be shy, blush, turn pale and stutter. More sincerity and openness from the first minutes means more chances for success.

Rule two: say what you think and feel. No hackneyed phrases. If a girl strikes you with her beauty, just say, “Girl, you are very beautiful, can I meet you?” Firstly, in this case there are only two answer options - either yes or no. Secondly, a girl will be very pleased to hear a sincere compliment. Thirdly, even if she refuses, remember: negative experience is also experience. This way, you will learn, at a minimum, to overcome your embarrassment, which will greatly help in the future. And the more such approaches you perform, the less stress you will have with each subsequent one.

Let's say a girl agrees to meet you and leave her phone number - invite her not to delay and sit in a cafe or take a walk. Even if there is no time for this, this will show your interest.

You shouldn’t start calling or writing right away - an abundance of attention from a stranger you don’t know can not only put you on guard, but also repel you. Wait until evening at least.

You can and should ask general questions that will allow you to find out about the girl’s mood, some events in her life, interests and hobbies.

You cannot ask questions on sexual topics, be rude, use extreme expression, put pressure, ask for addresses, or be too annoying.

By following these simple rules, you have every chance of getting on your first and subsequent dates.

What to do if a girl refuses

In this situation, of course, you need to behave like a man - without making a scene, without insulting the girl and without making fun of her later in the company of friends. If you behave with dignity in this situation, then perhaps the girl will look at you from a completely different perspective and will soon want to be with such a balanced guy. If she refused, then simply say: “Well, then the topic is closed.” If you were on friendly terms before, then there is no need to avoid her now, act as if nothing happened, and do not return to this topic even with hints until she herself initiates such a conversation. If you haven’t communicated before, then just periodically congratulate her on the social network on the New Year, Birthday and March 8th, for example. If she becomes interested in you, she will somehow let you know about it.

What should you absolutely not do?

If you want a girl to like you, never make these mistakes:

Don't copy others, don't try to seem cool . All sorts of false phrases and gestures only make you raise your eyebrows in bewilderment and draw a conclusion about the man’s low intelligence.
Don't talk to other women with her , even if you're just friends for now, don't tell her about your ex, about what a bitch she is and how you suffered. Talk only about you, you are here and now.

Don't be nervous. Even if you find yourself in a ridiculous situation, a sense of humor will help you get out of it with dignity. This way the lady will receive positive emotions and understand that you have a resourcefulness and a cheerful character. If anxiety cannot be avoided, it is better to say so directly; it touches many people.

Don't act abruptly . Before you propose to meet, it is worth preparing your chosen one. If you suddenly ask her to start a relationship, she may get scared and refuse. She should be prepared for what you will talk about.

You should not try to immediately drag a girl into bed , she may think that you are only interested in this. However, you shouldn’t hesitate either - if she herself clearly hints at intimacy, there is no need to be embarrassed and afraid to take the first step.

Under no circumstances should you lie. If you work as a pizza delivery courier and have a rusty Zhiguli car, don’t tell the girl that your dad is actually a millionaire, you own a company, but you disguise yourself for fun.

The truth will one day become known anyway, and you will be ashamed. Be yourself - if a girl doesn't like that, then she's not right for you.

Hints depending on the situation

Sometimes confession of sympathy depends on the circumstances. For example, how long have a guy and a girl known each other, who they were before each other, if they knew each other, who they are now. It could be love at first sight, falling in love with a colleague, classmate, someone else's wife, or an old friend.

Love at first sight

When a guy sees a girl for the first time, and he already likes her, he usually smiles a lot, looks at her closely, compliments her, and asks her to give him her phone number. He tries in every possible way to attract the woman's attention to his person.

The guy begins to automatically preen: straighten his back, suck in his stomach, stroke his hair, straighten his tie, jacket or shirt. His thumbs guide his belt. The eyes gaze intently at the companion, the pupils dilate, the gaze goes from head to toe. He throws his head back a little, proudly showing his chin.

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Feeling sympathy for a woman, a man will come as close to her as possible. This is a sign that he is shutting her off from the outside world. A gentleman in love will copy his companion’s gestures, the position of her body, and the intonation of her voice.

Colleague

If a man is in love with a colleague, he will constantly look at her. He will want to at least sneak a look at the lady, and if she notices this, the guy will immediately lower his eyes. But a more decisive and self-confident man will take advantage of this moment and come up to be frank.

A colleague who is in love will catch the employee’s eye more often. He wants to spend more time with her. It may appear that he is stalking her. A guy who likes a girl at work casually touches her arms and shoulders.

At a corporate party, a colleague in love will certainly invite his passion to dance. He will also start sending her messages on social networks, offering her a ride home, treating her to cakes during her lunch break, and offering to meet outside the office.

Classmate or classmate

When communicating with a classmate or classmate, you can discuss the qualities that a guy likes in girls and say that she has them. In the conversation, you need to mention that the gentleman is free and invites his girlfriend to dance on the weekend. A couple sits together at a desk. If you like a girl from your class or group, you should suggest this idea to her.

Old friend

It happens that a guy and a girl have been friends for a long time, perhaps they are neighbors, former classmates, or simply meet in the same group of friends. Suddenly he realizes that he has fallen in love with his girlfriend. She will guess about this if the guy looks at her more often, walks her home, asks her to step aside to chat in private. In this case, you can tell her directly about your feelings and offer to see her more.

Another man's wife

If a man likes someone else's wife, he will try to attract her attention to himself. To do this, he will show that the people around him value his opinion, love jokes and communicate with him. To achieve this, the man will become more actively in contact with employees. Communication with other ladies will force the woman she likes to compete with them and win the attention of a man who immediately begins to seem attractive to her.

The next stage is to offer help with work or something else: look at the car, go to the store with it, choose a gift for someone close to you. You can, on the contrary, ask her for help. Seducing a married woman is not so easy, so before you actively act, you need to understand: does she like her or is this just a fleeting relationship; is she ready to cheat on her husband? If it is clear that nothing serious is planned with this lady, and she is not going to change, then you should not waste your time. It's better to pay attention to available girls.

What's the first thing you should know?

First of all, you need to find out whether the chosen one is single , whether she has a boyfriend or, even worse, a husband.

If everything is fine here, then you need to ask yourself the second question: are you ready for a closer relationship with this person than you currently have?

Suddenly you act with a hormonal mind, and then you regret that you ever started it. Imagine that you are already dating, are you satisfied with everything, do you want something else, are you bored ? If everything is fine, then you can act.

Before taking the initiative, it is advisable to find out what the girl is interested in, what music she listens to, how she lives.

What if she loves active recreation, skiing, mountaineering, and you sit in front of the computer with a burger all weekend and are terrified of heights? Then you are unlikely to succeed. Unless you are ready to change radically , of course. But this can be very difficult.