Energy vampire: how to recognize and protect yourself?

Have you ever met a person who regularly hurt you, tried to humiliate you, or proved that you are worthless, don’t know how to do anything, can’t do anything, etc.? Remember what emotions you felt towards him at the time of the attacks? What do you think the man himself felt when he saw that his “attacks” were ending successfully? If you have not encountered anything like this, we can only be happy for you, but the majority, having carefully delved into their memory, will probably remember several similar personalities. And someone will even find such an individual in their environment now.

It is noteworthy that having caused irritation or despondency in the target of attacks in the form of fairly strong emotions, these people experience satisfaction and an uplift in mood, although outwardly this may not be so obvious. They seem to be “full” and leave the “victim” for a while until the next time. Have you never encountered this before? Maybe they were watching from the sidelines? Or... are you not averse to doing this and is this a common thing for you? In fact, to one degree or another, such phenomena are quite common in modern society.

If you carefully consider the phenomenon described above, the associations suggest themselves. The aggressor behaves like a vampire, only he “drinks” not blood from his victim, but emotions. Therefore, without the slightest touch of mysticism, it is most reasonable to call such a person a vampire - this is the most appropriate term, if we call a spade a spade. Just not an ordinary vampire, no one drinks blood from the body, but an energy vampire. It would be more clear to use the term “emotional vampire,” but the phrase “energy vampire” has already taken root, and having understood more deeply the essence of such a phenomenon as emotion, one can understand: emotion is the energy of life! And to emotion, oddly enough, we apply the general principle of conservation of energy of the physical world: if it decreases in one place, it arrives in another: having spoiled your mood, the vampire improved it for himself!

For complete understanding, let's give a definition.

An energy vampire is a subject of communication who initially, consciously or unconsciously, openly or covertly provokes the other side of communication into negative emotions of a destructive nature in order to suppress and obtain moral satisfaction. Such relationships are common in an environment of communication with a social hierarchy: in a work team, among students and students, even in the family.

How to recognize?

To understand that there is such a parasite in your environment, you need to carefully observe the person who has fallen “under suspicion” and analyze his behavior, as well as the emotions that he evokes in you. So, here are the signs by which a final “diagnosis” can be made:

The main feature of an energy vampire is the desire to evoke negative emotions and receive satisfaction from it. This property is common to all of them, but manifests itself in different ways, depending on the temperament and “viciousness” of the vampire.

Aggressive energy vampires provoke scandals, insult, sometimes shout, criticize, humiliate and experience pleasure from it. They are quite easy to identify, and they are not particularly camouflaged. It is important to understand this nuance: if a person has a scandal or has a conflict with someone, this does not mean that he is now a vampire . Perhaps he is defending his rights, trying to prove something, albeit at the cost of his nerves. But there is no joy in that for him. A real “bloodsucker” loves to create scandals, he enjoys keeping someone in nervous tension and likes to suppress. He has such a “lifestyle”.
“Hidden” energy vampires are not as obvious as aggressive ones, but are much more dangerous and evil. When a person lacks personal energy, and for some reason there is no opportunity to openly suck it out, as aggressive people do, he begins to act secretly. He may constantly complain about life and harass the “donor” with his whims. Gossip is another favorite tool of such a person - they love to savor the “piquant details” of someone else’s life and slander those around them. The hidden vampire rarely says nasty things to your face. He will “secretly open your eyes” to your friends, “throw mud” at them, and tell you how badly they “really” treat you. And then he will tell them something similar about you. Like the aggressive ones, the hidden ones love all sorts of conflicts and scandals. However, they prefer to remain on the sidelines, pitting others against each other, and then watching and gloating in their souls, so that they can secretly, secretly feed on the release of negative energy. They love to find fault and cling to children, tormenting them with nagging and teachings.

Surrounded by energy vampires, equipment often breaks down, things become unusable and quickly wear out, plants and animals get sick and even die. There is no mysticism here, but the point is that these people have a destructive nature. They rarely keep the house and things in order, they usually handle equipment incredibly carelessly, and do not finish things to the end. And vampires treat animals and plants no better than people.
The loved ones and relatives of an energy vampire, especially children, who are forced to constantly communicate with him, are unhappy, unlucky, people in poor health.
Energy vampires themselves are unhappy, self-sufficient creatures who do not know how to truly receive joy from life. They do not enjoy the success of others, they do not know how to empathize, no matter what they say about it.

An energy vampire does not always harm consciously, often considering his behavior to be the only normal and correct one, but this, of course, does not make it any easier for his victims.

There are circumstances, such as illness or an accident, when an ordinary person begins to show the properties of a vampire : get irritated, blame others out of nowhere, complain about life, or otherwise “nervous” others, especially loved ones. This does not mean that a person has turned into an energy vampire. It’s just that sometimes the energy of an ordinary person seriously suffers and there is a sharp shortage of it. In this case , you should help the person and support him in difficult times. When the situation improves, he will return to normal. While for an energy vampire the norm is vampirism and no amount of support will correct the situation, it will only increase appetite.

How to protect yourself?

There is probably nothing in the world as useless as proving a vampire wrong. He himself must realize the depth of his fall and begin consciously working on himself - then and only then will he have a chance to change his life for the better. Therefore, you should not correct the vampire, but protect yourself from him.

What is protection from energy vampires?

The surest way to protect your own energy from theft is to reduce communication with negative individuals to a minimum. It's better not to communicate at all.

However, it is not always possible to apply such drastic measures. An energy vampire could be a wife or husband, a mother-in-law, a boss at work, or one of her colleagues. And running away every time is not the best option. Alas, this is simply impossible - people with chronic lack of energy are everywhere.

The first thing to do, if you are sure that you are dealing with just such a person, is to limit communication to the necessary minimum. In any case, you shouldn’t open your soul to him and share your innermost thoughts, but on the contrary, keep your true feelings as far away as possible.

Second, learn to control your emotions. Remember - the vampire needs to get a surge of negative emotions. Moreover, it will not be possible to “put on a good face when playing poorly.” If attacks hit home, it's not enough to pretend you don't care. For him, it’s even better if the victim endures and endures everything stoically. You need to learn to control your emotions and become tougher on yourself. Do not allow yourself to be drawn into conflicts, be able to joke and laugh in the right place. The vampire hates positive emotions; he needs negative ones. Having made sure that you won’t get any “blood”, he will eventually fall behind and switch to more accessible victims. Perhaps from time to time attempts will be made to cling to your energy, but if you continue to pursue your line, you will remain invulnerable.

Don't give in to the whining of hidden energy vampires. Their constant complaints, vocal grievances and nagging take up no less energy than open conflict. Talk to them about neutral topics, and if this is appropriate, generally invite them to talk about something good from their life. At the same time, look at the response: if they were going to borrow energy from you, it is unlikely that such a proposal will be met with enthusiasm. This method is not only excellent protection, but also a good diagnostic method.

Don't trust people who criticize everyone behind their backs. It is unlikely that they speak better about you when you are not listening.

Some are helped by an artificial, but sometimes very effective method. When faced with the theft of your energy, keep a fig in your pocket or imagine that there is a glass wall between the aggressor and you. And yet the main defense is internal discipline, a positive attitude, healthy humor and the ability to make fun of yourself. The vampire feeds on the release of negative emotions: anger, resentment, irritation, fear, hatred, pity, pain, envy and the like. If they don’t exist, there is no food for the energy parasite.

Neutralize the energy vampire

So, how to understand that this is an energy vampire in front of you - we figured it out. First of all, he needs to receive emotions from you: preferably bright, stormy, negative. Most often, a vampire acts through attempts to get you into a quarrel, begins to sort things out, seemingly “out of the blue,” provokes, argues, openly is rude, accuses or tries to induce a feeling of guilt, clings and insults in every possible way, and generally behaves aggressively.

At the same time, anyone can turn out to be an energy vampire, even the person closest to you.

“How not to succumb to these provocations?” - you ask. I'm telling you.

Only awareness will save you from the effects of an energy vampire. I propose a universal scheme for interacting with vampires, consisting of five simple steps.

Step one

As soon as you find yourself in a similar situation, you are faced with aggression “out of the blue” - realize that this is an energy vampire in front of you, and that they are simply trying to get you emotional.

Step two

By force of will, force yourself not to react to attempts to unbalance you. Be calm while maintaining complete control over your emotions.

Step three

Tell the energy vampire, “Let’s talk at another time.” And after that, do not react to any of his words. Stop the conversation and stop contact.

Step four

Don't give in to provocations. Show that you are not interested in sorting things out and you are not ready to talk right now.

Step five

Take a break. If you continue to endlessly replay the current situation in your head, even after you stop contacting the vampire, he will still achieve his goal - he will receive your energy. Therefore, it is necessary to completely abstract yourself: finish the things you started, read a book, devote time to your hobby or other enjoyable activities - anything that will give you pleasure and help you get distracted will do.

Vadim Zeland speaks about similar principles of protection from vampires and manipulators:

Awareness will allow you to realize at the right moment that they are trying to lure you into a game or a trap. A low importance level will make it difficult to tune into your frequency. You should especially pay attention to signs of the slightest feeling of guilt.
If I'm empty, there's nothing to hook me to. The manipulator, after making one or two unsuccessful attempts, will leave you alone. Well, a durable energy shell will serve as reliable protection against invasion.

Your sense of “self-importance” is the main lever that the energy vampire presses on to get you emotional. Therefore, this very “importance” needs to be “reset” - that is, to realize that in fact they are not trying to insult or humiliate you, they just want to get an emotional reaction from you.

If you understand this, you will gain total control over yourself and the situation. Realizing that he “attacked the wrong person” and there is no use in getting you emotional, the vampire will switch to a more convenient target and easy prey.

How to become an energy vampire?

Oddly enough, some people ask this question. Unfortunately, there is no romance here. Life is not a fantasy film or fiction. There is nothing good in the described state, and first of all, for the person himself.

But it’s not at all difficult to explain how one actually becomes an energy vampire. The method is simple:

Be angry deep down at the world around you and at all people without exception. Even on loved ones. And then realize that you are the only one who is truly important to you personally (just don’t talk too much about this discovery).
It would be good to get out of your way so as to get some kind of chronic sore, or better yet several at once, which would torment and give no rest. This is not a prerequisite, but it helps greatly in enhancing vampire skills. You can exchange physical pain for serious psychological trauma.
Make it a habit to irritate others or someone in particular. Perhaps it makes you fear and hate. Or you can evoke pity by flaunting the sores received in step 2. It doesn't matter.
Now comes the most important thing! You should learn to enjoy it when others feel bad. Feel it. Annoy people, oppress, suppress and feel satisfaction. You can monotonously harass, if possible. In any way, think, your imagination will tell you... First, try to find a weak person who is easy to bully or torment. Then one or two more. Eventually you will become a seasoned vampire! Just try to avoid strong people who can give serious resistance. Look around, you will probably find a “weak link”.

That's all. The rest will take care of itself. Have you changed your mind yet? Then go ahead and sing! Just don’t be surprised that you will become a truly unhappy person with perverted morals, poor health, whom no one particularly likes and everyone tries to avoid if possible.

Energy vampire nearby

This story happened to me several years ago. Quite unexpectedly, I became a victim of an energy vampire.

I was a participant in a weekend training dedicated to the topic of love. For two whole days there was a magical and indescribable atmosphere of acceptance around me. I was swimming in wonderful feelings, “flying” on emotions of happiness, joy, euphoria, unconditional love - I was practically floating!

And when I returned home, my close friend, with whom I had been friends for eight years at that time and lived together for some time, after the very first phrases of greeting, created a scandal. I tried to calm her down because I was still in a state of happiness and acceptance. But this angered her so much that she attacked me with her fists.

She just beat me up! It was a real shock and shock: I have never seen so much anger in people. Only when I became truly scared did she suddenly stop.

The friend herself did not understand what was happening and why. And here's the thing. Just at the moment when I returned from the training, inspired and happy, my friend, against the background of personal problems and difficulties that she could not resolve, had extremely low, weakened energy.

“Sensing” the strength and energy gushing out of me, the energy vampire “awakened” in her. This worked as a kind of defense mechanism that was supposed to help her survive and prevent her from dying from energy exhaustion.

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The Energy Vampire is Closer Than You Think

One student of Elizaveta Volkova, who took a course on restoring love relationships, shared her experience of encountering an energy vampire.

The first stage of the course is getting rid of negative attitudes, accepting yourself and finding self-love. We practice various meditations, look for and work through the root causes, get rid of negativity, and so on.

Having done this work on herself and mastered the course, the girl found herself on very high positive vibrations. And a little later I decided to meet with my mother, whom I had not seen for a long time and who was not feeling very well. And although the mother was glad to see her daughter “prettier and renewed,” she herself at that moment experienced negative emotions, being in a bad mood and, accordingly, on low vibrations.

What happened? They simply couldn't communicate! Mother and daughter, who previously understood each other perfectly, this time seemed to speak different languages.

The mother tried in every possible way to hurt the girl's pain, to be sarcastic, in general, to do everything to piss her off. There was a big quarrel between them.

Later, when the girl’s condition stabilized and high vibrations ceased to be something unusual for her, relations with her mother improved.

According to the student, now almost no one can make her angry.

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