How to get a guy to like you on the first date: instructions from A to Z

Question 1: Where to go, where to go?

It’s great if it’s the guy who takes the initiative. If he is interested in your opinion, you can rely on a pleasant pastime in a cafe or on a walk. Both options are non-binding.

Think about how convenient it is to get to your destination, whether there are parking spaces there, and whether it is located in close proximity to a public transport stop.

The place should be such that if something happens you can leave it freely at any time. To avoid all sorts of excesses, neither his nor your apartment is suitable. Categorically.

How to behave to interest a man

There are more than four billion males in the world and, it would seem, they are all different. This is only half true. The techniques and subtleties of behavior for seduction are very different. They are influenced by age, status, religion and, of course, “cockroaches” in the head. The latter can come as a real surprise.

Using psychological techniques, personal charm and a little feminine cunning, the key can be found for anyone. To please men, you just need to know the subtleties of male perception and be yourself.

Before official acquaintance

It often happens that you like a person at work, an acquaintance in a common company, or a new neighbor. And it seems that people are not officially introduced to each other, but a spark has already flown. Then you need to look for common ground. At a meeting with friends, you can involve the guy in a general dialogue, and then carefully turn the conversation to topics that interest only two people. It’s a good idea to ask for help with something small, like holding your bag or giving you a phone to make a call. A gentleman will never refuse such a harmless request from a pretty lady.

If the gentleman is known only on the Internet, you can start an unobtrusive conversation and ask general questions. But there is no need to conduct an interrogation with partiality. Word for word - and a casual conversation will yield results in the form of a personal meeting.

In all cases, you need to act carefully, delicately and with restraint, because many men are frightened by ladies who themselves invite you on a date or do not give way. This is definitely not the best seduction strategy.

During correspondence

Meeting people on the Internet is a common thing for modern young people. A page on a social network is a business card, and photographs are the main advertisement of its owner. A man, having looked at the photo, will already conclude that he wants to communicate and meet such a girl. To get a guy to like you online, the first thing you should work on is your photos. They should be varied and convey individuality well. The figure, face, smile, hair - this is what catches you first. There is no need to hide behind pictures and other people's photos. This works when the gentleman is unfamiliar, but if he has already had the pleasure of meeting the owner of the page in real life, then the pictures will once again remind him how pretty she is.

Let's say the chosen one wrote it himself. How to build a dialogue so that he feels sympathy? This will help:

1. Relaxed communication style and positivity. There is no need to burden the guy with your problems from the first minutes, complain and whine.
2. Humor. Laughter can make a person fall in love with you - this has been proven by psychologists! Jokes will help a man relax, and besides, guys really appreciate girls who can make them laugh. But first it’s worth testing the waters so as not to overstep the boundaries. For example, if the gentleman is a believer, you should not tell jokes about God.
3. Talk about him. Just not to fanaticism! Conversations about the choice of toothpaste or a mole on the forehead are best left for later. Everything else is appropriate. This way the guy will understand that the girl wants to know more about him. Everyone loves it when members of the opposite sex are interested in them. You start to like people like this.
4. More specifics. There should be a mystery in a woman, but if she is already on the other side of the screen, then this is unnecessary. You shouldn’t write: “I love movies and animals.” If you write “I love Steven Spielberg films and hunting dogs,” the guy immediately knows which film to invite the girl to.

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On the first date

Everyone is worried on the eve of the first meeting, because in 90% of cases it decides what will happen next. The gentleman makes an impression about the girl, which is then only corrected, but the lady wants to present herself as favorably as possible and, of course, to please her. Psychologists recommend that young ladies on a first date remember several rules:

1. Behave easily, casually, openly and friendly if you like a man. Aggressive flirting, vulgarity, and vulgar statements are unacceptable. Polite compliments, jokes, funny stories and unobtrusive questions are welcome. It’s worth talking about yourself if the interlocutor asks, otherwise he may consider the girl selfish and arrogant. But the image of a sweet, cheerful and smart girl will definitely arouse sympathy.
2. Clothing must be appropriate for the situation. There is no need to dress in outfits that clearly demonstrate all the feminine charms, or things that the lady has not worn for a long time or only purchased the night before. Clothes should be comfortable. Light dresses, blouses, comfortable trousers, even regular jeans will do. The main thing is that things favorably emphasize advantages and hide shortcomings.
3. Moderate makeup. Many guys have a negative attitude towards an overly made-up face and prefer to see their interlocutor more natural. A little powder, mascara and delicate lipstick are the best solution to charm him in the first minutes.
4. Modesty. Of course, there is no need to pretend to be a nun. Finally, you can kiss the guy on the cheek. But it’s better not to express yourself, laugh loudly, drink alcohol and talk about how your neighbor Uncle Vasya has been wearing tights with stretched knees for five years.
5. Don't talk about former relationships. Few people like to discuss breakups and quarrels. Instead, your partner will be happy to talk about their hobbies or favorite books. You can also gently ask where he would like to meet for the second time. This shows interest.

With a colleague

Many employers do not approve of relationships between employees, and the employees themselves have ambivalent attitudes towards them. For some, this is the norm, while others sharply condemn this. In order not to spoil the budding relationship, you should show your sympathy unnoticed by everyone except the object itself, so as not to put yourself and him in an awkward position.

It is important that the gentleman does not have time to form a negative impression about the girl from the words of other people in the team, especially if he is the boss. A lady should be polite and responsive to everyone in the workplace, not get into arguments or spread gossip.

Small signs of attention will help a man understand that his office neighbor has not at all friendly feelings towards him. An offer to help with a difficult work situation, a minor compliment, a question about how your weekend was, praise for a task well done - these actions are not obligatory, but they will play their role.

Flirting is acceptable when a girl is alone with the object of her sympathy. You can sometimes catch the eye of your chosen one, consult with him, joke. He must guess what the young lady likes, but not know about it 100%.

When it comes to a married person

Taking your husband away from your family is not the best thing to do. But if a man is happily married, then it is unlikely that he will reciprocate even the most persistent fan. But guys who are dissatisfied with family life often look for understanding and love on the side. Before you begin seduction, it is worth finding out whether this will interfere with a strong and harmonious family.

To hook a busy man, you first need to show him attention. Family men often do not receive enough of it from their wives, especially if the couple has children. Compliments, a gentle voice, lively questions and a carefree conversation are what you need in this case.

A bright, well-groomed appearance is the first weapon of seduction. Often wives, bogged down in caring for children and everyday problems, stop taking care of themselves. A neat hairstyle, perfume, makeup, a feminine dress - men love with their eyes.

Married gentlemen rarely court a girl if they are not sure of her feelings. At first, a woman will have to actively demonstrate her sympathy and flirt. This way she will have a special place in his heart.

An unobtrusive mention that marriage is not the main thing will help pull the blanket of primacy in the right direction. Busy men look for understanding, ease, care in their mistresses, and not just another marriage obligation. It is necessary to make it clear to the man that he need not be afraid of going to the registry office (even if this is not the case).

Routine life with a spouse leaves no room for entertainment. An unexpected offer, initiative is what will help you get it. For example, if he once casually mentioned that he loves fishing, but hasn’t been there for a long time, it’s time to take the gentleman out to the lake with fishing rods.

If you need to please a rich person

Wealthy men are not deprived of female attention. They spend a lot of time working and have very little time left for their personal lives. They know his worth and will definitely not waste precious minutes on a narrow-minded and unkempt young lady. To seduce a successful and wealthy gentleman, you will need to make a lot of effort:

1. Appearance. The image must be flawless in all respects: makeup, hair, skin, clothes, shoes, accessories, figure. Grooming, a harmonious combination of wardrobe items, neatness and style - these are things without which it is impossible even to attract the attention of a wealthy man.
2. Inner world. To retain a rich companion, beauty alone is not enough. We need to offer something more valuable. Wealthy guys are looking for a lady who will be their equal. The image of a naive, stupid doll will no longer surprise anyone, but it will be well-read, the ability to carry on a conversation, diverse interests, good manners and constant self-improvement. Status men value intelligence, intelligence and a broad outlook.
3. Independence and attitude towards the stronger sex. A wealthy gentleman does not need a girl who will sit at home, sigh languidly and cook borscht. She should have her own life, affairs, interests and personal opinion. An independent and self-sufficient woman who respects men will definitely be able to intrigue and captivate.

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If he's much older

Relationships with large age differences have now become commonplace. But to win a man who is 20 years older, you need to know some subtleties:

1. Clothing and accessories should be elegant, stylish and modest, emphasizing the curves of the body without vulgarity and crazy cutouts. A neckline or a small slit in the skirt is acceptable. Men over 40 want to see a worthy person, not a frivolous girl. The same applies to makeup - it can be evening, but not aggressive.
2. More sincerity. The girl should be herself and stop playing the mysterious English lady. Secretiveness can be perceived as lying and falsehood.
3. Listen and talk. An older man wants communication more than sex. It is important for him that a woman can offer not only intimacy, but also listen to him, smile, and talk about her views on a particular situation.
4. Look into your eyes. Of course, not closely and constantly, but eye contact must be present. You can use your eyes to show your feelings.
5. To be relaxed and inaccessible at the same time, to maintain distance without keeping it. This is self-esteem, lightness and severity at one moment.
6. Light flirting and casual touching. Adult representatives of the stronger sex do not like to rush; they first want to “taste” the girl. A man will certainly react to the coquetry and sparkle in a lady’s eyes, but exactly as needed. Tactile contact tells a man that the lady doesn’t mind being in bed with him.

If the chosen one is much younger

For older ladies, young guys are usually very attractive. They still have childishness, adventurism and a thirst for adventure. In addition, boys are hotter in bed. What does a woman of Balzac’s age need to know in order to attract the attention of a young gentleman? First, it is better to find out as much information as possible about your chosen one; it will allow you to understand whether the guy is looking for a serious relationship or one-day entertainment.

If option one, then you can proceed to the following steps:

1. A young man should feel the lady's reliability. For some time it is worth keeping promises and treating his requests responsibly.
2. It is better to support your partner in all adventures and endeavors, to help in overcoming obstacles. This way he will feel a kindred spirit, and the age limit will quickly disappear.
3. Outfits in the style of a vamp should be put away in the closet. Outwardly, you can try to match the guy’s age. He will appreciate even more a woman who subtly adapts to him.
4. A good solution would be an unusual joint entertainment where there is adrenaline or drive, for example, roller skating, going to an amusement park or a trip to the mountains. It all depends on the preferences of the young man.
5. Losing an argument. This will make the guy feel superior and raise his self-esteem. We need to give him the opportunity to be a winner, to feed his primitive instincts.
6. Attention. Communication on topics close to the interlocutor, compliments, requests for help (but they should not be allowed to be intrusive). So slowly but surely he will begin to think about the amazing lady constantly.

Question 2: What to wear on a date?

Let’s make a reservation right away: clothes should, first of all, be comfortable! It is impossible to feel incomparably beautiful, pulling down the hem of a riding up skirt, writhing from rubbed calluses and at the same time “rustling” with a complex varnished hairstyle. In addition to the image, there is not enough peeling “plaster” from the face.

Girls, remember: the first date with a guy is not the best reason for experimentation. The guy will remember you for a long time in the image in which you appear before him. You don’t want to become the object of his jokes and barbs, do you? Especially on the pages of his correspondence with friends.

First of all, you must be who you are in ordinary everyday life. If you don't wear short leather skirts, red lipstick and ridiculously high heels, then you should avoid them on a date too.

For a corresponding image there must be a corresponding behavior. What if it takes a long time to “play” in a fictitious guise? How long will you last?

In fact, clothing should be selected according to the circumstances. The meeting place, time of year and day play an important role here. For walking around the city/park, well-fitting jeans, a romantic blouse and comfortable shoes are suitable.

For a cafe/restaurant, a feminine dress and a pair of matching pumps will do. Psychologists do not recommend getting carried away with accessories. They distract the guy's attention from you.

Also, you shouldn’t think through your image to the smallest detail: if the date doesn’t work out, you shouldn’t leave it with the thoughts “I prepared this way, I prepared this way...”.

Question 3: How to highlight your strengths?

Psychologists advise that before your first date with a man, analyze your appearance, preferably in the company of a good friend, and think about what you would like to focus the guy’s attention on.

If you have beautiful breasts, choose low-cut (but not too low-cut!) outfits that show off your seductive cleavage and delicate skin.

If you have long and slender legs, wear a short, but still closed, dress or tight skinny jeans in combination with beautiful wedges or heels. If you have a beautiful face, then you should cover your neckline and arms up to the elbow line.

Well, if you are the happy owner of everything at once, then it’s better to decide how you will beat the guy to the ground *wink*

Question 4: What should the makeup be like?

You've obviously read a lot of advice about how guys don't like "war paint" on their faces and "Leaning Towers" of hair. Moments like these understandably turn guys off.

Psychologists say that you should also avoid wearing red lipstick on a first date.

In their opinion, red lipstick is a subconscious invitation to sex. And if a man looks at your half-closed, moist, bright scarlet lips all evening, he will most likely invite you to “have some tea” at his place.

Need I say that in this case it is stupid to sulk at the guy? In the end, they themselves provoked the poor fellow.

On a first date, light makeup in beige and pastel colors will go well. An even complexion, a little blush, a couple of layers of mascara, and a light gloss on the lips.

By the way, fashionable arrows would be quite appropriate. Just don’t draw them too thick: these are only suitable for a club.

What to wear?

How to get a guy to like you on the first date? You can worry less about how to look; at first glance, he has already decided for himself what he likes/dislikes. They take their phones and invite you for a cup of coffee not because there is a volume of Haruki Murakami in their purse. Therefore, there is no time, and there is no point in losing weight, getting eyebrow tattoos or nose correction. All that remains is to dress up correctly so that the chosen one reads, and most importantly understands, all the signals sent to him:

• a man at the age of five, just like at ninety, highly values ​​logic, sorting through his entire countless wardrobe, it is worth focusing on a set that matches the place of the date, a tight-fitting bandage top is great for club life, and stretched ripped jeans can only be tolerated by friends, although if you want to be yourself - then this is not a bad choice;
• dress is the best option, mini, neckline and floor-length are not suitable, palm length above or below the knee, straight or flared silhouette, perhaps choose a set - blouse + skirt;
• shades of pastel, delicate spring colors, definitely no to all flashy colors - leave red, yellow, purple until next time;
• comfortable shoes so that you can walk a couple of blocks through the city drowning in sunset, leave sneakers and slip-ons for the morning when going to the store, and for a meeting choose elegant shoes with medium heels, just not black, too boring for a date;
• the main rule for creating an image for the first meeting is no vulgarity, a modest appearance is the first step towards subsequent meetings;
• style your hair in the usual way, you can make a light wave, no salons, seeing a powdered girl with a masterpiece on her head, the guy will immediately be frightened by the seriousness of her intentions;
• make-up is as natural as possible, focus on the eyes, use a thin arrow, trendy wide eyebrows, bright lips and orange blush leave for shopping with girlfriends, they will appreciate it;
• You shouldn’t buy new shoes and a luxurious dress, shoes can easily rub bloody blisters, high stiletto heels, especially when walking, are displayed on the face in the expression - when will all this end.

Place

. The initiative on where to meet should come from the companion. This could be a park, attractions, a cafe, a walk in nature, or even an exhibition. If a guy suggests an expensive, pretentious restaurant, it is better to offer another cozy establishment, famous for its amazing coffee and modest bill. It’s not a good idea to gather in a noisy group at the first and second meeting, get to know each other, decide on your likes, and then get closer to friends.

Question 5: Which hairstyle should I choose?

A high ponytail or light “waves” are ideal for winged hair. By the way, psychologists say that long flowing hair drives guys crazy. However, in a survey, the guys admitted that they also like cute women’s ears that are not hidden under their hair.

“I go crazy when I see an unruly strand of hair, slightly out of my hairstyle... I just want to tuck it behind this enchantress’s ear...,” admits Gleb, 29 years old.

However, according to the same opinion poll, the bun hairstyle was the least liked.

“It looked as if the girl was so busy with something that she somehow twisted her hair into a braid and came running to me on a date “in between.” And I invited her to a restaurant...” writes Sergei, 32 years old.

Think also about perfume. The guy will remember “your” scent. It can be a fresh or fruity smell. However, do not use harsh perfumes or cloyingly sweet eau de parfum on your first date with a man. You don’t want him to literally get a headache from you, do you?

Remember, you have a scientifically proven 8 seconds to impress a guy. This is how long it takes for him to realize how attractive you are to him in appearance. So use this time well.

I know what I want6

Men are afraid of strong and purposeful girls. Pure truth.

By the way, the same men we talked about above are afraid of the strong.

Therefore, when you are on a date with an interesting man, do not be afraid to tell him about your goals in life. You don't need to reveal all your cards. Just show him that TV series and manicure are not your only hobbies in life.

You'll have a great topic to talk about. Listen carefully when he talks about his goals. Pay special attention to the point “real actions towards your goals.” Is it even worth trying to please him?

Question 6: What kind of manicure should I get?

Manicure is not given the last place. On a first date, your hands are usually always in the guy's field of vision. You can straighten a lock of hair, you can play with the stem of a glass in a restaurant, accidentally touch your lips, or simply fold your hands on the table, demonstrating the absence of a wedding ring on your ring finger...

One way or another, the guy will definitely look at your hands, and rest assured that he will definitely notice the peeling varnish and sloppily filed nails.

Just imagine for a second how in a cafe you break off a bun with your fingers with peeling nail polish or take a slice of orange...

Extremely sexy and attractive, isn't it? The man will definitely think about this. Be sure to get your nails in order!

If you don’t have time to do a full manicure with colored polish, then at least file your nails and apply a clear base. And put on a beautiful ring. Your fingers should sparkle with something.

Question 7: Pedicure? Yes!

The same can be said about pedicures. If you plan to wear open shoes, perform the appropriate manipulations with your feet. Otherwise, choose closed shoes. By the way, red nail polish on your legs looks very sexy and will forever remain a classic of the genre.

“The scarlet polish on my companion’s legs really turns me on. I immediately imagine how she will squeeze her fingers in ecstasy...” writes Maxim, 27 years old.

Remember, everything about you should be, if not perfect, then certainly attractive: from your hair to the tips of your nails.

Question 8: What to talk about on a date?

In addition to questions about appearance, of course, a lot of others arise. For example, what to talk about with a young man?

Rule 1: no exes

The most important rule of the first date: under no circumstances talk to him about your ex. Don't ask him or tell him about yours. You didn’t come on a date to devote time and thoughts to those who are long gone.

Today, all the time belongs entirely to just the two of you. And no one else. It’s also not worth finding out the level of his salary and the number of rooms in the apartment.

“We corresponded for a couple of days. Then we met. Actually, that's the whole story. She just clarified the amount of money I earn per year four times. In general, out of principle, I treated her to a cappuccino at a street eatery for 50 rubles. That’s where we said goodbye,” said Rasul, 29 years old.

Rule 2: Don't be boring!

You should also avoid boring conversations. Don't whine or complain - this is the lot of weak and insecure people.

Remember, today you are in a good mood, and you are ready to give it to others. Therefore, it is better to show a sense of humor as necessary: ​​this way you will show yourself to be an easy interlocutor.

By the way, you don’t have to listen to your companion’s problems all evening either. Try to take the conversation in a different direction if the guy starts to get boring.

And if he doesn’t get the hint the third time, leave. Most likely, he is depressed and has some psychological problems.

Unless, of course, you are a practicing psychotherapist working on a dissertation on the topic “Existential psychotherapy of depressive reactions.”

Rule 3: talk about it!

If you have previously communicated, for example, on the Internet, then most likely you are already aware of his preferences and hobbies.

Develop topics that interest him. Then the conversation will start on its own. If you haven’t had the opportunity to communicate with this guy before, try to gently and unobtrusively take an interest in his life: where he likes to while away his time, what music he prefers, whether he likes his work and what he dreams about.

You can find out if he knows where the meerkats are hiding, if he knows the latitude and longitude of the epicenter of the Universe, what is better: pizza or cabbage soup with sour cream, and if he wears underpants that match his socks... We joke, we joke

On your first date with a man, just try to have a casual conversation. By the way, if a guy is interested in politics, then look at the news report before going out: suddenly there will be nothing at all to talk about.

Rule #5. Forget about your ex!

“You and my ex are twin brothers” - if all your remarks can be reduced to this phrase, then do not be surprised if the young man does not call again - he will probably understand that you are not yet ready for a new relationship. Don’t say nasty things about your ex—the current gentleman will immediately “try on” the situation for himself. And in general, aren’t there more interesting topics?

Good luck! And don’t forget about the most important rule - don’t build too high castles in the air before your first date, then you won’t be disappointed!

Question 9: Kiss goodbye?

Is it possible to kiss on the first date? Now most of you will be divided into two groups: “you can” and “you can’t”. And each of you will find many arguments for and against.

In fact, there is no single line of behavior here: it is right to act as you feel.

If you really liked the guy, you had positive impressions of the dinner and the evening in general, and the guy turned out to be very attentive and courteous, then the kiss will act as a kind of gratitude, so to speak.

The same applies to a pleasant present (a beautiful bouquet of flowers, a cute toy, etc.) received from a young man. Of course, in a sense, a kiss “dissolves” your “rightness.”

But it’s unlikely that after just one kiss a guy will think that you’re an easy option. Rather, he will be pleased to receive such a sign of attention from you.

And this is a good opportunity for you to evaluate the quality of his kisses.

Question 10: “Cupcake” on the first date: yes or no?

Another thing is sex. If the purpose of your meeting was precisely this option, then there is nothing to discuss. There is either a “yes” or a “no”.

If you were previously acquainted and have long sympathized with each other, this is already a moot point. In this case, it is important to consider how necessary this matter is in essence.

If you are sure that you want this at this very moment, well, it’s your right. But if the meeting is really taking place for the first time, then it is still worth weighing the pros and cons.

Avoid sex on the first date if:

1) you have not previously had any sexual contacts (the first night of love should definitely not take place on the first date with the first person you come across);

2) you are not sure of the young man’s cleanliness (if the guy has an unwashed head and dirty hands, an unpleasant odor emanates from him, or you are inclined to suspect STDs, refrain from sexual intercourse for the sake of your own health);

3) you are under the strong influence of alcohol (if you feel like you’ve had a little too much, try to go home as soon as possible, because in the morning you will probably regret the haste of what you did);

4) you were invited on a date in rented “square meters” and were treated to cheap wine (know your worth and do not humiliate your dignity in this way; it is better to run away from such a date as soon as possible);

5) you are not confident in the non-disclosure of such a relationship to the public (if a man does not inspire confidence in terms of a reliable “keeper of secrets and secrets”, and such a relationship can significantly “tarnish” your reputation - it is better not to take risks and abstain).

6) you noticed sadistic tendencies in a man (can be expressed in excessive rudeness, in strong squeezing of hands or any other parts of the body, accompanied by his intermittent breathing, suspicious questions like “how do you feel about hot wax”, “have you ever caused... intentionally physically hurting yourself,” “do you have a high pain threshold,” etc.; although, if you yourself are a representative of the sadomasochistic sexual minority, then you can safely skip this point).

In fact, many psychologists agree that sex on the first date deprives girls of attractiveness in the eyes of men.

And why all? Yes, because a man by nature is a hunter. As sad as it is to realize, men really lose interest in a woman after sex.

The object is captured, the mission is completed - what else is there to catch? Unless you do something in bed that a man would like to try again. Once again.

The same experts claim that after abstinence, sex becomes especially desirable and enjoyable. With a deeper emotional connection, the sensations become sharper.

A man will definitely take you much more seriously if you refuse intimacy at your first meeting.

Therefore, think about it, is sex on the first date really necessary if what’s at stake is a long-term relationship with the object you like?

How to get a guy to like you on the first date

Wherever the acquaintance occurs, if the outcome is favorable, it should lead to a long-awaited meeting.

Here, too, it is very important to know how to please a guy on the first date . Let's try to figure out what to do for this and how to behave:

• being feminine, speaking culturedly and smiling sweetly are the main female weapons;
• tell us about your interests and hobbies (but not all, but only some);
• listen carefully to everything your interlocutor says. It is quite possible that the topic of sports or technology is not very interesting to you, but if you are really interested in how to please a guy , then still try to show him your interest;
• carefully consider your clothes for the first date, prepare them in advance, without leaving dirty shoes or an unironed blouse for later;
• talk more about your advantages, virtues, victories, achievements and try to remain silent about what you are not good at;
• find common topics for conversation and try to start communication with something that will be familiar to both of you (for example, you may be connected by mutual friends, school, college, hobbies). If you try, you will certainly find a lot in common with each other;
• Before a date, take care not only of your clothes, but also of your appearance itself. Take care of clean facial skin, well-groomed hands, neat nails;
• always go on a date in a good, upbeat mood, leaving bad thoughts for later. When communicating with a guy, smile sweetly, agree with everything that is close and understandable to you, but do not forget about your own point of view.

So that the first meeting goes well and in the future you don’t worry about how to please the guy , you can pluck up courage and hint to him that you wouldn’t mind continuing your communication. If the young man agrees, then you are great and did everything right! Success is on your side!

First date - advice from a psychologist

10 tips from psychologists on how to get a guy to like you on the first date, which will definitely come in handy for you:

“It’s not just how you present yourself that matters. But also how a man appears before you. Pay attention to its appearance. If he is unkempt and sloppy, then perhaps he will treat your relationship the same way.

— If a young man comes with a gift, don’t refuse. You may offend him. You don't know how much time he spent in the store looking for that blue teddy bear because that's your favorite color. Or you've been looking for daisies all over town because they're your favorite flowers.

- Pay attention to how the guy behaves in a cafe and on the street: does he pull up a chair, does he pour some tea, does he offer his hand, does he offer his jacket. Male education is the value that attracts us women so much.

- Be careful about the guy’s answers to your questions: if he avoids a certain topic, then it is better not to insist on its continuation.

- Watch his glances: unconsciously he will show you whether you are interesting to him, or whether something fascinates him more than you.

- If a guy persistently offers you something that is unacceptable or inappropriate for you, do not hesitate to tell him about it. Mutual respect must be present at any stage of the relationship. Especially on the first date.

- Avoid long pauses in conversation and awkward silence. At such moments, you can distract his attention with something happening on the street. Or a news report that you still read before going out.

- If you like a man, you can become his “reflection”. Mirror his movements, respond with a smile - he will definitely like it. At the same time, do not get carried away too much and do not imitate the guy. Unless, of course, you plan to continue dating him.

“Try to look into his eyes more often.” Brave girls fascinate, and there is no doubt about the sincerity of their words.

- Pay attention to how the guy says goodbye to you. If he ordered a taxi for you and saw you home, then most likely your relationship has a future. Although, this may also be a simple indicator of a man’s politeness and good manners. If the guy himself talks about the next meeting, then you can rejoice: he definitely liked you.

Rule #1. No drastic changes

If a young man invited you, it means he already liked you just the way you are now. You shouldn’t strive to “improve” your external parameters before a meeting and change your image - switch from glasses to contact lenses (or vice versa), cut your hair or dye it a different color, or buy shoes with stilettos if you don’t know how to walk in them. Secondly, do not invent a new psychological portrait for yourself (no hasty transformations from a bitch to a smart one and a shy one and back) - this may turn out to be even more dangerous than walking on a drain grate in new heels. They may manage without a split personality, but there will be no energy left for flirting and pleasure from communication at subsequent meetings; they will spend their time trying to maintain their new image and not accidentally say something “typically wrong.” Can you imagine what it would be like if he suddenly fell in love? So you will have to pretend all your life.

Approximately 85% of women and 76% of men consider first impressions to be the most important. The time required for the initial assessment of a counterpart is calculated not in hours, but in minutes - as a rule, 2 minutes are enough to assess the interlocutor.