There have always been women who inspire men to do great things. In the Middle Ages, these were beautiful ladies for whom knights participated in tournaments. Now these are women - “muses”, serving as the main source of inspiration for poets, artists and other creative people. Every girl can become such an inspiration, regardless of appearance and figure. The main thing is correct behavior and sincere, genuine interest in what the beloved is doing.
The right motivation will help a man achieve his goal
Is it possible to motivate a man?
In order to inspire a gentleman to achieve feats, a woman, first of all, should not be obsessive in her desire to make a man the most successful person in the world. You need to act gently and wisely, especially if the chosen one is stubborn and has not been accustomed to obeying ladies since childhood. For proper motivation you need:
- Actively use praise as a means of achieving your goal;
- Never compare your life partner with other men, even if they have really succeeded in something. On the contrary, you need to tell your loved one that he is the best, even if this is not entirely true;
- Actively use your feminine attractiveness and never deny your loved one intimacy;
- Attach great importance to even the smallest victories and achievements of your life partner. This will help a man feel the significance and importance of his own personality.
These simple rules will help motivate even the most seemingly hopeless gentleman, who has been sitting on the couch for several years without work and prospects, to do great things. The main thing is to act gradually and not take sudden steps, so as not to scare off the chosen one with your persistence and determination. A woman’s task is to instill self-confidence in her chosen one and help him overcome the complexes that prevent him from achieving his desired goal.
How you can’t inspire a man, and what you shouldn’t do
Above in the article there were already a couple of hints about what you shouldn’t do, but let’s be more specific.
Don't try to outdo a man
A woman cannot cope with men’s work and men’s responsibilities better than a man, just as a man cannot cope better with women’s ones.
Women are not better than men, just as men are not better than women - this is a very simple truth. But even if you cope with something better than your partner, you should not openly demonstrate it to him.
Don’t touch men’s self-esteem, it’s sacred to them. Otherwise, men have a huge reluctance to do something, or even lose the motivation to change for the better.
Don't poke your nose at mistakes
Better help him figure out why he failed. Support him and guide him to a second chance - you will see that with your support and new strength for achievements, he will definitely succeed.
If you directly tell him what exactly he did wrong, it will seem that you are openly reproaching him.
Give only guiding thoughts, let him come to the conclusion himself - this is very important
After all, when awareness has come on its own, it is much easier to start doing things with new strength.
Don't be offended by him very often
Half of the reasons for your grievances are incomprehensible to a man.
He may simply not notice that he said or did something wrong, because he is not used to paying attention to such things
Give him the opportunity to correct himself if he messed up. If he himself cannot realize the mistake, simply and honestly tell him why you hold a grudge.
It is very important for him to understand, at least after the quarrel, why he was boycotted
If you don't end up having an honest conversation about the situation, things can only get worse.
He will consider you hysterical, you will consider him a boor. Although in reality the situation may be trivial. You also need to be able to speak about grievances in the right language.
You can’t just confront your partner with the fact that he is wrong - explain why, share your feelings, this is important
Don't indulge his selfishness
Such a difficult trait. If a man, despite all your efforts, does not want to change anything about himself, refuses to strive for better and frankly behaves horribly - this is unhealthy behavior.
An adequate man is always capable of giving: if not twice as much of your care, then at least half. If you feel like you are banging your head against a wall of indifference, this is an inadequate man, without aspirations and chances of understanding, you don’t need someone like him.
If everything you have diligently and sincerely tried does not work, then draw conclusions and do not waste your precious time.
According to many psychologists, a man always tries to look like a hero - this is an intuitive desire for superiority and power. And to become a real hero and perform real feats, you must first of all be the best for you personally.
A woman needs to inspire a man. This is a natural, almost intuitive feeling of a kind of care for a loved one. The power of persuasion, the power of beauty and care is the main success of any person. The desire and ability to inspire is innate and inevitable, you just need to be able to apply it correctly, find the right approach to the right person, and you will move mountains together. Behind all the great men there are no less great women.
Historically, it is the woman who inspires the man. At all times, women have been muses, standing behind great rulers and waiting for their husbands from war.
If a man makes history, then a woman makes a man
– no matter how obvious and mediocre it may sound. Yes, men are capable of heroic deeds even when they are single, but sooner or later everyone wants to be someone’s hero. In this way, the feeling of emptiness is filled, because real, sincere happiness can only be achieved by sharing it with someone.
The difference between motivation and manipulation
How to motivate yourself - set a goal and do everything to achieve it
Many psychology textbooks have been written about how to motivate a man. However, motivation should not be confused with manipulation. Manipulation always involves some kind of selfish goal: a woman wants to achieve her goals with the help of a partner. Motivation is a process when a lady helps her companion achieve his goals, not her own.
A man's success largely depends on his companion
Who do you need to be to inspire?
Every representative of the fairer sex should know how to inspire a man to succeed. In order to become a real muse, a woman must:
- To be sexually attractive, desirable, seductive for your partner;
- Have worldly wisdom;
- Never insist on your own, be able to adapt to the character and desires of your partner if necessary;
- Sincerely love a man and wish him only good, happiness, success, and selflessly.
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If all the conditions described above are met, a lady can turn out to be a real inspiration who will help her spouse or loved one achieve success in absolutely all endeavors. It should also be remembered that if a lady wants to motivate her chosen one, she should under no circumstances put herself above him, even if in fact the woman’s social status is indeed higher (for example, she occupies a leadership position with a high salary, and her husband - ordinary employee).
Also, a representative of the fairer sex must be one hundred percent confident in herself, her strength and beauty. That kind of confidence is contagious. It is quickly transferred to the partner, and the man begins to understand that he really can do anything.
Interesting. The muses of famous poets and artists often have rather ordinary appearance. An example is the famous Gala, wife of the surrealist artist Salvador Dali. She was older than Dali and did not have the parameters of a model, but she inspired the master to create many paintings.
Typical mistakes of women
- The myth that sex is the best motivation is completely baseless. If you give your man only sexual pleasure, but do not devote time to cleaning, hobbies and communication, he is unlikely to want to do anything for you.
- If every day, without getting what you want, you doubt a man - this is the worst scenario. Reproaches will make him even weaker, and he will not achieve even small goals. It is important to remember that motivation is not a one-day process. You must support and guide your chosen one every day, believing in his success.
- Some women try to motivate only with flattery and compliments. However, in a relationship you need to be strict and tell the truth. If you notice that he is making a mistake or is reluctant to seize an opportunity, you should tell him about it. Raise him carefully, without blaming him for all his problems.
- Trying to control a man is one of the main mistakes, according to men themselves. There is no need to control all his movements, correspondence and actions. He must make his own decisions, and if necessary, he will turn to you.
- Do not discuss him (especially his mistakes or problems) with relatives or friends. Gossip spreads quickly and he may lose respect for you.
How to properly motivate a man
How to interest a man by correspondence and is it possible to drive him crazy?
Motivating a man with a woman is a rather complex and time-consuming process. The main thing is not to be intrusive, so as not to provoke the effect of rejection. To do this you need:
- Talk directly, avoiding hints, but without insulting your partner, even if this is not the most successful person;
- Act systematically and daily;
- Constantly instill in your partner the idea that he will succeed;
- Never discuss the success of your spouse or partner with other people, even close relatives, in the presence of a man.
These simple rules will be of great benefit.
How to motivate yourself to earn more money
Not everyone knows how to motivate a man to earn money who has held a small position for a long time and is quite happy with this state of affairs. The answer is simple: you need to make the man himself understand that earning a lot of money and financial well-being will benefit him. Only by independently realizing the need to increase income will a former loser be able to change his old job to a more profitable one.
An ordinary employee under the influence of a lady can easily become a boss
How to motivate for success
Before inspiring a man to succeed, you need to think about whether he is able to cope with the tasks. The load must be within his strength. A woman should often repeat to her beloved that she believes in him, and success will not be long in coming.
How to motivate a man to take action
In order to motivate the chosen one to commit this or that act, it is necessary to explain to him what benefits will come from performing this deed. For example, in order to achieve a marriage proposal, you can argue for the need for marriage by saying that joint budgeting will help optimize financial costs, and having a child together will help improve the relationship. Men are practical people, therefore, having realized the benefits of something, the partner is unlikely to be stubborn.
The main thing is to find the right approach to your loved one
Praise is the best way to motivate a man
The most effective way to motivate men is verbal, through praise. You need to praise wisely. To do this, you must follow the instructions:
- Do not be verbose and praise only on the merits;
- Praise your husband or boyfriend not only for a specific action, but also for his character qualities (purposeful, stubborn, persistent), even if this is not entirely true;
- You shouldn’t greatly embellish your masculine virtues, because your partner can easily suspect the falseness and insincerity of the praise;
- You can combine praise with other types of reward (for example, a romantic dinner together at a restaurant or nice sex).
When choosing words for praise, you should remember the famous phrase from the cartoon about Captain Vrungel: “Whatever you call the yacht, that’s how it will sail.” If the laziest man is constantly told that he is a hard worker, he will certainly become one (but this will not happen right away).
On the contrary, if you constantly scold and humiliate the most purposeful and stubborn gentleman, he will soon turn into a weak-willed and helpless person. The power of words is very great and should not be underestimated. Verbal praise is an important tool for motivating action, which in 100% of cases helps ladies achieve their goals and motivate their loved one. This must be done delicately.
Praise always flatters male vanity
Tips on how to learn to inspire a man
Inspiration is always aimed at something - an action, achieving a goal, demonstrating feelings, etc. In order to manifest something like this in a man, you need to believe that he has it, because you wouldn’t teach a butterfly to swim, saying that she will succeed and is great. Only your own faith is the basis of inspiration. When a woman does not agree with a man’s goals, his priorities and choices do not respond to her, then she will not be able to inspire. It’s worth first understanding yourself very deeply and understanding whether you want to inspire or remake, and if the latter is creeping in more and more, then it makes sense to end this relationship and look for one where you will believe in a man.
You need to start by developing your trust in a man - this means giving him that part of the responsibility that rightfully lies with him, without controlling or interfering. Many have been burned by unfulfilled promises, broken agreements, and wrong speed or order of implementation. The more control, the less initiative there is; a man will not plan and develop, but will only wait for the woman’s instructions. This is how self-confidence disappears, which, however, is quite easy to restore.
If at home the husband ceases to be the main man, but only the executor of orders, and then he meets a girl who simply asks to solve her problems and waits. This level of trust at first frightens, and then forces you to gather yourself and remember all your skills, help, consider your uniqueness and strength. The ability to control life is an important component for men; a woman’s task is to provide it. You need to relax and trust.
Admiring and focusing only on positive or necessary qualities can work wonders. Men rarely receive compliments and praise; they still often doubt their own success and are structured in such a way that their opinion of themselves is formed on the basis of external assessment.
The more admiring a woman’s look, the more energy a man has. This is precisely why lovers can stay awake for days and overcome impossible loads - because they are looked at as if they were a demigod, they talk about wonderful qualities and constantly tirelessly believe in success and victory.
A woman can draw a man’s attention not only to his qualities in external and effective manifestations, but also in the sphere of feelings. This is a very delicate, but important work, because men are less sensitive, and they pay less attention and importance to the emotional sphere. But if, thanks to a woman, they become acquainted with their sensitivity, then after fear and confusion, the boundaries of their world will expand, providing new opportunities, in all areas. New negotiation strategies are being formed, unique ideas are emerging, and the nature of relationships is changing.
A woman's gratitude, as reinforcement of a pleasant line of behavior and inspiration, is a powerful impetus. How often do we stop being grateful for certain things, first relegating them to the level of habitual, and then responsibilities. The fact that they made you a cup of coffee in the morning deserves sincere words of gratitude, a smile, a hug, a kiss, but most often a man may receive a reproach for not having enough sugar or that the drink is cold. The next morning you can’t wait for coffee, and this applies to everything - picking you up from work, opening the door, helping with bags, bringing medicine, sitting at a boring dinner with relatives, not to mention fulfilling direct requests.
A woman’s work with her own emotional state is necessary for overall balance and desire to come to her. Anything that helps each person specifically is suitable here - some relieve stress with boxing, others with a massage, some need to spend three hours in silence, others need to meet with friends. It doesn’t matter how you make yourself happy, the main thing is not to put it only on the shoulders of a man, he is not your personal genie, but a living person who also needs understanding and support.
Women's tricks in motivating the stronger sex
In order for a person to become responsible, persistent, and purposeful, a woman must always pretend to be weak, even if in reality she is not, and hide her success. This must be done without fail. Then the partner will want to protect her and thus develop important qualities: self-confidence, the ability to achieve one’s own and earn money for the family in order to live in abundance, perseverance and determination. This is a time-tested means of motivation.
Also, in no case should you be rude and insult your chosen one, even if he doesn’t succeed in everything. You need to praise and inspire for any, even the most insignificant, step forward, for any business. In this case, the man will understand that he is important to the woman, this is the right path to progress and the right movement forward.
You shouldn’t share your tricks in motivating your loved one with anyone. Of course, the partner shouldn’t know anything either. Let the man think that he achieved all his successes on his own, without the help of a lady, and let his partner have nothing to do with his great victories. Then he will become even more self-confident and strong in spirit, and his love for his chosen one will only intensify. These simple tips will help inspire any guy to do great things and receive his love every day. The main thing is to act according to the system and guide your husband through life without stopping him from going on his own.
Every lady has her own little tricks
Interesting. If your partner is very stubborn, you can, as they say in psychology, “go by the opposite” to achieve the desired goal. An example from practice: my husband was laid off from his job, and he has not found a job for a long time, he does not even want to work, receive money and support his family. In order to drive her partner off the couch, the woman, on the contrary, persuades him to rest and motivates this by the fact that a good job with big earnings is still very difficult to find. In 99% of 100, the stubborn person will certainly begin the search for a new position of money and wealth, guided solely by a feeling of protest.
It is not difficult to become a source of inspiration for a representative of the stronger sex; the main thing is to behave confidently and know your worth. Practical experience shows that such behavior can motivate a gentleman to do anything, including a marriage proposal followed by a trip to the registry office. Each man is a unique personality requiring an individual approach.
