In this article I will tell you how to get rid of love addiction and find peace of mind. By love addiction I mean the feeling that just the presence of another person makes your life happy. Constant thoughts about him, especially when he is not around. The feeling that you cannot live without him, and that along with him all the joy will leave your life.
Also in the article I will tell you how, in general, to become an independent and full-fledged person, with an inner core, independent of other people.
If you finish reading this article, then I can congratulate you, because you will be one of the 5% of people who in our time have not yet forgotten how to finish reading. And then (weakly?) try to become one of the 5% of those who have finished reading - these are those rare specimens who, after reading, go through the suggested steps and radically change their lives.
How love addiction manifests itself
Before we understand how to get rid of love addiction and find peace of mind, let's figure out how and in what cases it manifests itself.
Dependence on another person is, first of all, frequent thoughts about him in his absence. He is not around, but you continue to give him your energy. A leaven is formed consisting of endless thoughts about the object of dependence. And as a result of constant thoughts, you may dream about it or come to you in your fantasies.
The fact is that when you think about a person, you seem to be with him, you have the illusion that he is nearby, because he is entirely in your thoughts, emotions, sensations. That’s why thoughts about him bring such pleasant masochistic pleasure. And I don’t want to say goodbye to this pleasure at all.
Love addiction can be acutely felt in several cases:
- During separation or after separation, both partners may suffer from addiction. After all, while you are together and you are both in love, energy circulates between you. You give and receive from each other. But as soon as separation or separation occurs, energy stops circulating. At the same time, if you still have feelings, this energy continues to be released inside you. But because it does not find a way out, you begin to suffer. This is a manifestation of addiction.
- Dependence on a man/woman can also manifest itself in unrequited love - one experiences acute dependence, and if a relationship develops in a couple, the other will begin to show rejection and reject the partner. At the same time, the addict’s rose-colored glasses are based on the idea that the partner does not completely abandon him, does not say the final “no.” And for an addict, this is an excellent reason to fantasize that he is needed, that someday he will be loved, that everything will definitely change for them, and they will be happy.
- Also, dependence on a person can happen when a person does not feel his own worth, is self-critical and lacks self-confidence. When he thinks deep down that on his own, without a partner, he is nothing. In this case, a strong attraction can form regardless of how the relationship with the partner goes - good or bad - and whether it exists at all.
If a person with such low self-esteem and strong attraction is in a relationship, then over time this will begin to cause a reverse reaction in his partner - a desire to move away and, possibly, separate. His attraction will wane. The addict will be attracted, and his partner will be repelled.
- Interdependence is an option in which dependent relationships can exist for many years and even a lifetime. At the same time, one partner considers himself small in the relationship, unworthy, insignificant (often unconsciously), considers himself only part of his object of dependence. Whereas the second partner, on the contrary, thinks of himself as a strong personality and perceives his loved one as part of himself.
Interdependents are often a victim and a tyrant or a victim and a narcissist. Such a couple is characterized by a sadomasochistic relationship, where one inflicts pain and the other suffers, experiencing unconscious pleasure from this. This method of communication can manifest itself in both sexual relationships and verbal communication. Moral or physical violence, humiliation and insults, manipulation and psychological pressure are frequent characteristic signs of such interdependence.
- And, finally, relationships can be interdependent, where two infantile people found each other and since then cannot live one without the other. Such couples like to wear the same clothes or have a common VKontakte page.
I listed the types of addictions that I encountered during my psychological practice. If you haven’t found your type of addiction here, write about it in the comments at the end of the article.
How to deal with love
A little wisdom
Those who declare their unrequited love usually beat themselves in the chest, shouting about pure and bright trampled feelings. Is there a place in such a position for truly bright feelings implicated in principles? Love, by definition, cannot consist only of emotional elements. Love emotions are always paralleled by a rational background, and it is expressed in the readiness and desire for self-sacrifice in the name of the happiness of the object of love. The rest is from the evil one - it can be anything: banal falling in love, the desire to possess a person, and even lust. But this is not love .
Feelings without principles have nothing to do with what formed the basis of millions of works of literature and art. If you claim to be experiencing a rational-sensory state, you should rely on it in the fight against it. Sometimes parents acted wildly from our point of view, spoiled by good civilizational conditions - they gave their children to another family, unable to feed them or for another, no less serious reason. The state of mothers who parted “voluntarily” with their child is difficult to understand - it is an incredibly painful sacrifice. But they agreed to it so that the children could live. This is a manifestation of true love.
The fact that love for the opposite sex has a different character does not negate a similar foundation - the absence of selfishness. You must overcome the feeling not only for your own sake, but also for the sake of the one for whom you feel it, as well as for the sake of those who may suffer from your “obsession” (if we are talking about a breaking family). We understand that many people have “no time” to think about these matters and their problems. But, alas, without awareness of involvement in more worthy processes one cannot talk about the presence of love.
We are also sure of the opposite - many are truly “infected” with love. Such people are unlikely to want to be selfish, straining not only themselves, but also their loved one. This should and can help combat an unwanted feeling, no matter how beautiful it may be. Rely on this thought, it certainly has considerable power, which may just be lacking on the way to a sober head, free from unnecessary emotions.
More than 9,000 people have gotten rid of their psychological problems using this technique.
Let your feelings out
It is stupid to suppress emotions only by force of will.
They will not disappear anywhere, accumulating and threatening a psychic explosion at any moment. Remove the lid from the steaming pan, let the steam escape - be sad, cry. But relieve tension as much as possible by controlling the process of reducing the intensity. It's not just about reducing the risk of exploding. Reducing the “temperature” is a great opportunity to use this to your advantage. Having tightened the valve of the pipeline of the emotional sphere, you need to work with the left hemisphere to the maximum, trying at this time to analyze, look for a way out - to do what is impossible during peak sensory moments.
In general, a trained mind is a great help in any situation. It’s good to have a powerful “reasonable” mechanism at hand. Unfortunately, love tends to turn it off or reduce its performance parameters. But you should work with what you have: tentative steps in the right direction are better than marking time or, even worse, walking backwards.
Analyze your own strengths
An unrequited feeling can hurt one’s self-esteem, especially if the latter was not at its best anyway. Having received a refusal, we, as a rule, begin to pick around ourselves, fishing out all sorts of shortcomings that could cause the lack of reciprocity. In combination with blazing love, self-flagellation is an explosive mixture that undermines self-esteem and deprives all hopes of positivity.
At this time, you should definitely fight your swooping self-esteem. A sober analysis of your merits and fixing them in any form so that you have the opportunity to present yourself with evidence of your worth helps a lot. Such a list is a guarantee of confidence in future success on the love front. You may think differently now, but there are plenty of people in the world who are potentially compatible with you in a variety of ways. Many of them are (again, potentially) ready to become your soul mates.
Now the thought of being with another person seems blasphemous to you, but sooner or later, if you work on yourself in the way we suggest, feelings will cool down, and the question will arise of finding someone with whom you can share joys and troubles . Without doing anything to counteract your declining self-esteem, you risk getting used to perceiving yourself incorrectly and developing a set of complexes.
Flurry of activity
But now we can talk about conditional shopping - to overcome the feeling, provided that you approach it correctly (as we have already said), shifting the emphasis towards active activity helps. There is no desire to be “active” - imitate busy work. The psyche is not capable of multitasking; doing something will definitely reduce stress.
Good company
People you like are a strong support in the fight against unwanted love. Don't hide from people, go towards them. The support of friends is worth a lot.
Open up to new relationships
Yes, now you are not planning them at all. But you don’t have to start new romances, just allow yourself to be free from your previous (or still true) love. Let your nature be against “new things”; consider your openness to be a training that requires effort. The time will come, and your efforts will pay off - you will meet new love .
If you don’t want to give up and are ready to really, and not in words, fight for your full and happy life, you may be interested in this article .
Why does a person become addicted?
As a rule, a person’s tendency towards any addiction develops in childhood. When faced with difficulties, unpleasant or even traumatic situations, the child makes a choice (usually unconsciously) to protect himself from this situation by withdrawing from reality. The psyche protects itself, offering a childish way to cope and survive it.
In childhood, this way of escaping reality can be games, books, films or food. In adolescence, drugs, cigarettes or alcohol may become involved.
A person often carries this way of the psyche to adapt to difficulties into adulthood. Although this does not solve the problem, it is rather a quick way to get away from it for a while, take care of yourself, and relax. But it is not at all easy for an addicted person to realize this.
A person who tends to escape from reality into dependence is often also prone to dependent relationships. If you look closely, the mechanism of dependent relationships is very similar to any other addiction - a person loses himself, loses his sense of reality. He becomes as if unable to notice himself and what is really happening now. Stops being objective and puts on rose-colored glasses.
Rose-colored glasses are the psyche’s way of protecting itself, justifying it, and leaving everything as it is. This is how you have learned to adapt to reality. You don’t have another way yet, you haven’t been trained in it. And therefore, if you suddenly abandon this habitual way of coping with problems, you may become depressed or even go crazy. This is exactly what rose-colored glasses are for - they do not allow you to quickly give up addiction. And if you have seriously made the decision to say goodbye to addictions and find a way to cope with problems in a healthy adult way, the glasses will gradually become thinner until they disappear completely, and over time you will begin to see reality for what it is.
It is advisable to do this slowly so that your psyche does not suffer. But cases are different, and perhaps someday we will discuss exceptions - quick and drastic, merciless deliverance from addictions. If you have such examples, share them in the comments.
Help from a psychologist and loved ones
Depending on the depth of experience and the degree of receptivity of the person who has decided to end falling in love, a visit to a good psychologist can be very useful. If such a specialist could not be found, then close and beloved people - the family - can become the most reliable support during this difficult period of time.
There are many cases where it was the support of the family that played a decisive role in the fate of girls who were painfully worried about how to get rid of their crush on a married man. Practical experience demonstrates that only by realizing true life and family values, feeling the love and support of loved ones, and also clearly defining your future path in life, it is quite possible to cope with falling in love.
How to get rid of love addiction and find peace of mind - examples
Addiction is the inability to see objective reality, to look the problem in the eye. I will give a vivid example from my psychological practice of how this can manifest itself in relationships.
- Elena is dating a married man – Vasily. Vasily promises her every week that he is about to leave his wife, and he and Elena will be happy together. Rose-colored glasses protect Elena from cruel reality: she does not notice that Vasily is doing his best to hide the fact of Elena’s existence from his wife. She doesn't pay attention to the fact that she has no right to call him herself. She also does not notice that only he can set the time and place of the meeting. She does not see that she is tied hand and foot in this relationship.
And even if Elena notices all this and gets angry, her brain still finds excuses for Vasily: “Apparently, this is necessary. He said that he didn’t want to hurt her. He'll tell you right after her birthday. He can’t delete her photo from his desktop, but she might suspect something. And we definitely need to wait for rain on Thursday so as not to hit her.”
The brain comes up with all these excuses in order not to traumatize Elena’s psyche. This is how the instinct of self-preservation works: in order to preserve the psyche, the brain adapts to the situation and creates the most comfortable conditions (thoughts) in order to leave everything as it is. This basic brain function was present in the very first people on earth. In those days, she saved a person from imminent death. The brain protected us from danger: “Don’t change anything, sit in this cave, don’t go far, there’s the unknown, you’ll freeze there, get stuck in a swamp, won’t find food, or you’ll be killed.”
At that time, this was really relevant, because death awaited at every turn. The brain did everything to leave a person in the so-called “comfort zone,” which essentially means “a place where one can survive, a place where it is safe.” And even if a person feels bad here, he is at least alive, and in the unknown there is a threat to his life.
Since those ancient times, the reality around us has changed a lot, but the firmware of the brain has remained the same. A person no longer lives in a cave and does not need a partner as much as air or water. But his brain still tightly protects him from any serious changes.
We can't do anything about the instinct of self-preservation, but we can learn to consciously live without addictions. After all, instinct is an unconscious thing. So how to get rid of love addiction and find peace of mind? How can you outwit your brain and learn to perceive reality consciously?
I present to you five specific steps, following which you will be able to get rid of love addiction and become a full-fledged, mature, psychologically healthy person.
Falling in love is not yet love
To begin with, it should be said that falling in love is often confused with another, no less bright, but more lasting feeling, love. Despite the fact that to this day no specialist is able to give an exact definition of the term falling in love, there are a number of generalized criteria that make it possible to distinguish this feeling from true love.
Thus, in the generally accepted understanding, falling in love is characterized by a more extensive and rich range of experiences and, alas, a shorter period of existence than love. At the same time, some experts clarify, what distinguishes a person in love from a loving person is the so-called. a narrowing of consciousness, as a result of which the real portrait of the object of love is distorted.
A loving person knows about the shortcomings of the object of his love, but a lover is not able to discern a single defect in the object of his adoration.
How to get rid of love addiction and find peace of mind - 5 steps from a psychologist:
Step #1: Focus
The lack of ability to notice oneself and the surrounding reality is the main problem of any addicted person. He tends to forget himself, fly away into fantasies or thoughts about the past, get lost in alcohol, food or another person, stop feeling reality as it is, and brighten it up with his fantasies.
Therefore, the first way to get rid of love addiction is the willingness to notice yourself and feel reality as it is. To feel, understand, feel, realize, admit to yourself - this is what any addict needs to learn.
Step #2: Fear of Life
One of the most important reasons for addiction is fear of life. A person, afraid of meeting himself and reality, runs away. In another. Into a relationship. Alcohol/food/drugs/TV series/books/games.
Fear of life refers to many different fears, for example, fear of contact, intimacy, the opposite sex, change. Due to the inability to cope with fear, a person, instead of solving the problem, chooses to escape from it into his (his chosen) addiction.
Thus, the second step to getting out of dependence on a man/woman is to stop being afraid of life. Learn to live as actively as possible. Express yourself to the fullest. Learn to live every day as if it were your last. Don't be afraid to go into maximum activity. Take each new day as a gift, and use this gift, and not put it away in a dusty closet for a rainy day.
I also made a video for you about what neurotic dependence is, how it differs from love, and how to get rid of it:
Step #3: Return to yourself
Love addiction is accompanied by a blurring of one’s own boundaries and those of a partner. The difficulty arises in understanding where my needs end and the needs of another begin. This fog that fills relationships creates tension and internal dissatisfaction. Addiction, controlling behavior, jealousy, insecurity, and fear of losing arise.
In order for you to learn to understand within yourself where you end and the other begins, so that you can get rid of love addiction and learn to build healthy relationships, I wrote for you the book “Into a happy relationship through self-love.”
After reading it, you will learn to distinguish your real desires from desires associated with the fear of losing your partner, learn to talk about your needs and defend them. By completing tasks in the book, you will become a complete person, complete on your own, in the absence of another person. You will learn to love yourself and stop acting dependently, you will communicate with your partner freely, without ingratiation, control and fear of being alone. This recovery from addiction will allow you to build healthy partnerships where everyone is whole in themselves, and builds a union simply for the sake of sharing the joy of their own life with another.
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Step #4: Processing the Trauma
Addiction is an attachment disorder that develops in early childhood. In most cases, the trauma is caused like this: the mother was physically absent, often abandoned or left for a long time. Also, the emotional absence of the mother can lead to trauma - when there is no sincere, spiritual involvement in the upbringing process. This leads to the fact that in adulthood a person develops a violation of attachment with all other people. For example, he may act distant, avoid most people, reject the need for intimacy, and appear self-sufficient and independent. And at the same time, become strongly attached to a partner or close friend. Today he can be cold and inaccessible, increasing the distance, and tomorrow he can cling like a bath leaf and be afraid of losing.
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Step #5: Desires
The peculiarity of any addicted person is a loss of reality, an escape from it, an escape from oneself and the world around him, from the present moment. I know another powerful way to bring yourself back to yourself and be in touch with yourself. This method is about learning to understand who you are and what you really want. Find out what you want and start giving it to yourself. Fulfilling your own desires not only returns you to reality, but also relieves you of addiction due to the fact that you learn in a direct way, and not distorted, to give yourself those emotions that the object of your addiction used to give you.
By desires I mean everything that brings you joy and pleasure. You can read about how to learn to recognize your desires and achieve your goals here.
As you fulfill your own desires, you will gradually realize that you are now constructively receiving everything that previously you could only receive from another person. In the process of these realizations, your thoughts will be restructured. But you definitely need to combine this method with working on the others, otherwise it may take too much time and never bring results.
How to fill the void?
There are quite a lot of tips, methods and ways to get rid of being in love with a man or woman. However, almost all of them will imply a radical eradication of feelings with the obligatory removal from the circle of one’s communication of the person who is the object of fiery passion.
It is curious that in most cases, attempts to get rid of falling in love end in failure, because the person was unable to fill the resulting emptiness in the soul with something interesting and more useful than a feeling that did not meet with understanding and reciprocity. You cannot go anywhere from this feeling; this road must lead to new horizons.
What are the dangers of being in unhappy love?
Many people are not familiar with the feeling of unrequited love or destructive dependence on another person, but still, most of us have felt unrequited ourselves. Faced with such a situation, a person’s thoughts are occupied only with the object of feelings, and the heart is filled with serious passion. But the one to whom all this storm is directed does not pay any attention or openly says that there will be no reciprocity.
How to get rid of the feeling of falling in love? In this state of affairs, it is definitely necessary to suppress love, because love means building happiness with a loved one, and not endless torment.
A person who is unrequitedly in love lives in a world of his own fantasies. Consuming the mind with illusions prevents you from living fully and thinking rationally. Instead of suppressing a feeling that is impossible to share with the object through sighing, a person fantasizes more and more. Dependence on unrequited love does not allow the possibility of a new, real, mutual feeling to enter life. While one could attract happy love to oneself, a person completely plunges into an illusory world and sometimes spends entire years on meaningless dreams.
After a long time of waiting, a miracle does not happen. What starts next? Apathy, depression and deep depression. A person accumulates resentment within himself, and the feeling of emptiness does not leave him. He is sure that no one needs him. Any attempts by relatives and friends to somehow distract and entertain an unrequited lover are met with irritation and aggression. In this state, you can “chop a lot of wood” and commit actions that a person will greatly regret later. But the suffering doesn't end there. A person, instead of suppressing the feeling of falling in love, buries himself more and more in thoughts about the object of his desire and continues to build “castles in the air.”
Scope
The most interesting thing is that different stages of this refusal of love can be observed in all people. Only areas with degrees may be different.
If a person has given up self-love in terms of money, he begins to become attached to money in different forms. And his emotional breakdowns are often associated with loss of money, increased expenses, inflation in the country, and so on.
The same applies to relationships - with a man and a woman, with friends, colleagues, with parents and children. The same thing applies to health and body, attachment to food. The same is true in self-realization and purpose, in work and rest, and in other areas.
But rejection of love can be local. Having given up self-love in money, a person can more or less adequately respond to money issues in the family, or the income of others. And then this dislike will not be so noticeable, and it will not stand out much in public.
Having a lack of love in money, a person can give just as well to love in the family. And support one area at the expense of another. It pumps out energy a little and redistributes it, but this keeps him from a total “fall.”
By switching attention from unsuccessful areas of life to successful ones, a person is filled with love, feels the meaning and joy of life, and sometimes improves other areas a little. Learning to walk on one leg and crutches, but still walk. Don't lie there and die.
When a person does not find such areas of love in life (they do not exist, or simply cannot find them, due to blinders or troubles), the rejection of love can take on a global character. With all the attendant extremes.
So is it worth giving up love?
So is it worth giving up love? This is just your choice, which no one can make for you. Therefore, you can only blame yourself for the consequences. How will the life of a woman who refuses love ? The fact is that for a good and satisfied life, basically, people simply need two components - family, home comfort and work, the opportunity for self-realization. If you only have one thing, then from time to time you will feel that something is still missing. In fact, every woman has a resource to get all the components of a happy life. The only question is, does she want it? Sometimes she may be hindered by past fears and a reluctance to give up her usual way of life... But it is worth remembering that we have one life, and it would be sad to lose our happiness because of some fears.
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I want to give up love, but will I be happy?
It's really difficult to balance work and personal life. In the office, no one needs a loving wife and a caring mother, and at home no one is waiting for a woman with the character of a director. Moreover, can a woman who was not loved by her parents believe that she deserves to be loved at all? Sometimes women say they want to give up love . But will they be happy ? The question of happiness is not an easy one. It is absolutely individual. For some, happiness is a big friendly family and many children, but for others this picture is their worst nightmare. It cannot be said that by giving up love, a woman will certainly be happy, because by forbidding herself something, by committing violence against herself, it is impossible to find happiness. It is quite possible to assume that giving up love and close relationships with the opposite sex is a healthy temporary solution. Maybe now a woman is in a period when she is focused on her career, and she is not interested in anything other than promotion. Most likely, in such conditions the family will only be a hindrance. But sooner or later, the period of crazy racing will end. The woman will become successful, fulfilled and... lonely. Is this really the price you are willing to pay? Let's figure it out.
Women are made for love
There is a stereotype that women are created for love. But men value close relationships and romantic experiences no less than women. Perhaps they show it differently, but one should not think that a woman is a gentle poetic nature who needs romance, and a man is an ossified hard worker who is not interested in anything except football and beer. There are different women and different men. And relationships with other people are equally important for everyone. Most of us love to spend time with friends or acquaintances, receive emotions from them and give our own in return. If you really like a person, you can try to build a closer and more trusting relationship with him. These relationships do not always last a lifetime until old age. In most cases, couples separate because they no longer feel the same love and passion. Perhaps you are going through just such a period now, you are going through a difficult breakup, and you are so disappointed in men that you don’t even want to think about them, but... It will pass. No matter how banal this phrase may be, it is true. Try to remember how your relationship began, and how good it was for you then. Yes, then someone made a mistake. So try to understand it and not repeat it in the next relationship. Don't judge everyone by your previous partner. Let him go. Value yourself and don’t close your heart to new experiences.
You can't know what will happen to you tomorrow
Many of us are inherently fatalistic. When we confidently declare that we will never love someone again. Your previous partner hurt you, and your wounded body no longer has the strength to love. A very common misconception. In just a few weeks, or at most months, you will feel embarrassed for these words. Or you will simply forget them. People know how to cope with difficulties. Our brain is designed to get us out of any trouble. Unhappy love is not the worst thing that happens in life. Therefore, over time, you will easily forget about what tormented you and move towards a new happy relationship.
A good attitude towards yourself is the key to good relationships with others
If a person does not love himself, then he definitely needs to dissolve in someone else. Many people don't leave bad relationships just because they are afraid of being alone. Starting a relationship with another person just to compensate for your personal psychological problems is, at a minimum, unwise. More often than not, such relationships do not end well. They develop into codependents when both partners are inextricably linked with each other, have an emotional swing and cannot take a single step on their own. Once you learn to love yourself and feel comfortable with yourself, your relationships will become stronger. You'll see.
We truly learn from our mistakes.
Have you noticed that relationships often fail for the same reasons? Of course, the first thing you want to do is give up love once and for all! But have you thought that you just need to change something? In your attitude, in your presentation? Then relationships will develop differently. It is very important to concentrate not on your desire to receive love, but on your desire to live. Someone who wants to be loved will not make a good partner. Such a person is selfish and only wants to receive without giving. And if you come into a relationship with the desire to love and give your love, you will truly find happiness. When you give, you receive ten times more in return.
You can let go of the past. The main thing is to want it
Inside, you may have a lot of different grievances and anger towards previous partners. Only by forgiving and letting go of it all will you be ready to build a new, healthy relationship. Don't do this to spite someone or to make someone jealous. Do it for yourself. Bringing your problems from a previous relationship into a new one is, to say the least, ugly. In addition, this way you will constantly concentrate on what happened before, not allowing a happy future to approach you. Only an empty vessel can be filled.
Stop being afraid! Are you capable of this
Each of us was once offended, hurt, betrayed... Of course, our body wants to protect us, and for this it creates a certain “armor”. But this is simply pointless, because when communicating with a new person, no one can give us a guarantee that we will not be offended. This is a risk. But don't you think that it is completely justified?..
Go beyond prejudice!
Many people don't build relationships because of various excuses. Someone says that he is too old, someone says that he is too poor, ugly, etc. But the truth is that love can be found at any time, at any age, in any financial condition. Stop limiting yourself, be open to love!
Look at the problem from a different angle
After a breakup, people often become sad and depressed. But is this right? Inside we have a lot of resource and energy that can definitely help us survive the loss. It is necessary not to block them, but to help them manifest themselves. Then you will have the strength and desire to live on and continue the search for your true love.
You have support from friends and family
Often people, having experienced a love drama, try to cope with it on their own. Why? Some people don’t want to put their problems on their loved ones, others simply don’t want to talk about their emotions... But, in fact, close people are always ready to support you, you can pick up a little of the love that you lack from communicating with them. You may not even talk, but simply ask for support in the form of spending time together. It is doubtful that any of your friends will refuse you such a service.
Your heart needs to be healed
Unfortunately, or fortunately, there is simply no single method for surviving a failed relationship. Everyone experiences this individually. The most important thing is not to lose faith in yourself, in your ability to love, and in the fact that someone can love you. If you have not yet met your soulmate, then try to believe in your meeting with all your might. In this way, you will attract a person who may have been looking for you for a long time.
