How to tell if your wife is cheating by looking at her vagina

Loving people, when getting married, hope that their relationship will forever remain honest, pure, and that there will be no third person in it. Men, like women, are vulnerable in matters of fidelity, but often, tormented by doubts and suspicions, they do not know how to reliably find out whether their wife is cheating on them, and at the same time not destroy the love union. In this article we will try to answer the following questions:

how to find out with 100% accuracy whether your wife is cheating?
What are the main signs of betrayal?
How to detect cheating?
What to do if cheating has already happened?

First of all, you need to figure out why doubts about your wife’s fidelity crept in right now. What prompted your suspicions? There are rare cases when a woman looks away if everything is in order in the family. And therefore, in order to understand whether there could be betrayal, it is necessary to look at the relationship detachedly and objectively.

Possible reasons

There could be a lot of reasons:

Lack of interest. Beloved, having become a wife, ceased to excite. It’s not interesting, like before, what she does and says. The everydayness of the beloved's appearance dulls the senses. But if a woman does not see admiration in her husband’s eyes, then she can go looking for adventure on the side.
Sex, or rather the lack of it , is the main reason for cheating, both in men and women. Often, after five years of marriage, sexual attraction to each other becomes dull, but sexual instincts do not disappear. If there has been no sexual release for the last few weeks, and your woman is satisfied with this, then you should think about it.
Revenge . If a man has an affair, then you shouldn’t be surprised, but some wives will not throw a tantrum, scandal and break dishes, but will quietly and quietly follow their husband’s example. Women who have been married for a long time often do this. A high percentage are wives over 40 years old.
Control. Sometimes jealous people themselves push a woman to cheat. Total surveillance, claims and accusations of mythical treason push a woman to think that at least the accusations will be deserved.
Tell me who is your friend? If your wife’s friends take marriage and fidelity lightly and constantly broadcast it or talk about various passionate romances and fun adventures, then this is a call. Even if the wife is not cheating now, but encourages similar behavior from her friends, then perhaps this is normal for her. And it’s difficult to resist temptation, especially when your friends know how to exaggerate and embellish.

Why wives cheat

A spouse is capable of cheating for a variety of reasons, and sometimes there are several. Often the man himself guesses what the problem of intrafamily conflict is. But how to find out that a wife has a lover is unclear, because asking a direct question is inappropriate, following or reading correspondence is unsafe, risky, and for some, even humiliating.

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Nevertheless, it is still necessary to find out the truth - no one wants to live in deception, and even on the part of a once beloved woman. It is impossible to forget about this, even if a lady with honest eyes convinces that she never allowed herself to look at other guys, much less sleep with them.

To forgive or not to forgive infidelity is another matter. First, you need to find out whether the man’s suspicions are justified or whether he fooled himself and instilled the idea of a lover in his beloved. Subsequently, it is important to understand the reasons. They are as follows:

Sexual dissatisfaction. Passion may fade away after many years of marriage, or the husband does not satisfy his wife sufficiently, does not listen to her, and thinks only about his feelings.
Falling in love with another man. The fear of losing a family and destroying a union does not allow a person to cut off all ties with his current partner and leave for another, which is why cheating happens. The other half rushes between two fires and cannot make the right choice.
Lack of intimacy in general. This happens if one of the spouses is not satisfied with the appearance or actions of the other. Sometimes, after years, interest is lost, sex ceases to bring joy, because of scandals, you don’t want intimacy, etc.

There are also individual reasons that are not typical for the majority. If the spouse cheated earlier, which became known, after some time the wife is able to do the same. The reason for this is veiled revenge, an attempt to cope with resentment and the inability to let go of the situation that happened.

Indirect signs of betrayal

Men can be inattentive to the external changes of their halves, but by changes one can determine the betrayal of his wife. There are about 15 points.

The first sign: the wife has her head in the clouds. A thoughtful, dreamy look, a wandering smile, moist eyes. Sometimes he laughs, sometimes he cries, without explaining the reasons for the surging emotions.
The woman began to carefully monitor her appearance. New hairstyle, always wearing makeup, signed up for a fitness center, beautiful underwear.
Previously, the wife would throw the phone in a visible place without thinking, but now she won’t let it out of her hands , social network passwords have been changed, secrets have appeared - a serious reason to think about it. Now she doesn’t chat with her friend on the phone in front of you, but retreats to the bathroom and answers phone conversations in monosyllables. Even worse, the wife decided to sometimes stay overnight with a friend or sister. At the right moment, neither your friend nor your wife can be reached by phone, and only after some time does the wife call back from her mobile phone.
My beloved began to stay late at work more often, meet with friends outside the home, and social hobbies appeared , although previously my wife loved to spend time with her family. He reacts negatively to the offer to meet him from work.
Sexual behavior has changed . Having fallen in love with another man, a woman often tries to distance herself from marital obligations. There are a lot of reasons why sex will definitely happen tomorrow, but not now: the woman is tired, has a headache, is upset about something, etc. Sex itself is changing, a woman is not leading in bed as before.
Criticality and irritability appeared . The wife nags her husband over trifles, makes a bunch of complaints, does not thank him for the good, but notices the bad.
Indifference . A woman doesn’t care when a man returns home, his well-being, how things are going at work, she no longer cares whether a man pays attention to other women.
Admiration for others . A mysterious colleague, friend, friend’s husband appears in the conversation, who turns out to be smart, olfactory, and hardworking. At the same time, the wife clarifies every time that she has only friendly, friendly relations with this man and she is not attracted to him as a man. This does not mean that the wife is already cheating, but you should still be wary.

When it’s worth talking not about your wife’s betrayal, but about tyranny on the part of your husband

Jealousy is a manifestation of tyranny. As a rule, a man with a complex and lacking self-confidence tries to establish control over the victim, but nothing works. Her disagreement with the role of the victim is perceived as a contradiction and is perceived as a sign of a cheater.

For example, my wife actively began to take care of herself. I signed up for fitness, started eating right, going to the pool and gym. She obviously began to look better and was happy with this development of events. When suddenly the husband asks the question - who are you trying so hard for? Has the whore turned on you?!

Career growth and success at work are often associated with increased popularity, demand and communication. They call her more often, her colleagues constantly communicate with her, and write in messengers.

When we meet on the street, they smile and ask questions. Simply because her importance in the team and among other acquaintances has increased. Abusers in such a situation also see their spouse moving away. They are unable to reach her level, feel a decrease in their influence and find nothing else but to accuse her of betrayal.

The same thing happens when the wife begins to attend a large number of events. Trainings, seminars, lectures, courses. Stays late at work and holds many meetings. Add in self-care, fitness and diet, and suspicion naturally arises. The wife became more popular and successful. Devaluing her achievements and imposing his complexes leads to the fact that a man has only one thought - she achieved all this because she gives to someone! Who is he? Admit it..

Physiology

There are not enough indirect signs to accuse a wife of cheating. Therefore, you need to pay attention to physiological signs. So, how can you tell by looking at your body whether there has been cheating?

The girl was once again late at work. When your wife comes home, look at her appearance : disheveled hair, tights with arrows, rumpled clothes, swollen lips - signs of infidelity.
It's worth looking at the face . Women experience irritation after touching male stubble. If there were kisses with another man, then it will be noticeable.
When in close contact with her lover, a woman absorbs his scents . Men's eau de toilette, body odor, if they are strangers, are noticeable. If there was sex, then the woman has a specific smell: this is the smell of lubricant and sperm. But even if the wife doesn’t smell like anything, as if she just got out of the shower, it’s strange. How to check without giving away unusual interest? Meet your wife at the door, hug, kiss, inhale the aroma of skin, hair, body.
If your wife came home and took a shower, offer your help : rub her back. After sex, there will be redness and bites on the body, especially in the chest, thighs, and arms.

Evidence of betrayal

But there are ways that allow you to be sure of a girl’s infidelity with 100% accuracy. How to make sure your wife is cheating?

Can you tell cheating by looking at your underpants? Yes. There is a special set of infidelity: within 72 hours after possible infidelity, you need to take your wife’s underwear and take it to the laboratory.

A polygraph or lie detector will dot the i’s . If doubts persist, but there is no evidence, you should contact a printer. We advise you to resort to this method if you have lost sleep and peace. There is hardly a woman alive in this world who would not be offended by the offer to take a lie test. After this, divorce may occur and not because of infidelity.
Detective agency . Organizing surveillance of an unfaithful wife in the 21st century is easier than ever. There would be money.
View correspondence on a social network, view phone calls, listen to telephone conversations, buy a special bug and put it in your bag, spy on your wife yourself. Spying is unpleasant, and even if you find nothing, the seeds of mistrust have been sown and you will now be constantly browsing, listening, and spying.
It's strange, but sometimes a simple method works better than a complex one. Try just asking directly and see the reaction. Perhaps the wife has been waiting for a difficult conversation for a long time, or maybe she even feels guilty, and an unexpected question will force her to confess.

Treason proven

Before convicting your wife of cheating, you should talk frankly with yourself: are you ready to separate, are you ready for a divorce, to divide your property. Isn’t it your fault that your wife has lost interest in you and started looking elsewhere? Do you love her even after the betrayal or now you can’t live with her under the same roof? How serious was her affair? How to understand the wife's action? What to do now?

Fact4

Absolutely every girl wants love and care. If there is no such behavior on the part of the spouse, the beauty will begin to fade. Sooner or later, the lack of positive emotions will lead to an attempt to feel desired with another man. And only those who are most dependent on their husband will endure this for years.

Why do people cheat? About this and more in our article below, follow the link.

Margarita Lopukhova

Expert

Family psychologist. For 8 years I have been saving “family units” from disintegration. I help couples find love and understanding again.

Female infidelity is much more complex and thoughtful than male infidelity. Girls rarely cheat impulsively. Usually they remain faithful to the last, until the cup of patience is filled. And, in most cases, if a woman has cheated, she wants to leave the family, and her feelings for her husband have simply burned out. What kind of women cheat? Completely different. Character, temperament, position in society are secondary factors. Many girls, when they get married, do not even think about cheating. But a lot happens in a relationship, and perceptions change. And most often it is the husband who is to blame for female infidelity.

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General signs

The girls learned to hide deception well, sometimes reaching the level of mastery. They will go to great lengths to avoid punishment and fool their betrothed.

If the wife changed her behavior, her behavior will definitely change! First of all, pay attention to this point. It is the most significant, since they talk about changes in her personal life, which, most likely, are not related to you.
An unreasonable change in mood may indicate that there are disagreements with her new partner or vice versa.
Lately you have been feeling that your intimate relationship has failed. Of course, this is not 100% infidelity, because we can’t always think about sex, but if this has become a pattern, it’s worth thinking about.
Your spouse has lost respect for you, begins to point out your shortcomings, does not respect your choices, does not make concessions, and also compares you with others. Not only is it unpleasant, but it also means something.
Lost interest in you. If earlier she was jealous, nagged, started quarrels and showdowns because of gatherings with friends and returning home late, now she doesn’t care, perhaps she’s even happy about it, since now she has a lot of time for a new object of passion and for herself.
Frequent delays at work indicate that they are not at all due to “blockages” at work. Frequent “reports” indicate that time is spent with a lover. It’s not difficult to check this; just offer to pick her up from work or come without warning.
You can test your wife's devotion by who drives her home. A stranger or colleague will not become a free taxi driver out of pure intentions.
Signs of your wife's betrayal are hidden in your underwear. You've probably noticed the new lace lingerie. Of course, there is nothing wrong with buying it, but if she puts it on before leaving, and not for your sake, most likely, the guesses are not groundless.
Frequent sleepovers “at a friend’s” can be an excellent cover for meeting a man.
From time to time you find different gifts, some of them expensive? Surely the wife secretly receives them and brings them home. Do you know exactly what you bought for her and would she be able to afford them, given the family budget?
You can also draw conclusions based on your periods. That is, they can be a reason for refusal. Notice how often this reason is stated. Perhaps she will give herself away when several times a month, one reason will be that she does not want to sleep with you.
Some “manic” spouses, due to their jealousy, determine when the wife has gone “to the left” in the vagina. For example, when immediately after arriving home, the spouse rushes to the shower and locks herself in there. Maybe she is washing away the traces and smell of another.

Factors that should alert you

It is important to note in advance that all of the listed factors are very conditional - there is no need to beat yourself up and immediately blame your wife if she receives a call from an unfamiliar number. Often it is not her fault, but simply her husband’s uncertainty. You should not project your complexes - this may cause subsequent betrayals. If you have any guesses, you should be patient, wait and find out how true they are. You can’t sit idly by either; you need to carefully and unobtrusively find out what’s going on in your beloved’s personal life.

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The situation must be analyzed and conclusions drawn from it. When betrayal is real, you cannot throw your fists at a woman, shout at her, throw accusations at her, call her names, or humiliate her. You should either talk or break up without explaining the reasons, making it clear that all the girl’s secrets have become known.

Calls and SMS from unknown numbers

Frequent conversations between the wife and someone who is unfamiliar to the man is a sign that she is interested in communicating with a new person. Maybe it's a friend or colleague. But it cannot be ruled out that the wife has made a friend. He may not be a lover yet, but after some time he is quite capable of becoming one. This is especially true for couples who begin to have intimate problems.

Of course, you cannot prohibit a person from communicating. But the spouse who heard open flirting on the phone, laughing, flirting with the interlocutor must take control of the situation. You shouldn’t talk about this directly - you need to carefully ask who the acquaintance is, why his number is unknown, where he came from surrounded by a woman, etc.

Behavior change

If a girl changed her behavior pattern suddenly, without foreshadowing circumstances, then this may be a reason to suspect her of infidelity with another guy. When a wife has a lover, she tries to look better: she puts on makeup, takes care of her clothes, dresses up more often, and does not skimp on cosmetic procedures.

It is difficult to understand what provoked the spouse to change herself. She probably decided to take more care of her own body and doesn’t even think about cheating. If there are no other signs, then there is nothing to worry about. Here you should carefully comprehend the suspect’s actions and understand her train of thought. A conversation in a calm atmosphere can help with this.

Started to stay late at work

Working late is also not an obvious reason for suspicion if there are no other signs. Activities that involve delays may well change the pace of a woman’s life - then she will not have time for her family.

It is recommended to think about whether it is even possible to stay in your current position. If a woman works in a particular company for several years and never stayed later, then why stays now. It is also suspicious when her field of activity does not involve delays at all, especially regular ones, for example, if the office closes at 20:00, and the woman comes home at 23:00, while the journey from point A to point B is about 40 minutes.

Things came up over the weekend

The things that appear over the weekend may be reality, but then the girl will be able to talk about what they are. It’s strange to ignore questions about everyday life, meetings with girlfriends, friends, trips to relatives or part-time work if your spouse asks about it. Reluctance to tell indicates a need to hide something. Why a wife hides her affairs is a question that requires careful analysis.

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Excessive self-care

As mentioned above, sudden attention to one’s own body indicates a woman’s desire to please someone and attract attention. But this is not always the case: sometimes the spouse realizes the need for change, wants to lose weight, change her image, etc.

If she dresses up for work, but at other times she looks the same as before, then this is a reason to think about why there is such a selective desire to be beautiful in a certain location. Perhaps it was there that a young man appeared, showing signs of attention or accepting them from his wife.

New things have appeared

New things in the wardrobe are an attempt to please a capricious lover. If a new man likes feminine dresses and blouses, and his wife dresses simply, without frills, then under the influence of feelings she will begin to change her image. Although a woman may have logical reasons why she does this - her age does not allow her to wear something else, she is tired of the old style, the desire to experiment with her wardrobe.

Frequent refusals of sex

Regular sex and its complete absence afterwards is a reason to think about why this happens. The wife will most likely talk about fatigue, reluctance, stress, thoughts that fill her head entirely and do not allow her to fully relax. But it is obvious that the sharp reluctance to sleep with the husband arises because of the lover.

Problems can also appear due to hormonal changes in the body, age-related changes, pathologies, etc.

By phone and appearance

How to find out cheating using your phone? Most likely, the phone is increasingly hidden from your view, you have limited access to it, more and more often she puts it on silent mode or even turns it off. Take the opportunity to check your correspondence and incoming calls.

How to determine your wife's infidelity by appearance? Has she started spending a huge amount of time near the mirror? A radical change in image? Repainted a new color? All of these signs could mean something is wrong.

How to recognize infidelity by the body and make sure that your inner feeling does not let you down? It's quite unpleasant to realize that your significant other is no longer honest with you. It has been proven that the stronger sex perceives this fact no less painfully than representatives of the weaker sex.

One of the most reliable facts of betrayal is her alienation.

The feeling that warm hugs no longer attract the girl, she no longer needs them. Although it used to calm her down, it brought you both closer. There is already a different person in front of you.

Is it possible to change the situation in your favor?

If, despite your wife’s behavior, you continue to love her, then do everything to ensure that the woman you love stays. Become the best lover and caring husband, let your woman know that only with you can she be happy.

Stop looking for signs of infidelity on your underpants, in your wife's behavior and appearance. After all, a woman goes where she is truly understood and appreciated. In any case, do not rush to make accusations. It is possible that betrayal for a woman is still only in her thoughts.

Facial expressions and movements

Next, let's look at facial expressions. The fair half of humanity has about 45 muscles located on their faces; without even realizing it, they show true emotions. When the conversation is about love, and a mask of sarcasm is painted on the face, and the eyes are narrowed, this is an obvious deception.

Signals such as a long gaze should be alarming, because this manifestation means hatred.

If your loved one’s gait changes, it means you have been “cuckolded.” You will definitely notice the changes, because she will move around the city with her head held high and an independent look.

The above facts indicate that the physiological signs of female infidelity are obvious.

However, there is no need to panic and arrange a debriefing! Only massive coincidences over a certain period can be a reason for action. One or more coincidences may be a real coincidence. Approach the matter consciously and analyze what is happening.

Folk wisdom

Since ancient times, folk signs have been considered a reliable source by which one can look into the future or decipher certain actions and events. In married life there are also enough situations for which there are answers from ancestors.

For example, they say that if your spouse starts mentioning a certain man, a neighbor, an acquaintance, and even more so praising him, comparing you with him, this means that you have ceased to suit her, and enough complaints have accumulated. And you shouldn’t think that the affair is with him. No, this is just a “bell” for the spouse to reconsider the relationship. Otherwise, a lover will actually appear later.

Don't understand what's going on between you? Analyze her mood. Thoughtfulness, withdrawal into herself and sudden changes in emotional terms indicate changes in her personal life.

A sufficient number of existing methods will help determine how honest your other half is with you; only by carefully observing her can you be sure of possible deception. Only after the balance of arguments outweighs simple suspicions can you present them and begin a serious conversation.

Advice for men

You should not throw suspicions around ahead of time, because not every person will be able to forgive false accusations and humiliating mistrust in their own address.

First of all, analyze your own behavior. Surely you yourself have more than once given reason to doubt your loyalty and love. Sometimes we push people close to us to make a terrible mistake with our attitude. Unreasonable jealousy and prohibitions cause pain, and lack of attention and care leads to consequences when a person, on a subconscious level, looks for missing feelings and emotions “on the side.”

Have there been times when you refused to help or support your loved one when she needed it? No wonder she ends up accepting it from someone else. Then her fault is no more than yours.

But when it comes to calculated betrayal, you shouldn’t hesitate and blame yourself.

Don't try to reason with the person or try to rekindle the relationship. Gather your thoughts and categorically declare separation and divorce. Walk away proudly and try to be alone for a while. Think about how you plan to live further, whether you need to forgive.

When there are children together, the situation becomes more complicated. Under no circumstances should you cross them out of your life or try to make them a bargaining chip, because they are not to blame for anything. They still need both parents, they still love them just the same. Try to spend your free time with them, without discussing the current situation, and without insulting their mother. They are unlikely to understand this, and it will not add honor to you.

Eliminate the option of “revenge” with similar actions. This will definitely not heal the soul, but it may make the situation worse. And also “drowning grief” with alcohol is a dubious method. Nothing will come of this except destruction.