How to maintain a relationship with your loved one during a difficult period for life

The right methods for all situations

Don’t sacrifice yourself for the sake of your loved one.
There are a number of postulates that help preserve feelings at any stage of a relationship:

Be able to listen . If you sincerely share your thoughts and feelings with your other half, such a union will be long and strong. It is important, in turn, to be able to listen to your partner, no matter how insignificant his experiences may seem.
Be able to trust . Jealousy can be shown in cases where there is significant evidence. You should not control the other half, view correspondence on social networks, messages on the phone, or check numbers entered in the phone book.
Praise . You need to sincerely and timely praise your partner, emphasize the best qualities, and support in case of failures. This will give you strength and motivate you for further progress.
Be faithful . If a person is sure that he has met a worthy couple and wants to maintain a strong family, there is no point in provoking his partner’s jealousy, succumbing to temptations, or wasting time on fleeting flirtations and affairs.
Engage in self-development . A person with whom it is interesting to communicate evokes sympathy, trust, and a desire to be together.

Advice from psychologists and practical recommendations

For guys

How to keep the girl you love?

Develop yourself .
It is very important for girls to have a promising man next to them. And if you don’t change from year to year, then what awaits her in such a relationship? Sooner or later she will become uninteresting in you.
Make her feel like she is a little girl. Allow them to be capricious sometimes, surround them with care and warmth. Make her feel safe around you.
Don't forget about romance. Especially if you have already started living together. Nice surprises, flowers, a sudden trip to a restaurant - all this is really important for girls.
Perform a man's duties. Any girl wants to have a strong partner nearby who will share everyday and financial issues with her and help if necessary.
Discuss your future together. Your chosen one needs to feel confident in the future.
Don't forget about intimate relationships. It is a myth that only men enjoy sex. This is important for girls too.
Show her that you trust her. If you are jealous of every passerby and constantly try to check her correspondence, then sooner or later she will get tired of it.
Look after yourself . Who wants to be around an unkempt and unkempt young man?

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How to maintain a relationship with a girl? Problem solving:

For girls

How to keep the guy you love?

Be versatile. For your boyfriend, you should be cheerful, caring, sympathetic, supportive - depending on the situation.
You must be a friend, a sister, and a beloved woman. You need to be able to feed a man, listen to him, and surround him with care and tenderness.
Take your time. Yes, perhaps your girlfriends and mother constantly remind you that you are getting old and it’s time to get married. And you’ve been dating for a long time, so why wait? But under no circumstances put pressure on your boyfriend, do not make constant hints and do not blackmail. This applies not only to weddings, but also to living together and having children. Don't rush him. The time will come and he will mature. And with your endless hints you can only scare him and destroy the relationship.
Stay interesting . You must have your own hobbies. This usually happens to girls: they start to get hung up on relationships and forget about everything. But if you have your own hobby, your own friends, then you will have something to talk about, and the young man’s interest in you will only be kindled.
Don't forget about appearance. Girls have this too.
You have been together for quite some time and have begun to relax. You've gained a couple of kilograms, periodically you forget to wax, you can afford to appear in front of him with dirty hair or in stained home clothes. Even if you live together, remain a girl: always beautiful and well-groomed.
Maintain shared traditions. Usually in relationships it is the girls who do this. These could be various little things: going to the cinema together on Saturdays, walks in the park once a week, dinner together after work. It is important not to forget about already established rituals and sometimes add new ones.
Be positive. Let's talk honestly. Who would like it if his girlfriend is constantly upset, offended, angry or crying? So try to create an optimistic attitude, stop complaining about life. Smile more often!
Give the man freedom. The guys are very kind to her. So give him the opportunity to manage his own time, let him spend time with friends separately from you, stop controlling every step or movement. Nothing prevents you from guiding him in the right direction, but you need to do this carefully so that he doesn’t notice. Also, don't force your views on the future on him. If you come up with names for your common children at a time when he is not ready for them at all, this will clearly frighten your chosen one.

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For wives

How to keep your husband's love?

Maintain common interests. Was there something connecting you before? What happened now? Have you stopped spending time together because of everyday life? Try to remember what made you closer. And gradually reintroduce it into your life together.
Take care of yourself. If you think that your husband will not escape you and you can relax, then you are mistaken. But this does not mean that you should torture yourself with diets and constantly wear makeup. Just be well-groomed so that you are pleasant to look at.
Do something nice. A small change, a gift or a surprise will cheer you both up and refresh your relationship.
Maintain the comfort of home. Your husband should enjoy coming home after work.
The apartment must be clean and comfortable. And even better if there is a delicious home-cooked dinner waiting for him, prepared with love.
Do household chores together. Sometimes cleaning up, shopping, or cooking dinner together can be very fun and enjoyable. They can even bring you closer.
Be attentive to his relatives and friends. He will definitely appreciate it.
Don't forget about your intimate life. It should not become a routine for you, because sex is very important for a relationship. If you feel like you’re already tired of it, then what’s stopping you from diversifying it?

Reasons for the fading of feelings - don’t give them a chance

In a situation when love begins to fade, and close people become strangers, it is important to understand what became the reason.

The main reasons that can lead to separation of spouses:

Mutual reproaches, claims . Family life is impossible without quarrels. Any offensive word can greatly hurt a partner. A difficult question can be resolved through a calm conversation.
Treason. This reason can destroy the strongest marriage. You can forgive, but you cannot forget betrayal. If the family does not collapse, life together is accompanied by scandals, trust and confidence in your loved one will disappear.
Excessive demands on a partner, selfishness . If one of the spouses thinks only about himself, does not want to show care, or waste energy on another person, then this cannot become the basis for marriage. Such families cannot exist for long and are destroyed.

Most divorces occur because spouses let family life take its course. This is mistake. Keeping a family together requires the daily work of both partners.

how to save a relationship with a loved one on the verge of breaking up

The wind and rain were raging outside. Large drops of rain fell on the dusty road. Rare passers-by hid under shiny black umbrellas, trying to hide from the rain in the entrances of houses as quickly as possible.

The weather seemed to feel and clearly reflect Karina’s mood at the moment. It was also muddy and raining...

Her boyfriend Andrei was sitting in the next room, watching TV and pretending not to notice her. They had a fight again. They were unable to restrain themselves, both were emotional and hot-tempered, and quarrels, as if on purpose, arose out of nowhere.

The relationship between them had long since cooled down; it no longer brought the same joy. Karina “gave up” long ago, because all her efforts to somehow change the situation did not produce any results.

The girl sat down on the bed, leaning her head against the wall, looked around the room with an empty gaze and thought: “Why do I need all this?” Why did everything happen like this? Why do I choose the wrong men? I really want to raise my head and shout to the sky: “Hey, you’re up there! Have you forgotten about me there? I want to be happy too!” And in response - silence.

How to change the situation? How to return that passion, that unity that we had? I really want to hear those kind, beautiful words that we said to each other. Is there a chance to return love? Is there a chance to return old feelings?

The phone call rang so unexpectedly and demandingly that it made Karina flinch. My old friend Marinka called. They were friends since childhood and experienced a lot in their time.

Karina called her friend “lucky”, she was always lucky with guys, all her relationships always developed successfully and harmoniously. Marinka always knew exactly who she wanted to date, how to date, and what kind of guy he would be. How she did it this way, Karina did not know.

Now Marinka was on very good terms with a handsome young man. It was pleasant to look at her, she really glowed. It was clear that the young couple were heading towards a wedding, and Karina was very happy for them.

- Karinka, hello? Why are you so sad? Did you have a fight again? - Yes, there is such a thing. This is probably the end, I’m already tired. - I understand... But don’t be upset. This happens to everyone.

I was talking to my mother yesterday, she told me about her unhappy, mind-blowing love of her youth. There was such a “Santa Barbara”, “to die is not to rise.”

She said that after such a relationship it was possible to get a “myocardial infarction” and if at one time she had not met a “knowledgeable person” (this is what she says about psychologists)(◕‿◕), I don’t know what would have happened to her then.

Her story was like this: She dated a man who was ten years younger than her: young, handsome, stately, and in bed, well, an inseminator.

She was absolutely blown away by him, she fell head over heels in love with him.

The passion between them boiled like a volcano, but a volcano usually doesn’t lead to anything good.

They dated for a long time, probably five or six years, but as they say, “nothing lasts forever under the sun,” her “young suitcase” decided that it was time for him to get married, it was time to look for someone younger and more decent. Well, he can’t marry a woman who is older than him.

So he tells his passion that it’s probably time for us to break up, it’s time for me to start a family.

Maman, my lady, is specific, strong and proud, so she says to him: “It’s easy!” She smiled and went home. She was walking, but she herself had the feeling that everything, the whole world had collapsed, all the colors of the world had become faded and life had become unkind.

She was very worried about the separation then, she lost weight and became haggard. And her ex, he even lived happily ever after, found a young girl for himself, walks around the city like a peacock, glows with a samovar.

And my mother is getting worse and worse, she doesn’t eat anything, she lies flat on the sofa. Her family has already begun to worry about her, and it’s possible to lose a person.

At some point, she herself realized that she couldn’t cope on her own, she needed help. Out of spite, he needs to become happy and beautiful, so much so that he himself later understands what he has lost, you know, as in the proverb “the elbow is close, but you won’t bite it.”

She decided to look on the Internet what people were writing. She might read some articles there, you’ll see and find something that will help ease her pain. After all, she’s not the only one with this situation, people somehow get out of it, and she gets worse.

And then one evening, she came across an article about breaking up, and in this article there was an advertisement where a psychologist invited her to a free consultation.

At that moment, the psychologist was holding some kind of promotion: “Sign up for a consultation!”

-"Promotion? Hmm, what do I have to lose,” my mother said to herself. “We need to sign up.”