Few human vices have received as many criticisms and serious accusations as cowardice. Sometimes it is easier to say about yourself “a scoundrel” than to admit that it is more consistent with reality - “a coward.”
This is not surprising, for cowardice is the characteristic of the soul that we find it most difficult to admit; and how can one dare to make such a revelation, if cowardice presupposes precisely a complete inability to truthfully admit one’s shortcomings... after all, such a confession is frightening!
What is Cowardice and who is a Coward? Definitions
Cowardice is a criminal weakness based on fear. Why exactly criminal weakness? Because a coward is capable of committing almost any crime because of his fear.
Cowardice can also be defined as the inability to take necessary and responsible actions at a moment of certain danger due to fear. Let's take a closer look:
A coward is a slave to his fear, a person weak in spirit and will. If a person is a slave to fear, this means that he has completely surrendered to it, does not control himself (is not able to think with his head and make decisions), but obeys his fear 100%.
They say: “We always despise a coward and a traitor!” Why? Because if a person is a coward, then he is, in fact, a potential traitor and criminal; out of fear, he can deceive, frame, slander, betray, even abandon his child or a woman in danger, and much more. etc.
How to get rid of cowardice and fear
Cowardice ruins a person's life. The inability to overcome fears is the main problem, which lies in one’s own weakness. Fears weaken the psyche, which prevents a person from fully enjoying life and realizing himself in different areas of life. You cannot indulge your fears, otherwise you will never become confident. How to stop being a coward?
One of the reasons for cowardice is often some kind of deficiency or poor development of physical abilities. Everyone can remember moments from their childhood when teenagers began to offend weaker or younger peers. They cannot answer anything in return and the only thing left is to close themselves off and do nothing else to change the situation.
How to stop being a coward
Solving the problem of lack of physical fitness is not difficult. To become brave, just enroll in a section for developing strength abilities (bodybuilding, weightlifting, boxing and other sports). After just a few months of training, you will begin to feel the strength in your hands that you will need for self-defense.
How to get rid of cowardice if, despite good physical fitness, fears overcome you? The whole catch here is that it is much more difficult to overcome the psychological cause of cowardice. You need to gather your courage and still decisively meet your fears. Write them down on a piece of paper, before carefully considering your behavior in different life situations. Write them all down in order from most important to least important.
After you complete the task, find the three most minor fears, and then recreate the situation in which they manifested themselves. Do this as soon as possible by doing what you really want. If everything worked out, be sure to praise yourself and reward yourself with something for the small victory. Otherwise, try to repeat the tasks again and again until you achieve success. Gradually move on to larger fears, and you will see how your mental stability will increase significantly over time.
If you want to get rid of cowardice and become courageous, then every morning should start with a positive attitude. After waking up and before going to bed, repeat to yourself: “I believe in my strength. I am beautiful, brave and strong. I am making my dreams come true." It is better to do this in front of the mirror and out loud. Saying affirmations really helps to overcome barriers in the subconscious that arise after unsuccessful situations in life.
How does a Coward differ from a normal person who is afraid, in whom there is fear?
A worthy or simply normal person who is afraid is not capable of committing terrible crimes (deception, slander, betrayal, murder) because of fear, that is, he is able to overcome or at least control his fear. He has moral and ethical restrictions (principles) in his Soul that will not allow him to commit a criminal act out of fear.
A coward is like an animal driven by fear, in the power of which he does not understand anything and does everything to save his own skin, often at the expense of evil committed against others. Therefore, a coward is always despised, and cowardice is a shameful quality that evokes only contempt and disgust.
But since fear lives in almost every person, this line between cowardice and ordinary fear is often very thin, and until you find yourself in an extreme situation, it is difficult to understand whether you are a coward or not.
If, even despite fear, you are able to do what you are obliged to do, fulfill your duty, act with dignity, that is, embrace fear and overcome it for a good purpose - you are not a coward, you are a worthy person!
I hope I will make you happy if I say that everything can be treated, and fear can be eliminated, and a coward can re-educate himself, becoming a worthy person and even a fearless warrior.
What should we replace Cowardice and Fear with?
Cowardice is replaced by self-control and subjugation of your fear! With the help of your mind and will, the right decisions and attitude, you need to learn to keep fear in a cage like a mad dog, always under your thumb, tightly controlling it. So that he is your slave, and not you his weak-willed servant.
Fear itself is replaced by such valiant qualities as Fearlessness and Courage. It is inherent in the best people of history and modernity: Warriors, Knights, Officers, Samurai, Spartans, Legionnaires, Rulers and simply strong and worthy men and women.
There is a beautiful saying: “A warrior dies only once and always with dignity, a coward dies thousands of times, every time he is afraid, and he always dies like a cowardly jackal.”
How to get rid of Cowardice? Algorithm
The work will consist of two parts:
Learn to overcome and control your fear. Essentially, stop being afraid of your fear and become its master, begin to subjugate it to yourself, your will, your spirit. And after that, you can remove the fear itself and work directly with its causes. Algorithm and practical steps:
1. It's always motivation. Create a motivation that will give you the strength and energy to go through this work on yourself to the end, to victory. Let me remind you that we always work with motivation in writing:
- Write a detailed list of at least 30 points - what troubles await you and what you will lose if you remain a slave to your fear, a coward, throughout your life. You must be clearly and clearly aware of all the negative consequences of your weakness and really want to get rid of it.
- Write down at least 30 reasons and reasons that are most important to you - what you will gain, what you will get rid of, who you can become, how your life will change if you become brave, get rid of cowardice and learn to conquer your fear.
This is a very important task that needs to be completed first.
2. You must completely believe that you can get rid of cowardice , stop flagellating and destroying yourself because of this shortcoming. To do this, I bring you a combined text from the book “47 Principles of the Ancient Samurai or the Leader’s Code.” This is your attitude, read it completely and more than once:
I'm a coward! How can I overcome cowardice?
I'm a coward! How can I overcome cowardice?
If a person can admit to himself that he is a coward, this is already half the victory. Most cowards never even undertake to fight their own cowardice. And those who decide to become fearless and courageous need to know what to do, how to work on themselves.
Let's look at the basic methods - what you need to do to get rid of cowardice.
I'm a coward! How can I overcome cowardice?
If you have admitted to yourself that you are a coward, this is already a big part of your future victory. But in order to completely remove cowardice, conquer fear and stop being a coward, you need to invest some effort; understanding alone will not be enough.
This article is a continuation of the topic “What is Cowardice and who is a Coward?” Be sure to read it before you start working on yourself.
Next, without further ado, I propose to move on to considering the algorithm for working on yourself.
How to get rid of Cowardice? Algorithm
I’ll say right away that you will work directly with fear according to the relevant articles, which I provide below, and in this article we will dwell in more detail on the correct attitude of our mind, our will and fortitude.
The work will consist of two parts:
- Learn to overcome and control your fear. Essentially, stop being afraid of your fear and become its master, begin to subjugate it to yourself, your will, your spirit.
- And after that, you can remove the fear itself and work directly with its causes.
Algorithm and practical steps:
1. It's always motivation. Create a motivation that will give you the strength and energy to go through this work on yourself to the end, to victory. Let me remind you that we always work with motivation in writing:
- Write a detailed list of at least 30 points - what troubles await you and what you will lose if you remain a slave to your fear, a coward, throughout your life. You must be clearly and clearly aware of all the negative consequences of your weakness and really want to get rid of it.
- Write down at least 30 reasons and reasons that are most important to you - what you will gain, what you will get rid of, who you can become, how your life will change if you become brave, get rid of cowardice and learn to conquer your fear.
This is a very important task that needs to be completed first.
2. You must fully believe that you can get rid of cowardice, stop beating yourself and destroying yourself because of this shortcoming. To do this, I bring you a combined text from the book “47 Principles of the Ancient Samurai or the Leader’s Code.” This is your attitude, read it completely and more than once:
Samurai Code of Honor. How cowardice is overcome
Some calculations from the texts of the Ancient Samurai, on the basis of which the highest leaders of Japan have been training for 700 years.
“It is important to realize that the one from whom not even a name remains and the one who became famous throughout the centuries fell, experiencing the same pain when their heads were cut off by the enemy. But if death is imminent, the leader's task should be to die in an act of great valor capable of defeating both comrades and enemies.
How different this is from the fate of the coward, who is last in battle and first in flight. During an attack on the fortress, he is shielded by his comrades as a shield from the enemy. Struck, he falls and suffers a dog's death, and his comrades walk over his body. This is the greatest shame and should never be forgotten.
The main principle of a leader: right and wrong
If a Warrior knows how to achieve the first and avoid the second, then he will choose the unmistakable path of a leader. Understanding the essence of the phenomenon, we will see that it all comes down to cowardice.
As an example, consider an ancient battle. Those who are born brave will see nothing special in fighting under a hail of arrows and bullets.
Devoted to fidelity and duty, he will expose his breast to the fire of the enemy and mount the enemy, showing in his magnificent valor an indescribably wonderful example.
There is someone whose knees tremble and whose heart trembles, but he wonders: how can he act honorably in the midst of all the dangers? And he continues to participate in the battle because he is ashamed to be the only one who hesitates in the face of his comrades.
Thus he strengthens his resolve, and he will attack the enemy along with those who are brave by nature. And although at first he is weaker than the brave man, but after some repetitions of such experience he gets used to it and begins to follow the example of one born brave; in his exploits he grows into a Warrior, not inferior to one who was born fearless from the beginning.
So, in order to do the right thing, and in order to gain valor, there is no other way than the one that goes through a sense of shame and a clear conscience.
And when the time of our physical death comes, it will seem that only a moment has passed after reading these words. And by what code will we live in the short moments that follow?”
I hope this text inspired you as much as it did me :)
Therefore, the second thing you need to do is set a goal for yourself to learn to overcome your fear , turn your face to it, walk, step on it.
This is a constant training in which your courage and fearlessness grow, and your cowardice melts before your eyes.
Start doing what you are afraid of, but not with your greatest fear, and let you have the first positive experience in overcoming your fear, and in gaining initial control over it, so that you feel and believe - “Yes, I can do this!”
3. The next step is to learn to deal directly with fears and their causes.
4. Next, you can form the necessary worthy qualities of Courage and Fearlessness.
5. What else will help you learn to overcome your fear, remove cowardice, and become a brave and fearless person:
- Practicing martial arts or related sports.
- Attending special classes and trainings on Personal growth.
- Special books, such as “Two Lives”, “47 Principles of the Ancient Samurai...” etc.
Best regards, Vasily Vasilenko
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