This difficult age: how to help children and parents survive adolescence?

“Prickly,” touchy, vulnerable, impudent – ​​it’s all about them, about teenagers. About those who have entered a difficult transitional age. About those who are on the path from childhood to adulthood. About those who find it difficult to understand and accept everything that happens to them.

This article is dedicated to teenagers. In it you will learn what adolescence is, what dangers await children and parents at this stage of growing up, and what mothers and fathers need to do to help their child survive this difficult time.

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Content:

• What you need to know about adolescence? Why is it difficult for children?
• Why is it difficult for parents?

Beginning of adolescence

The first signs of adolescence appear at 9-13 years of age. Exactly when a boy’s physical changes will begin is influenced by genetic, internal and external factors: genetic predisposition, climate, health status, the presence of pathologies in the body, etc. Due to the huge number of factors, it is difficult to find out when the transition period will begin and end in a boy. specific child. One thing is clear: if parents communicate closely with their child and treat him attentively, they will not miss this period.

What you need to know about adolescence?

Psychologists have long noted the trend of “rejuvenation” of adolescence. Children now enter the transition period much earlier than their parents - at 10-11 years old. Also about adolescence up to 18-19 years old, when the child reaches adulthood and is separated from his parents not only psychologically, but also materially and financially.

We all go through transitional periods that can be characterized as follows: baby, child, teenager, young man (girl), adult. At each level of maturation, physiological processes occur. Also, the formation of an emotional field, social adaptation occurs, a system of values ​​and personal principles of the individual is built,

– Oksana Tumadin,

expert psychologist, author of a unique methodology for unlocking personal potential and uniqueness.

Within the boundaries of adolescence, two stages are distinguished: younger adolescence (10-12 years old) and older adolescence (starting from 13 years old until the end of the transition period).

1. In early adolescence, the child already begins to feel his adulthood, his need to communicate with peers increases, and his body prepares for changes.
2. By the age of 13-14, hormonal changes reach their peak. The child becomes irritable, touchy, and his mood often changes.
3. The transition period ends with the child's entry into adulthood. The emotional state of boys and girls stabilizes, and mature, balanced decisions appear. The time is coming for complete separation from the parental family.

It is not known exactly how long your child’s adolescence will last. Because, having matured physically, a teenager may remain psychologically unprepared for an independent organization of his life for a long time.

Why is this period called transition? Because in the development of a child there is a transition from childhood to adulthood. And the main task for a teenager is to realize himself and separate from his parents.

The transition period begins when a hormone begins to be released that activates the pituitary gland and gonads,

– Oksana Tumadin,

expert psychologist.

Adolescence is a challenge for both children and parents.

Now two trends are visible: 1) the tendency of reluctance to grow up early, to start families and children at least until the age of 24-28. With this indicator, responsibility towards one’s life in all areas decreases. Later periods of onset of financial independence lead to semi-dependence on adults. This is where conflicts between parents and children occur. Teenagers, on the one hand, crave independence and show this in all their actions, based on hormonal development, as intended by nature. On the other hand, teenagers unconsciously themselves slow down the transition to adulthood, not wanting to take responsibility.

2) The second trend is the desire to quickly reach your destiny and change the world. There are more and more children like this. They are born already adults and it is very difficult for them to introduce all levels of physiological maturation - they want to grow up faster and, not paying attention to all the teenage outbursts in their character, they go towards their goals in order to get things done. They understand what they want, where they are going and, as a rule, from childhood they are busy thinking and studying the world, far from being like a child,

– Oksana Tumadin,

expert psychologist.

Why is it difficult for children?

• They change externally and internally. And sometimes it is difficult for them to accept these changes and control them.
• They want to be accepted in society and feel important. Instead, they may face ridicule, aggression from peers, or become a victim of bullying.
• They expect understanding from parents and acceptance of all their characteristics. Instead, they face total control, criticism and prohibitions.
• They want autonomy and independence, but cannot get it because they do not yet bear full responsibility for their actions.

To satisfy your child’s need for independence and independence, but continue to take care of his safe movement, install the Where Are My Children application from the AppStore and GooglePlay stores. You will always know where your child is without annoying questions, calls and SMS.

Why is it difficult for parents?

• They don’t know how to behave with older children.
• We are used to being an authority figure for our child.
• Not ready to let go of your son or daughter.

What is puberty?

These are consistent biological and physical changes in the child’s body that lead to the development of secondary sexual characteristics and the possibility of conceiving and having children.
Adult conversation

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Features of the transition period

For girls

What happens to girls during adolescence:

• looking for themselves, their own style, experimenting with appearance and clothing, striving to attract attention;
• interest in boys as objects of the opposite sex appears, the first love arises;
• mood swings often occur: unbridled joy is replaced by deep melancholy;
• increased anxiety appears associated with school performance, answers at the board, relationships with classmates;
• strive to independently resolve problems without the help of adults.

In boys

What happens to boys during adolescence:

• become aggressive, rude, angry due to increased production of the male hormone - testosterone;
• concerned about their appearance
• they strive to amaze others with bold actions and are prone to posing;
• often demonstrate protest behavior: skipping classes, running away from home;
• try alcohol, cigarettes, smoking mixtures;
• strive to belong to the “group”, to be part of it.

Puberty of boys

What refers to the male genital organs? How are they built? What are they for? What happens to boys' bodies during puberty? These and many other questions are asked by teenagers aged 10-15 years. It is during this period that active puberty of the male reproductive system occurs.

First, let's talk about the anatomy and physiology of the genital organs. The male genital organs are divided into external and internal. External organs include the penis and scrotum. The internal ones include the testicles and their appendages, the prostate gland, the vas deferens, the seminal vesicles and other small glands.

The penis is covered with skin. The skin is mobile and hangs over the head of the penis, forming the so-called foreskin. Normally, the foreskin should move back and expose the head of the penis. The condition when the head does not open is called phimosis. With phimosis, there is a high risk of developing various inflammatory diseases, i.e. lubricant, which is produced by glands located on the inner layer of the foreskin, mixes with urine and is a favorable environment for the development of microbes. Phimosis requires surgery to free the head of the penis. The lubricant we were talking about is called smegma. It is a curd-like formation. When left under the foreskin for a long time, smegma decomposes and can cause inflammation of the penis, even in the absence of phimosis.

In order to prevent such a disease, it is necessary to wash off the smegma 1-2 times a day with warm water and soap.

At rest, the size of the penis of an adult man ranges from 5 to 12 cm (usually 7-8 cm). When aroused, the penis enlarges and acquires significant density. This condition is called erection. It plays an important role in sexual intercourse between a man and a woman. According to sexologists, a man is capable of normal sexual life if his erect penis is 4 cm.

The scrotum is the container for the testicles. It is divided by a septum into two halves, each of which contains a testicle. The scrotum maintains a constant body temperature (36.6 degrees), since this is the temperature necessary for the normal formation and maturation of sperm.

An increase or decrease in this temperature adversely affects spermatogenesis. It is very harmful to wear swimming trunks, especially synthetic ones, which create a “greenhouse effect”. Sexologists regard the use of such underwear as voluntary castration of men.

Sometimes (in about 1% of men) the scrotum has only one testicle instead of two, or both testicles are missing. This condition is called cryptorchidism. It requires surgery, the purpose of which is to lower the testicle located in the abdominal cavity. Due to the fact that the body temperature in the abdominal cavity is 1 degree higher than the general body temperature, such temperature effects on the testicle can lead to infertility or testicular cancer.

In the testicles, the formation of male germ cells (spermatozoa) and male sex hormones - androgens occurs, the main of which is testosterone. It affects the puberty of the body and the function of the male reproductive system.

The secretion of other gonads contains substances necessary for the functioning and normal motility of sperm.

So, we got acquainted with the anatomy and physiology of the male genital organs. But what happens in the body of a teenager during puberty?

In boys, there is a clear sequence in which secondary sexual characteristics appear . You should show concern only when your development lags behind the given deadlines by more than 2 years:

• mutation (breaking) of the voice – 12 – 14 years;
• appearance of pubic hair – 12 – 13 years;
• beginning of penis growth – 12 – 13 years;
• appearance of acne – 12 – 15 years;
• first ejaculation (yogarhe) - 13 - 14.5 years;
• hair growth in the armpit - 13 - 15 years;
• facial hair growth – 14 – 14.5 years.

In boys, a clear sign of puberty is the first ejaculation (ejaculation) in any form. For half of teenagers, the first ejaculation in their lives occurs at night, during sleep, which is the reason for waking up with a previously unfamiliar feeling of sexual delight. Others learn about changes in their body only by stains on their underwear or on the bed.

Wet dreams are involuntary ejaculation in males outside the context of sexual intercourse.

Nocturnal emissions are completely normal. They become more frequent when the rhythm of sexual activity or masturbation decreases and disappear completely with intense sexual activity. For a person who is not sexually active and does not masturbate, the frequency of emissions from 1-2 times a week to 1 time in 2-3 months is considered normal. This natural release is a kind of valve that protects human sexuality from mental and physical discomfort during abstinence.

Urologist Ermolenko A.M.

Puberty issues

Puberty (puberty) in adolescents is associated with the active production of sex hormones in both boys and girls. Hormonal changes entail changes in the physique, personality, and behavior of the child.

What is the period of puberty characterized by:

• the appearance of the first menstruation in girls and nocturnal emissions in boys;
• changes in height and weight;
• active work of the sebaceous glands, which often causes acne;
• development of mammary glands and rounding of hips in girls;
• the appearance of hair on the armpits and genitals;
• muscle development in boys;
• increased activity of the sweat glands and, as a result, the appearance of a sharp, unpleasant odor of sweat.

“Storm of hormones” entails such symptoms of adolescence as:

• increased interest in the opposite sex, including erotic interest;
• mood swings;
• worries about appearance;
• aggressiveness, irritability, outbursts of anger.

During this period, it is important for parents to:

• put aside shyness and discuss all issues related to puberty. It is better if mom or dad touches on these “sensitive” topics than if the child is “enlightened” by the Internet;
• Under no circumstances should you shame your son or daughter for their increased interest in sexuality. Many parents are horrified when they catch their son masturbating or their daughter watching a porn film. There is nothing terrible about this. Your child is growing. If earlier he was interested in cars, dolls and Legos, today he is interested in the relationship between a man and a woman;
• Do not ridicule the child’s experiences regarding his appearance. It is better to remind your son or daughter once again that all ugly ducklings someday turn into beautiful swans, you just need to wait a little;
• If a teenager is very worried about acne and excess weight, it is worth visiting an endocrinologist.

How does puberty manifest in a boy?

Although external manifestations appear only by the age of 12-13. Moreover, andrologists believe that the earlier boys begin puberty , the stronger their sexual constitution will be. One amendment: this is true if the child does not have problems with the endocrine system .

• Penis

From the age of 11, boys begin to grow their penis. If at this age its length is 4 cm (at rest), at 14 - 7 cm, then at 18 years - 10 cm. Although these figures absolutely do not indicate any norm. As for the size of “male pride,” there are no standards. Let's say, when erect, an adult penis can be from 5 to 17 cm, and this is normal.

• Testicular enlargement

This occurs at approximately 11-12 years of age. By the age of 12-13, boys begin to develop pubic hair. This process is quite long. And by the age of 15-16, the hair growth takes on a diamond-shaped shape, and by the age of 17-18, the hair begins to gradually move to the inner thighs.

• Voice breaking

At the age of 13-14 years, the unfortunate, but inevitable, “breaking of the voice” (mutation) begins and the formation of the “Adam’s apple” (thyroid cartilage of the larynx). By the age of 17, boys already have a fully formed “male” voice and Adam’s apple.

• Hair growth under the arms

• Facial hair

As for another “male difference” - a beard, it will fully manifest itself at the age of 17-18. In the meantime, 13-14-year-old boys have delicate fluff above their lips, which by the age of 15-16 will turn into a mustache.

• Engorgement of nipples

Another very important point in the process of sexual development of boys is the physiological engorgement of the nipples. And if at the same time the child experiences pain in the nipple area, this is a normal indicator of sexual development.

• Sex cells

And none other than his father should help the boy understand the normality of what is happening. Dad needs to explain to his son that this is how it should be, and there is no need to worry about it.

What dangers await children and parents?

Now let's talk about those things that aggravate a child's adolescence and which parents should pay special attention to:

Bullying at school

A withdrawn and shy child can become an object of bullying, while a cruel and aggressive child can act as a bully. And absolutely all teenagers can act as observers.

The dangers of social networks

Social networks are something that modern children cannot imagine their lives without. But they also carry a certain threat.

A child may face both online bullying and offers to join “death groups” or take part in a game. Recently, an extremely dangerous game called “Run or Die” has become widespread on social networks. Its meaning is as follows: one teenager must cross the road in front of moving traffic, and do it as close as possible, and the second must film this moment on video. After this, the video is posted in the appropriate group, and the participant receives an assessment of his “feat”.

Getting into bad company

Teenagers strive to be involved in the group, to become part of. Therefore, there is a great danger that your child will end up in an “inappropriate” company, where young people commit illegal acts, use alcohol, drugs or smoking mixtures.

Make sure that your child does not associate with bad company and does not harm his health. Install the Where Are My Children application from the AppStore and GooglePlay stores.

Early sexual life

Increased interest in the opposite sex, curiosity and hormonal surges often contribute to early sexual contacts in adolescence.

Replacing the real world with a virtual one

Faced with misunderstanding of parents and lack of friends, the child withdraws more and more into himself. For him, immersion in virtual reality is protection from the outside world. In computer games, a teenager “realizes” himself: he accomplishes “feats,” “earns money,” and becomes successful.

Suicidal thoughts

The appearance of thoughts about death in adolescents is associated with conflicts in the family, bullying at school, first love, and lack of friendly relations with classmates.

Decline in school performance

Against the background of a hormonal surge and restructuring of the body, adolescents often experience a decrease in cognitive abilities and loss of interest in learning. In severe cases, asthenic syndrome may develop - increased fatigue, sleep disturbances, frequent headaches, and autonomic disorders.

Causes of puberty disorders in children

Violation of the sequence of normal sexually mature stages is manifested by pathological acceleration or delay of puberty.

Risk factors for “abnormal” sexual development:

• pathologies of the endocrine system (especially the pituitary gland and/or thyroid gland);
• hormonal disorders, including polycystic ovary syndrome;
• playing sports (extensive physical activity);
• chemotherapy;
• trauma (including birth);
• malnutrition;
• constitutional growth retardation (especially in boys);
• infectious diseases;
• genetic disorders and chromosomal abnormalities;
• diseases: Prader-Willi syndrome, Bardet-Biedl syndrome, prolactinoma, craniopharyngioma, hypogonadism (testicular insufficiency), Reifenstein syndrome, adrenal hyperplasia and others.

How to help your child survive adolescence?

Parents' mistakes in education

As we have already said, it is also not easy for parents to survive the period of growing up of their son or daughter. Therefore, many, often unconsciously, with their phrases or actions break the threads of love and trust that connect them with the child.

What parents of teenagers are not recommended to do:

1. Criticize and prohibit the child’s communication with friends (“I don’t like this Vasya of yours, he studies poorly and dresses sloppily. I don’t want you to be friends with him”).
2. Make fun of your appearance and clothes (“Why did you wear so much makeup for school? You look like a clown”).
3. Excessively control all areas of the child’s life (“Who called you just now? Come on, quickly show me the phone”).
4. Treat like a small child (“It’s too early for you to know about this. When you grow up, then we’ll talk”).
5. Ignore the teenager’s worries (“Why are you crying in the bedroom again? Better go do your homework”).
6. Compare with peers, classmates, children of acquaintances (“But Nastya from your class studies with straight A’s and helps her mother around the house, but you only have boys on your mind”).

How parents should behave during this difficult period

The psychology of a teenager is such that he will defend his opinion in any situation, even if he is wrong. Therefore, try to talk to your child in a calm tone, without breaking into shouting and accusations. Listen to his point of view and together with him find a suitable solution to the conflict.

The position of the parents is important; you need to understand the child as himself during this period. The task is to quietly transform relationships into friendships. Having a heart-to-heart talk as friends is the only true way, and slowly. By speaking honestly about your childhood, you will find a mutual interest in communicating about this period as you transition into adulthood.

The goal is to establish an internal connection, which I think is important for all parents to maintain,

– Oksana Tumadin,

expert psychologist.

• Talk to your child more often about all the changes that are happening to him. Most parents do not do this, leaving the teenager alone with his experiences. Cover the topics of falling in love for the first time, the beginning of sexual activity, the use of alcohol and psychotropic substances. Explain to him that not everything that friends try or recommend trying is safe and will not cause harm.
• Support your child in any endeavors and hobbies (except those that may harm him). Even if they seem stupid and frivolous to you. It is not necessary to separate them, the main thing is to respect the child’s choice.
• Treat your teenager like an adult, even if you don't think of him as one. Give him freedom to make decisions, but let him not forget about responsibility for his actions.
• Move from the “above” to the “beside” position. Become a friend, an older comrade for the child.
• Your child is growing up and moving away from you. Do not try to stop this process with prohibitions and excessive control over his life.
• Pay attention to what your child is doing on social media. You should not read his correspondence - this is a personal matter. But you have every right to know what groups and communities he is in and whether there is danger in them.
• Frequent conflicts with a child in most cases arise due to excessive control and when parents begin to interfere too actively in his life.

In order to get rid of excessive control and stop conflicts with a teenager, give him freedom of movement. And in order not to worry about your child and know where he is when he doesn’t answer the phone, install the Where Are My Children application from the AppStore and GooglePlay stores.

• If all your conversations with your child boil down to discussing grades at school and criticism for the mess in the room and unwashed dishes, you risk losing a trusting relationship with your son or daughter.

• Joint walks, trips, hikes, and heart-to-heart conversations will help establish relationships with a teenager much faster than moralizing conversations.
• Yes, you may not like your child's friends. But criticizing or prohibiting communication with them is not the best way out of the situation. The teenager will perceive this as another attack on his independence and autonomy in choosing friends.

Actions define people. Not words, not thoughts, but actions, and when teenagers make a conclusion about someone, they proceed from the actions of people. They are like scanners that determine whether a person is sincere or fake. Due to their clear vision and keen sense of reality, they conflict with people and resist going where they do not need to go. They resist consciously and you only need to understand your child through observation and conversation, because it is during adolescence that a system of values ​​and principles is built by which he will then live,

– Oksana Tumadin,

expert psychologist.

• If your child’s adolescence is particularly difficult, your son or daughter is increasingly moving away from you, walks around depressed and often cries - be sure to seek help from a psychologist! These may be signs of bullying at school, conflicts with peers, or the appearance of depressive and suicidal thoughts in a teenager.

If a child falls into bad company

• Don't panic. Ask yourself: is this company bad for me or for my child? If a teenager receives respect, recognition and support there, he will strive with all his might to continue to be in this company.
• Get to know your son or daughter's friends better, invite them to visit or go out into nature. Perhaps your opinion about them will change.
• Remember: prohibitions and threats will not help! The child will still communicate with his company, but secretly from you.
• If your worst fears have been confirmed, and your child has indeed become involved with bad company, your main task is to regain a trusting relationship with your son or daughter and try to find out the reason why this company attracts him so much.
• Try to interest your teenager in other exciting things: sports, music, programming.
• If you find out that your child is a member of a religious sect or has contacted a criminal group, do not hesitate at all! Change school, area of ​​residence or city so that the child is not tempted to return to his old “friends”.

Puberty of boys and girls

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Puberty (also puberty or puberty) is the process of changes in the body of a teenager, as a result of which he becomes an adult and capable of procreation.

Puberty is a component of biological maturation. It is associated with the production of sex hormones in the body. In a girl’s puberty, the hormones estrogen, progesterone, FSH, and LH play a decisive role; boy - testosterone. The age at which puberty begins is different for all peers - this is normal. On average, girls' puberty begins 1-2 years earlier than boys, so girls are sometimes taller and older in appearance, but this is temporary, after 1-2 years boys will catch up and surpass them.

Puberty is a stage of ontogenesis (the period of physical development) when an individual achieves the ability to reproduce sexually.

In girls, puberty is characterized by the ability to conceive, bear a fetus, give birth, and raise offspring. In boys - the ability to fertilize.

Puberty usually occurs earlier than the end of the main growth, structural and physiological, development of the body, before the onset of social and civil maturity.

Sex education is an integral part of the process of personality formation, including problems of health, morality, law, culture and ethics.

The goal of sex education is to raise a boy to become a man, and for a girl to grow safely into a happy and successful woman.

The family is the main educator of moral and sexual behavior! The psychological climate in the family should be such that from a very early age the child feels, and the older ones understand, that a good family is the basis for a person’s well-being in life.

Sexual integrity is an absolute legal ban on sexual contacts that applies to persons under 16 years of age and other persons who are unable, due to mental or physical illness, to express their will.

Article 22 of the Constitution of the Russian Federation proclaims: “Everyone has the right to freedom and personal security.”

Sexual integrity is a component of sexual freedom, therefore a violation of sexual integrity always means a violation of sexual freedom.

Crimes against sexual integrity entail a violation of the physical and mental integrity of a person, his health, and life. Criminal legislation punishes sexual crimes against minors especially strictly. A minor victim is an individual who was under 18 years of age at the time of the crime causing harm or threat.

This can protect your children from unforeseen circumstances.

Rules of conduct for children and teenagers in unfamiliar companies:

• A girl’s consent to go to a restaurant (party) is sometimes regarded as an understanding that after the party the girl can continue the meeting in a more intimate setting. Subsequent resistance is perceived simply as a game.
• From the very beginning, it is necessary to define the boundaries of possible relationships. This is the main principle of protection against attacks.
• If an uncomfortable feeling arises, do not be ashamed of your caution. It is necessary to leave or firmly state your attitude to the situation, saying a decisive, unequivocal no.
• Remember that it is more difficult for a drunk person to navigate the situation and prevent violence against himself. Always stay sober with strangers and at a big party. Stay with close friends or close to good acquaintances, do not lose sight of each other and leave together.

Rules of behavior on the street:

• When leaving home, always warn where you are going, where you will be and what time you will return. If you return home late at night, ask to be met.
• On public transport, sit closer to the driver. Do not enter into conversations with unfamiliar passengers, do not tell them where you are going or where you live.
• If you need to walk in the dark, try to walk with people. Cross the street through an underground passage in a group of people.
• If it seems that someone is following you, you must immediately go to a crowded place and contact an adult.
• Get home only by well-known transport (trolleybus, bus, minibus), never stop someone else’s car and don’t get in yourself if they offer you a ride.
• Under no circumstances should you get into a car to show you the way, a store, or a pharmacy; do not comply with any requests from the driver.
• When walking along the road, choose a route so as to meet traffic.
• If a stranger asks you to go with him and call the apartment, because they don’t open it for him, but they open it for you, don’t go!
• Do not go with a stranger if he offers to treat you to candy, see animals, play on the computer, do not take drinks or candy from him.

House Rules:

• Never let a stranger into your apartment. If they ring or knock on the door, don’t come up and ask who came. The parents have the keys and will open the door themselves.
• Under no circumstances open the door to people who introduce themselves as a postman, doctor, policeman, plumber, electrician, or friends of your parents, even if they try to persuade you to do so.
• When leaving the apartment, look through the peephole. If there are people on the landing, wait until they leave.
• Before opening the front door with the key, make sure that no one is nearby.

What actually happens to teenagers - determining the inner age of your child

Oksana Tumadin, expert psychologist, author of a unique method for unlocking personal potential and uniqueness:

To better understand what happens to teenagers, let's look at the internal ages. G. Gurdjieff formulated more than 100 years ago the seven internal levels of man. Many parents will understand their children, help them go through adolescence without stress for both parties and move into a conscious adult world without losing their childish spontaneity. It is this childlike spontaneity in life that gives success, good luck, joy of life, joy from one’s achievements.

Baby

“Baby” is a person who does not want to take responsibility and lives only to satisfy his needs. You've probably all seen older people who demand extra attention to themselves, turning the lives of those around them into hell. This is exactly the level of a baby, which means that a person, having gone through his entire life, has not matured.

Child

The “child” already lives for the family, but lives according to schemes, recommendations, rules - for him everything should be clear and put in order. It is the “Child” who takes care of the adult “Babies”, based on the rules laid down in generations.

Teenager

The “teenager” wants to reach new heights, stand out from the crowd, and experience life. The teenager tries to develop his greatest strengths and abilities. But often he still lacks awareness of ethics and the rules of human communication and relationships, because of this, the ways to achieve his goals are sometimes not environmentally friendly.

Teenagers do not respect authorities. In relationships they can show their superiority. Often adults remain “Teenagers” - this is expressed in the forced submission of others to their rules.

young man

Next comes the “Youth” level. A person begins to think about the meaning of life, often moves away from material dependence in order to learn other values. If the previous levels have been correctly assimilated, then the boy (girl) is aware in all areas of life, understands everything they need to do, where to go and why.

If the previous levels are not completed, then teenagers become lazy and stop doing ordinary tasks in relation to family, work, and school.

Adult

The “adult” connects all the previous levels and knows how to manage them. He is responsible for his life, for his family, relationships, work. Can guide teenagers and young men to go in the right direction.

There is still selfishness in “Adult”, and sometimes it condemns everyone who is irresponsible or does not understand basic things in relation to life.